i have been married a year have a 3 year old my husband works all day i stay at home with her when he comes in he goes on computer and doesnt want to be bothered with her he pushes her away and ignores her, on weekends he wont even take one hour on sat when hes not doing anything to take herr to play group and play with her, on sundays he goes golfing and wont do anything with his kid, he expects me to do it all. he wont play with her he wont help give her a bath everynow and then he complains if i ask him to dry her off and gte her clothes on, he makes no effort with her and shes starting to misbehave beyond my control because the only way to get his attention is do misbehave and she bites kicks screams and scratches and she thinks she has to do it with me but she gets more attention then i give myself. what can i do i tried asking him, i ttried getting public health involved i ttried getting social services involved and nothin has worked ive even treid talkin to him doesnt work
2006-09-27 03:26:50 · 13 answers · asked by Margaret 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This may not be the answer that your looking for, but if I were in your position I would leave. He needs to be a father to his daughter. She can sense that he doesn't want her. That is why she acts out. Your daughter is the one suffering here. Get her out of this enviroment. If you don't, you will have even MORE problems with her the older she gets. Your husband is a real A S S for not showing his love to her. He doesn't deserve to have children. Leave him so you can save your daughter from future rejection from him. Your her mom, you have to help her from being hurt. Her mental health is at stake here.
2006-09-27 05:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he researching when he goes straight to the computer? And with his lack of involvement, it almost seems like he's just not happy in the marriage and wants no part in it. Does he know the importance of a father/daughter relationship and that his nonchalant attitude could cause further behavioral damage in his daughter's life? You shouldn't have to force him to spend time with his little girl, I would start by writing some kind of contract that says that he will take her to the park on certain days so as not to completely eliminate his golf time. And hopefully he'll begin to do spend more time with your 3 year-old on his own. Also, inform your relatives that on his days to spend quality time, your husband is not to drop your daughter off at their houses and leave.
2006-09-27 10:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay you need to make him realize that anything can happen to her at any second. we cant decide what happends so if dont try to spend time with her now and get some good memories then it can all be gone in a day. and dotn get sad thinking about this because you need to be stong you know that you are there for your daugter and that it mostliky wont happen. but we cant determin anything
2006-09-27 10:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ide do two things and I'm a man , but if i was in your position ide tell him straight do you love your daughter or the computer and golf,and that she needs a mother and a father to bring her up.and that's why she plays up she is seeking attention.secondly i hope you get a lot of answers to your question,why not print of the sensible answers and leave them where he will see them say on his desk in work or somewhere where you know he will see them.good luck.
2006-09-27 10:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how it would feel if he never saw his daughter again let him think about it for a while and than ask him if he would like to spend more time with her because anything can happen and he should enjoy every moment with his kids.
2006-09-27 10:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's clearly obvious that he didn't and doesn't want kids - and now she's there and he's determined to ignore and avoid. Sounds pretty crappy - do you want your child growing up like that? You may have to consider a divorce if it doesn't get any better - your child will have life long affects from this.
2006-09-27 10:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad situation.. Leave the zero.. maybe he will miss her then.. If not.. he isn't worth you or your daughters time. There are other men out there that would love to be a part of your daughters life I am sure.
2006-09-27 10:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is always on the computer send hima e-mail, and tell him thet this is the only way to get his attention, tell him that your are not feeling that he is trying or putting effort on his family,,
2006-09-27 10:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to let ur daughter have a vacation to one of your trusty relatives, so that ur husband will realize how important oyu daughter is for him.. if its not effective, ask forn help, to his mother or father to talk to him.. so he could have more time with your daughter.
2006-09-27 10:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by mku1023 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't have to be any explaining this to him. He should know that he has an obligation in raising his daughter.
2006-09-27 10:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by ...mr2fister... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋