Hi I haven’t seen my sister for 4 years and im a pre-op transgender girl
I started HRT the same time and been living full time as a woman for 2 years,
She dose not know, she is coming to visit me in 2 months and I don know
What to do?
2006-09-27 04:54:40 · 19 answers · asked by jess 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm not sure if this will be of help, but it may lighten your mood. It was the same way with my brother and I. He's kind of a red neck from Alabama while I've lived up north all my life.
Any way I had been in transition for two and returned from a date about one AM with a short denim skirt and peasant blouse on, only to find him sitting in my living room.
What could I do? I said hello sat down across from him and we talked about old times for about two hours, when I finally asked him why he hadn't asked about my clothing. He said he figured I'd tell him soon enough.
So I told him the whole story and my new name. It turned out to be the best week I ever spent with my brother.
I guess I want to tell you that you shouldn't prejudge the situation. People have a way of surprising us some times.
Love and hugs,
Tammi Dee
2006-09-27 05:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to let her know, i dont talk to my sister either not really since i began my transition but she does know and has seen pictures of me. it is a shock since she has only known you as a male. it takes time for family to adjust and if she gets there and see's the change she might get upset. hse deserves a heads up on this so you should either call her or send her an e-mail. something to let her know so the shock isnt so bad. if she loves you she will come to terms in time
family deserves to know these things. its taken my mom, sisters and brother a few years to get use to the idea, my sisters( 2 of the 3) were faster comming around. parents feel like they are loosing a family member and when i saw my mother for the first time since i began transition she told me she had to mour the loss of her son to begin to accept me. we had a good visit but she also had time to adjust to the idea. going into it blind might cause problems for your sister.
good luck im sure all will work out
2006-09-27 12:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by KellyJeanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better tell her! I think it's great that you are comfortable with who you are, but it's been 4 years and if the last time she saw you was when you were a man I think she deserves a little heads up.
2006-09-27 11:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by BAnne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell her before she gets there to avoid the shock. She may struggle with it but will hopefully come around. You have to be honest.
Here is a website that will help both of you. Good luck!
http://www.pflag.org/PFLAG_s_Transgender_Network.tnet.0.html
2006-09-27 11:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to tell her before she comes to see you, you owe her some honestly so the person picking her up at the airport doesn't scare the **** out of her.
2006-09-27 14:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, y'all need to have a heart to heart before she gets there a has a damn heart attack. She's your sister and if she truely loves you she will accept the life you want to live. Good luck honey, let me know how it goes.
2006-09-27 12:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by belle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to give her a head's up before she gets there. It will give her time to adjust before she is face to face with you. Have a good talk with her over the phone.
2006-09-27 11:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by grisgris0905 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be strong and understand that this could go either way. People can surprise you and take it very well but she may leave your life. If she truly loves you then she will understand, but it may take her awhile.
2006-09-27 11:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by the BUNNY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can start be telling her everything since you talked to her last... Then go shopping. Good Luck & God Bless... EFIL
2006-09-27 11:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldd tell her before she comes... but then again you might atleast want to tell her in person.... so maybe you should wait.. i dont know... you know her better than we do... how would she react to it?
2006-09-27 12:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by sexylilles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋