well Im 22 and married with 2 kids. my husband has been going out with his bestfriend & taking me for granted I do everything for him, I show him love, and Im tired of it and I feel like leaving him but I dont know how! he has no quality time for his kids & no time for me. if his bestfriend calls right away he would do something for him. Ive asked him if he's cheating, if he's gay, if he's tired of me, and all his answers are no! so what really is it?
2006-09-27 03:32:48 · 14 answers · asked by PRI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you 2 need to talk. It is best to find out now than later. Just get some time alone, and have it out in the open. I hope you can fix it. If not than you can surely someday find someone who will love you and the kids. Good Luck. Feel free to message me if you want to chat. Tell him if he loves you and wants the marriage to work, he has to change.
2006-09-27 03:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by poisonivy4913 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes bored, you two are young and hes tied down he wants some freedom. Thats why you never get married at such a young age your 22 married and you have 2 kids. Most 22 year olds are doing their own thing and arent married or have kids. It is normal for him to want to go out with his best friend. Maybe he doesnt want the responsiblity of having a wife and kids. Just dont divorce him thats the last thing you want to do . What you need to do is talk to him and tell him how your feeling. If you dont talk to him he is going to keep taking you for granted.
2006-09-27 10:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me as though there is no communication between you. Also a case of he is okay doing what he wants to do, and not concerned about your feelings. If you lived close to Dr Phil, I would say email him and get the two of you on the show. He seems to work miracles and does a lot of good work. I live in Cape Town, so nowhere near the great man. Hope it works out, but you should get some councilling. We all deserve to be happy.
2006-09-27 10:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be very Immature!
Sounds like you Both need to sit down and talk to a each other with a mediator present!
This will enable you and Him to talk openly about your concerns and Frustrations!
Young men with Young Wives do tend to clash - and adding Children to the equation does generate more scope for ill-Feeling and resentment to grow!
If you want it too work then Make it Work!
You will know if He is as Committed as You are!
2006-09-27 10:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be tied down. Find yourself a BFF and show him how it feels to left out. Maybe you two have nothing in common and got married because of the kids. Seek counseling to see if this is something you really want to make work but don't stay together because of the kids. Think of yourself!
2006-09-27 10:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by msthanglila 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means your family means more to you than it does him. Some marriages last many miserable years like this and others end and everyone levels off. Tell him either he's going to care about you and the kids or all he'll have is that best friend. And don't feel like you are seperating your children from their father. He did that months ago.
2006-09-27 10:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by murph_ltt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U 2 got some serious issues to sort out. Get him to talk and straighten things out. Just dont make any rash decisions.
goodluck!
2006-09-27 10:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Miss-Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs an escape and so do you most women can't leave because they can not take care of themselves and are codependent, focus on you while he is so distracted... so when your ready to leave you can...
2006-09-27 10:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by mizsinister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be your right he's just taking you for granted! your letting him walk all over you! you gota draw a line in the sand its him or me see what he does
2006-09-27 10:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a man needs to get away sometimes, be patient and don't leave him, don't give him a hard time and he'll be back with more love.
2006-09-27 10:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by SweetCat9651 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋