ok here's the deal, i have a boyfriend, and this is my first time having sex with him, and we are very safe with it, i know i know that if i want to be safe the best thing is not doing it. but it happens already, and i love him very much, but my family doesn't really like him. My question is what if i get pregnant? what if i end up with signs of having a baby? i don't want to kill my first baby, i want it so bad.....but i haven't had my period yet, but i'm afirad that i'll end up with a kid and i'm not ready for it....if my mom finds out she will kill me or kick me out, that's the scary part....me and my boyfriend both know that we are not ready for the baby to be here. i'm not saying that i have the baby yet, but what if i have signs of having it? i'm scared. what should i do?
2006-09-27 04:26:02 · 5 answers · asked by trinh 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Visual Arts ➔ Other - Visual Arts
I think you should stop worrying and wait until you are two months late with your period.
If you are, talk to your boyfriend first, then you parents. You will know how he feels and be able to answer the obvious questions your parents will pose to you. which is "does he know? what are his plans? what are your plans...Keep or abort?"
Parents always want the best for their children. They may be disappointed but will stand behind you no matter what. DO NOT not include them. This will hurt them more.
2006-09-27 04:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
. I understand the fear of telling your parents, and of aborting. There are other options. There are many couples that can not have children and would love to be parents. You obviously aren't ready to be a parent, and I would advice you to be brave if you are pregnant, talk to an adult that you can trust and consider adoption. Since I was adopted I thank my birth mother for giving me a chance at life, and not taking the easy way out, (by aborting me.) She showed how much she loved me by giving me life and making sure I had a good life, by giving me up for adoption.
You have to do what is best for the baby,.
2006-10-01 01:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by hess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, little girl !!!! If you're responsible enough to have sex then you should be responsible enough to live with the consequences. If your parents dont like him, there must be a reason, but seems he got in your pants just to show your parents. You say you dont want to kill your first baby, so will you give it up for adoption and then have more sex, get pregnant again and then kill your second one???? You sound like a person who hasnt matured yet, If you were mature, believe me, you wouldnt be in this situation. I would say, stop having sex and come clean to your parents, tell them what happened and then go from there..................
peace.
2006-09-27 11:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look in the phone book under crisis pregnancy centers. Give them a call...they'll give you a pregnancy test and help advise you of the best options for your baby, without pressuring you to abort.
There are plenty of options, but if you aren't mature enough to talk to your parents about the situation, then how can you be mature enough to care for your own child? It's time to be resposnisble and talk to your mom. She will be disappointed that you had sex, and she may be upset with you. But she should know that you are in a situation that could result in pregnancy.
2006-09-27 11:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be responsible.
You and the boyfriend make a plan. It will be scary. Get help where you can...swallow pride, if you must for the child. Get married...yeah you made a mistake but the kid needs a dad...right?
Now, you know ALL the reasons for not having sex!
2006-09-27 11:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋