How do you deal with difficult people who drive you to the point almost of no return, and when they get you all riled up they then revert to mannerisims that are all pleasent, making you look like your'e the one who has the problem...are these people physco or what?.....i really feel people like this get some kind of kick out of behaving like this, what are your views on this?.......
2006-09-27 05:10:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't take the bait. If they see that they're not affecting you, they will eventually move on.
2006-09-27 05:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Demon Doll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called abuse. Especially if it is your husband or boyfriend.
It is emotional abuse and you should not take it. Walk away or get out. Get counseling if you feel like you really need it--that is what it is there for. It helps.
If it is a friend or family member--and they say things like "Wow-you are too sensitive!" Try saying something like "Well, maybe you are too INSENSITIVE!" And then " you know what? I am not going to do this anymore" and then don't! Next time you start feeling yourself getting all riled up, walk away, go for a time out, go into another room, go shopping, or simply decide that the relationship is not worth it.
Remember that no one can take advantage of you-unless you let them. Some people have such low self-esteem that they feel that they have to behave like this (pick on others) just to make themselves feel better, but don't let yourself get caught up in
their head games.
Good luck!
2006-09-27 05:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by KR 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think those kind of people get a kick out of frustrating other people and watching their reactions. There are some sick people in this world.I do my best to ignore them and when I can't I simply ask why they are acting that way toward me. When it's a stranger it's much easier to deal with than if it's a friend. Friends...true friends should be open to discussions with you and listento the truth. Life in general is just tough these days.
2006-09-27 05:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way you do, they get a kick out of it. An old friend of mine was that way towards others. He explained how much fun he had manipulating people, stiring up trouble, and making himself look like the good guy. He is not the only one I know like that, just the only one to admit it! It is hard to deal with those type of people as we encounter them everyday. All I can say is, think before you speak.
2006-09-27 05:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Great question!!!!
About those ones, many philosophers attempted to hit the subject! They belong to the 20% of the population that creates problems to the rest. But only a 2.5% of them are
the real Suppressives! They use covert hostility,i.e. they warm welcome you and then
stub you out as a cigarette...but nothing happened to (for)them!
They are also called sweetness and light. Have you ever met people you couldn't easily identify at first glance ? They were smiley, calm and very "special"? Then deceived you ? That's the boy or girl! They are all over!
Try to recognize them by asking questions about HELP. Help given or wanted, in a smooth way and check their answers. On the spot!!!!
You may contact me, should you need further infos about it! (honestly)!
Ciao......John-John.
2006-09-27 05:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by John-John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welcome! i get this all the time.. this and more.. at first i get very stressed up.. but sooner or later, i will laugh.. coz' it amazes me just how far they can go to make a fool of me.. you know, the effort the take to do it.. i believe this comes natural to some people.. but for some.. they take the time and energy to do.. probably because they dont like u or anything like that.. i get it family members, frens, and most people i know.. the odd thing, however, is that i get it from strangers as well.. and no.. i dont get people stressed up or annoyed unnecessarily.. so, my opinion is that.. look that behind the scenes and try to figure out why they do it.. and then u come up with more creative answers probably why they do that! with practice, u'll be quite impressed with urself.. take it easy..
2006-09-27 05:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by I need a vacation! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Well dear, perhaps you misread their intentions. No doubt they are trying to make a point which you are completely missing."...said with a smile on their face.
People like that usually have low opinions of themselves and after having established a confrontation, manipulate it in order to shed a bad light on you. Usually they start out with what seems to be a stupid statement then while you're trying to work it out, they attack you for not being able to comprehend the gist of what they said.
An old adage...."never argue with stupidity for it will drag you down to its level and beat you with it".
Just avoid them as best as possible.
2006-09-27 05:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I encounter those people by the second on Yahoo! Answers!
2006-09-27 05:17:49 · answer #8 · answered by retorik75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the experience i have had with difficult people is that they like to push and bully their way around people, they lack the social skills needed to be with people and feel liked or respected. they act rude and mean. i do not take it at all, and i stand up to them, tell them their action and behavior is not acceptable and to snap out of it................if they do not like what i say they can leave and get out of my face........they either change their attitude or leave, either way is fine with me..........
2006-09-27 10:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by churchonthewayseniors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... those people are a few turds shy of a shyt load.. those type of people aggravate me like crazy... best bet is to beat their azz or ignore them..
2006-09-27 05:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋