My husband's best friend kept giving me the "I want to have sex/make out hand shake" (taking his middle finger and tickling the palm of my hand) on Saturday night. I just figured out what it meant. I told my husband and he thinks that he didn't mean anything by it, that he was just goofing around. It bothers me, whether or not it was a joke or not. I find it disrespectful and obnoxious. I'd like to hear others perpective. How should I handle this if it happens again?
2006-09-27 03:29:25 · 27 answers · asked by 10 pts for me? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The guy is a jerk and he needs to know that. Your husband trusts his friend that's why he tries to ignore it. I'm sure if he knew how you felt, he may act differently. Just ignore the guy but more importantly, let him know how obnoxious he is. He may think you like the flirting so he continues to do it. There are ways to communicate your feelings even more effectively that saying it. If he persists you can always slap him into a realization. Girls do that and they have all the right.
2006-09-27 03:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by sleepy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do the handshake to your husband without telling him what you're going to do. Hold it and keep doing it until he responds in some way.
Then tell him that's what his best friend is doing to you on the sly.
It should at that point 'register' to him. If not, then UnionJack's answer probably applies.
Good Luck
2006-09-27 03:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband's best friend making advances?
2014-12-15 23:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell your husband to tell HIS best friend not to do it anymore because it makes you uncomfortable and if it continues then I'd make it plain to him right in front of your husband ..He may not have mean't nothing by it but it bothered you so he should be told by one of you..Your husband should respect your feelings about this and understand that it bothered you and really he should be the one to say something first..
2006-09-27 03:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up in conversation when both he and your husband are present. Say "What was that thing you were doing with the handshake?" His reaction will tell you if he was serious or not, especially with your husband present. You can tell him at that time that you don't appreciate the humor and prefer he doesn't do it again. You must address the issue or he will start doing more and more bad behavior. Good luck!
2006-09-27 03:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by matters 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CREEP-TASTIC
The next time he comes over, and catches you alone, make sure to tell him that if he ever tries to touch you, you are going to cut off a vital part of his anatomy, and that you AREN'T talking about his nose. Look him right in the eyes when you do it until he walks away with his tail between his legs.
If he tells your husband what you said, tell him you were "just joking around" and "didn't mean anything by it." He'll get the idea...
2006-09-27 05:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by RoseRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing by going to your husband first!!! Open, honest relationships are the ones that last!! As for the friend, if he would happen to do it again, pull your hand away as soon as he starts and state very loudly "Please do not do that again, I really don't appreciate it!" He will be totally embarrassed and most likely won't ever try anything like it again with you!!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-09-27 03:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see if it happens again. If it does, limit your time around/near him. And confront the ****** and tell him you don't appreciate his 'advances'.
And if your hubby asks why you don't want to be around his supposed 'best friend', smack your hubby upside the head!
Obviously the guy envies your hubby.
Good luck!
2006-09-27 03:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by Hula girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does it again, call him out on it right then and there.. Say, what does that tickling thing that you are doing to my hand mean... He will then get the picture that you are not interested and it shouldn't happen again.
2006-09-27 03:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by Justice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if it happens again, the guy is wanting you, hopefully your husband will realize it!
2006-09-27 03:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by wonderin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋