2006-09-27 03:58:24 · 21 answers · asked by mark steven 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You need to spend some time getting acquainted in the real world, in a no-pressure, no-commitment setting. You also need to get to know her family and her friends (and she needs to meet yours) to understand better what kind of person she is. Finally, you need to understand her financial situation and how she handles money. (Don't just take her word on this!) You need to be absolutely certain that you are both marrying for the right reasons, not out of desperation and not to fulfill some fantasy that the other person ultimately cannot live up to. I would give you this same advice no matter how you had met. It's much too easy to get into a marriage and very messy to get out of one that doesn't work out, so look carefully before you leap.
2006-09-27 04:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your taking a huge risk. What is her credit like? How does she live? Does she spend lots of money? Does she save everything? What are her feelings about having kids? Do you share religious or spiritual beliefs?
This is a more serious decision than an online purchase. You need to watch each other live. Online life gives a small, but incomplete picture. Online, you can carefully control how you are perceived. If you are having a bad week, people online don't see the temper tantrum, or that your house is overflowing with trash and grime. They just see the words.
If you want to take the big splash, just move near her, or she can move to you. Date for several months. See her a few times a week, not every day, so one person isn't totally reliant on the other. Then, if all goes well, pop the question.
By the way, why would you choose a spouse in this manner? It is so much less rewarding than face to face contact. Just a question between you, her, your shink, and God.
2006-09-27 10:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Polymath 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question best answered by yourself. Have you seen her in the real world? Are you compatible? Do you live near each other, or if not, is one of you willing and able to move? Is there a mutual attraction? Meeting someone online is the same as meeting someone at a bar or library or the beach or in the hospital. If you love her and want to spend your life with her then marry her. Where you met is not important as long as you know the person you want to marry.
2006-09-27 04:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met my wife online in a chatroom we both frequented. We became good friends first. Then we met and she moved across country to be with me. A year and half later we were married. We have married for seven and a half years now, and we are as happy today as we were on the day we got married. You should always take time where online relationships are concerned, never rush into anything, but also don't be afraid to take a chance either.
2006-09-27 04:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've never met her in person or you would have stated so, I hope. On-line is like marrying someone behind a curtain. You hear them, they hear you. And with online communication you probably have shared a lot of things in writing that you would not have in person. For some reason, people feel freer to be more intimate behind their computer. This can be good. However, marriage is more than in-depth communication beforehand. You should meet her to see if you click in other ways. What if she snorts when she laughs and you find that really offensive? What if she treats waiters badly? You should try to find out as much about her before committing to something so legally binding. It's quite cheap and easy to get married. It's very expensive, time consuming, and emotionally draining to get un-married.
2006-09-27 04:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by hawkthree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you met her online does not rule her out as a mate. After all, I met My Steve when I was offered to him as his birthday present! Any strange thing can introduce two people who turn out to be compatible.
But of course, you have had a chance to meet in person, get to know each other, and so forth, so on, haven't you? Hopefully some good while ago, so that the personal contact was repeated and sustained, and you have had ample time to conclude that she is not a fake?
Then why not marry her?
2006-09-27 04:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother and sister both originally met their spouses online. They both have pretty good marriages. I don't think its where you meet your spouse that matters, but how compatible you think your personalities and how well you know her before you consider marriage. Have you met her in person and spent some time together? If you haven't I would consider doing that before you marry her. People can sometimes not be exactly truthful about who they are, what they look like, and even sadly how old they are on the internet.
2006-09-27 04:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The internet opens up possiblities for meeting people all over the world easily and conveniently. Some of the people you meet on the internet will be sincere. Others will be playing games or just plain liars.
You must meet someone in person before seriously considering marriage. My wife and I met on the internet so it is possible. Just be cautious.
2006-09-27 04:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by bee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend knew her husband through online chat. Even they had common sharing; they also arranged a few meetings before married. They are still together now. Of course as her friend, I wished them all the best.
2006-09-27 04:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Wenice W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marrying needs a little bit more than online meeting
2006-09-27 04:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ayman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋