I have recently been talking to someone i meet thru internet, he is single and im married. We talk and text each other all time, and we have just clicked, we have talked about meeting (he lives 400 miles away). We get on reallly well and i dont want to spoil things. should we leave things as they are or meet?
2006-09-27 02:25:06 · 30 answers · asked by Bryony Moon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
O.M.G. !
I don't believe you asked..........
2006-09-27 05:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by iain xx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can really answer this question, but if you want other peoples opinions, then here you go. First of all if your marriage is in that much trouble then you need to decide if you really want someone else, or if you want to try to work things out with your husband because once you do something, it can't be undone. It seems like you don't know this person enough to really decide whether or not you could have a relationship with him. If you think you might like to get to know him better, tell your husband you're interested in someone else so he can decide what he wants to do.
If you do decide that you want to meet this other person you should be smart about it. Meet him somewhere public and make sure someone knows where you're going and what you're doing. Don't leave with him and don't let yourself get into any situation you can't get out of easily because if you haven't learned this already, alot of people are not who they say they are online, or even who they seem to be in person.
2006-09-27 09:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple Answer: It would be wise and in your best interest not to meet him. You're risking alot.
But, on the other hand. What works for one person, may not work for alot of others, to each their own. Seriously though, before you make a decision, think it through very well and know what consequences could come from your actions. If you already have done this and feel you could handle the possible outcomes, then do it. Hope you make a wise decision that works out best for you.
2006-09-27 11:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Leave things as they are. You are MARRIED, even if your intentions are 'harmless' problems could arise. I don't think your husband would appriciate his wife going to meet a stranger she met on the internet. Just think about it in the opposite way, would you like it if your husband met a woman online that he clicked with and just descided to go meet her? Even if you say "No I don't care, I trust him" You will care, and be anxious, its part of human nature. Plus this guy could be a serial killer or a rapist! Remember this is the INTERNET, you can't really trust anyone. So I say keep it as a internet friendship, nothing more.
2006-09-27 09:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No all you are doing is meeting up with the fantasy you first made up when you got to know him. I'm sure you know his favourite film, book, food and so on. But I doubt you know whether he is bad tempered, controlling or even a rapist. Plus you're married. If you plan on being friends that is alright in some sense because he could still turn out to be nasty. Pick up your newspaper and see how many abductions, rape, murders have happened because of meeting over the Internet.
2006-09-27 09:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to this is to consider how you would feel if it was your husband who was doing the chatting, texting and planning to meet ... It isn't really about spoiling things between you and this Internet guy but between you and the guy who promised to love and cherish until death do you part - or however it was worded at your wedding.
Just enjoy the on-line fantasy and keep reality separate!
2006-09-27 10:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and absolutely not!! As you mentioned youre married - isnt that kinda a good reason to deter you from meeting this guy?
You shouldnt even be texting him - dedicate the same attention on your husband and you'll be doing well
2006-09-27 10:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in romantisimn or honeymood mode.You may also be in love. I am not here to judge you on this. However, before you make any decisions, you have to talk to hubby and decide whether you 2 have a future togetherl.
Do not get sucked into a relationship, where you have not met the person face to face....Bad Move...
Good Luck with your future.
2006-09-27 09:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by kanga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not meet. Right now it's more the intrigue and you are playing with fire. It's okay to be friends with people on the Internet but your spouse needs to know what is going on. Perhaps you should redirect the relationship and concentrate on your family. Seriously - do not meet your friend.
2006-09-27 09:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took marriage vows...remain faithful to them..
400 Miles away is a long way away if you even hit it off...
Work on your marriage...and leave the online internet thing to the singles....
good luck
2006-09-27 10:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by Babsygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave things they way they are... Just talking to someone on the internet...is like reading the back cover of a book.... you get an outline of the best parts... then once you dive in it could be a whole new story....
2006-09-27 09:26:02 · answer #11 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋