super jelousy during pregnancy?

Question

Okay, my husband recently hired this new girl, cute , young, and beautiful. and here I am pregnant, and losing my perfect body. (unexpected pregnancy)
I cant treat my hair, cant tan, and my body is starting to change.
I am so jelous, I hate it. I am envyous of others bodies, and think he is not attracted to me anymore.
What can I do to change my frame of mind?

Well this will be #4, he is not too excited about it yet, it tooks almost 3 years to sculpt my body just so, and it's quickly going. I practice a well balanced diet, but this is what happens to me when I am preggo. He is not one to put up with nonsense, I know he'll get upset if I tell him. We started dating at an early age, and I was super nutz at 17 w/jelousy issues, clearly I thought I outgrew that. and all of a sudden
it's back.
thank u ladies 4 being so supportive.

Answer 1

Is he excited for the baby? If he is, even a little you have nothing to worry about. Actually he may start annoying you as you think you are this giant blob and he will start seeing you as the mother of his child and more beautiful than anything. To make yourself feel better, think about the outcome. You are going to have this beautiful baby that will make you smile from ear to ear. Trust me on this one, I just had my baby (7 weeks early!) and I can't even begin to tell you how I lived my life before. It's the best thing in life..enjoy it. Take pictures and make a scrapbook, include your husband and tell him what a great dad he is going to be.

Answer 2

Frankly, there may not be anything you can do to change the way you feel. But he did go and hire this young luscious looking thing and who can blame you for being jealous? He does know, in the back of his mind or not; that you have jealousy issues and he hired this woman. I can relate to where you are coming from, my husband is tall, skinny and I think a very handsome man and he does get a lot of looks and compliments from other women when I am not around. The only thing that really makes me trust him is the fact that he didn't have a gf or anything of the sort for more than a year before he and I got together and that is what made me think he would be good for me. Fortunately, he doesn't have the option to go and hire any young thing to do his bidding. And sinse you can't approach and speak with him about it, I would say to have a sweet chat with her and find out if she may think that your husband would be an easy target. Try to be very discreet and not so forward about the issue and try not to make it seem like you are trying to get information out of her. Just be like if you were hanging out with your friends and you see a fine guy walk by so you happen to mention the way his booty looks in those pants or theway he moves his hips when he walks. ; ) Know what I mean?

Answer 3

Sounds like there might be other issues here but as far as being pregnant and not looking good. Have you seen the runway moms? They model and everyone loves it. You don't have to dye your hair although you could use a vegetable based dye But you can keep your hair looking nice and healthy. I know my hair grew like weed during my pregnancies. You may even find that your husband is more excited by your body changes, hey at least your boobs will be bigger. If you take care of yourself and remind yourself it will eventually come to an end you'll get over your jealousy. Remember you're going to have a beautiful new life and that's a true blessing. Another thing you might try it just being really honest with your husband and tell him you need to hear from him that he still finds you attractive. Good luck and enjoy that new baby.

Answer 4

I am preggo myself and I am the same way, maybe not quite as jealous but I know how you are feeling. My husband went off to a car show a couple of weeks ago with some friends, and a few days later pics of his showtruck showed up on the internet with pics of a bikini clad chick on his truck. I was so pissed. And it made me feel bad because my body isnt bikini material right now. But its just hormones. You have to learn to control em and your husband has to learn to be considerate of em. I have been pretty emotional during this pregnancy(my 1st), and it doesnt take much to get my water works going. It's all normal, but it will pass.

Answer 5

I felt the same way when I found my bf looking at theose smut pics , you know like he juz thought I was fat and ugly now that I'm preggo.(scuse the slang if it bugz ya) but we talked and he said I was juz as beautiful as when he first met me , and that he can't wait to see me bigger and that I will still be gorgeous ( I'm little over 3 months). So don't take it out on yourself! you don't know how he feels. YOur jelousy is normal I'm felling the same way when I see those llittle things and I think "I was that small". And you always wonder if you'll get your body back. But don't stress (its not good for you or the baby) youll always be beautiful , no matter what happens , and your husband loves you so it doesn't matter what others think.
--- few tips though : lotion , lotion , lotion for you skin to help stretch marks!
--- you can color your hair (thats just a myth) as long as your in a well ventalated area.
--- breastfeeding helps you get you body back!!!!
--- tanning is juz bad for you anyway
---if it gets too bad and you feel depressed get support , and go see your doc
good luck hun!!

Answer 6

Realize that pregnant bodies are freaking amazing.

What can those skinny assed perfect girls give to the world? sex? yeah, thats about it.

What can your husband give the world? the ability to lift heavy things.

You can create life from a single donated cell, give birth to something living, and your body can provide it with EVERYTHING it needs to survive in this world.

That body of yours is a badge of honor, proof of your selflessness and desire to provide for your unborn perfect child.

I know how you feel though. Iam six months, lost my waist, have a basketball on my front, cant tan, cant get rid of this acne, cant jog... i feel like a cow, and all the cutest fall clothes are out.

But, the cutest fall clothes will be out next year, and so will I, with my perfect baby, and post baby killer body.

You need to be proud of your shape. You create life. That skinny girl working for your husband probably cant even pay her own bills, let alone nuture a child.

You should also sit down and talk with your husband about your insecurities, tell him you cant help it, its hormonal, and you do feel aweful and ugly and that you need him to convince you that you're beautiful.

Gie him some hot oil and turn the lights off. Men love curves, old and new, no matter where they are. Let him go nuts with that oil.

Answer 7

Just think that you will look like that again and I promise you it is worth it at the end!!! A baby is a gift from God and is the most precious thing in your life!!! Your hormones are probably raging but you just need to think about the future and how awesome it will be to share this baby with your husband. A part of you and a part of him!!!

Answer 8

i began getting migraines a 300 and sixty 5 days or 2 in the past. They used to ensue close to my sessions, i'm assuming simply by fact of hormonal differences. I hadn't had one for various months, have been given one final Sunday, observed my era replace right into some days previous due, and have been given a great being pregnant try. I used to take a script for them that helped plenty, yet needless to say, being pregnant, that's a no-no. i've got had 2 greater migraines on account that that one, and greater power tylenol has helped me plenty. You suggested tylenol would not help you, and which you're popping them like tic tacs- be careful with that! despite the fact that that's being pregnant-secure and a extremely secure drug, too plenty is quite no longer hassle-free on your liver, and different organs. you certainly could desire to make an appointment with your wellness care provider. that's suitable to make effective no longer something severe is inflicting the issues, and just to work out what your remedies are. interior the interim... issues that have helped me with my migraines- laying down in a funky, dark room with a chilly %. on my head and neck; chamomile or green tea; and for some reason, laying style of face down with pillows under my chest and abdomen so as that my head sorta hangs down somewhat seems to help. Do you get any indications and indications with your issues? Mine are continuously preceded by skill of seen disturbances; you recognize how once you seem at marvelous lights and then seem away, there are those spots on your imaginative and prescient? i'm getting that with no need to look at marvelous lights. I additionally get somewhat agitated and extremely disoriented until now the discomfort starts off. in case you get indications and indications, try taking the tylenol on the 1st signs and indications, appearing some deep respiratory (in by your nostril, blow out by your mouth), and eating some ice water- those have all helped preclude mine from getting extremely undesirable.

Answer 9

Hi don't feel jealous of any other woman don't you know pregnant woman are very beautiful i know you may not think so now but theres plenty of men that will tell you your giving him the ultimate miracle a life cheer up and good luck

Answer 10

I was the same way during my pregnancy..and still alittle like that alittle. and just to let you know you can color treat your hair... you just need to go to a professional and tell them that your pregnant and they will use the best one for you. And If your husband is that anal about the way you look he's just married to you because of it...not because of your heart...it hsould matter what you look like on the outside expecally when your pregnant with his child!