still i don't feel anything special about the intercourse, i do not enjoy it at all... it is not painful though... i just feel nothing!
i am 25, and i am eager to have a healthy sexual life!!
any recommendations? what should i do...
2006-09-27 02:30:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start with letting him put his legs between your thighs. Coach him. Tell him what feels good and what you could live without him doing. Then return the favor to him. Then get on top. Try all different kinds of speeds, rhythms, and strokes while you are up there. Something is going to feel good and if it doesn't you may need to discuss your lack of feeling with your gyno at your next visit.
I had been sexually active for 5 years before I met my current husband and had never had an orgasm until he did what I described to you.
2006-09-27 02:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him these things. If you read my questions you will see that I had the same problem yesterday (kinda)! My husband just wasn't giving me "my turn"
Sit down and have a talk with you husband...tell him how you feel, let him get mad, then leave him to think about it. My husband got mad when I told him he wasn't pleasing me and then I wen and got in the shower... when I got out he said he was sorry and that i shouldnt have to ask for these things. And we had the most AMAZING sex last night!
So my point is... tell your husband what you want from him...every little detail and he SHOULD give you what you want!
TRY NEW THINGS.... maybe yall should go to a little sex shop and get some stuff (like motion lotion, licking things in a flavor you each like)
Good Luck!
2006-09-27 03:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by NaVy WiFeY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this is going to sound silly, but go to the bookstore and get "The Joys of Sex" and any other books that look interesting or are recommended.
Sex is something that you need to be open and honest about. Most young men think in and out till they get theirs is good sex.
Regardless of gender, you have to communicate your needs and desires when it comes to sex. What is wrong with saying, "that feels good" or "slow down" or "do that more gently"???
Men need to learn about foreplay, about building a woman's excitement. In the sexual "race" a good man always finishes last.
2006-09-27 02:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 4 years, and i am only 23. Sex was never that great for me. You were just married. You probably have a lot on your mind. That will make you not enjoy sex. Rent a porno with your hubbie. It really works! Sounds stupid, but we've done it and had a lot of fun.
2006-09-27 02:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by jesse s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first married at 20 and had absolutely no experience with sex. I felt nothing at first either. It wasn't until 12 years of marriage that I discovered what I liked. You have to experiment and let him do the same. I hope you don't have to wait as long as I did.
2006-09-27 02:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were both virgins or inexperienced when you married, get some books and tapes.
If you've never masturbated, you need to try it, to see what feels good to you.
sorry to be so blunt, but that's the plain truth.
the best thing is, you can keep working on it with him. have fun and don't get all "hung up" on an orgasm.
most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, not just penetration.
read all you can.
2006-09-27 03:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your mental ability. Build the event up in your mind all day. Maybe call and tease him a bit. When the time comes you'll be ready. Just wait til your thirtys sweetie!!!oh yeah!
2006-09-27 02:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by smile4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out what feels good and help your hubby to touch you in that way. Sex means more in a marriage to the man than it does to the woman so you need to enjoy it more or be prepared for heartbreak in the future when hubby leaves you for someone who does like it better.
2006-09-27 03:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Experiment with different positions and lots of foreplay. Find out what really makes you feel good.
2006-09-27 02:32:22 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-27 06:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by talk s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋