He's with someone else but I know that....he probably want me as his back-up chic...I deserve SO much More....plz help
2006-09-27 02:17:40 · 9 answers · asked by Lovely B 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
its a powerful feeling to let go of a love one
and to see them again brings back these feelings
but if you still have feelings for him
you can continue with your relationship
so long as all your cards are on the table
if your used to him
you can continue being lovers
and still be friends and know that you are in the process of moving on
but as friends,
as freinds you are still close enough for intimate relations
i know this is hard to understand but
it can ease the uncormfortable feeling of letting go cold turkey
and you both can ease away slowly over time
with less pain and more comfort
with the great feeling of establishing a wonderful and fantastic freindship
this has happened to me many times
and still freinds are my lifetime freinds
i can talk to them when ever im in hard times!!
making love to the one your letting go gives you a sense of continuity and security!!
2006-09-27 03:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by alamoblue2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll never find the "right person" while you're holding onto or pining over the "wrong person."
It may sound silly right now, but one day you will look back and ask yourself, "WHAT was the matter with me...?!!! What was I thinking for being with THAT loser?!!!"
You will realize that when one door (relationship) closes, another is waiting to be opened. YOU didn't "lose" him... HE lost YOU! Have you ever considered that all you have to do is keep your pride and dignity and make a success of yourself and you'll attract someone FAR BETTER than the crumb you lost?
You KNOW you deserve better (and more)... why settle for crumbs, then? DON'T get into the habit of letting yourself be used over and over again... is that all your worth, being someone's sperm bank? Is that the reputation you want? Who's going to want you with that kind of reputation?
Don't let ANYONE drag you down, or you'll spend your life in the gutter! Pick yourself up and be proud and maintain your dignity. Consider it a lesson well learned. Being used will only make you hate that person when you finally open your eyes (or he infects you with some communicable disease he contracted elsewhere!).
2006-09-27 10:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children together then you will always be tied to him so quite worring! If he has no interest to that idea, then there are others out their that will show you more love and attention than youve known then if he tries to come running back to you honey it will be too late. Sometimes it is possible to remain friends, but distantly so. I dont know how long you have known him, but that also plays a part. I was with a man this same way, after about one year we were able to talk and stayed freinds. It was not easy.I had known him for 40 yrs. I believe that regardless you should attempt to go on with your life it is too short to wait around since he is already involved with someone else.
2006-09-27 09:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Carolyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should know yourself more. try to ask yourself if you like this or not. And if you don't, there will be like thousand ways on how to do it. think of ways how you can make yourself more busy and in no time you will get over him completely. it may be difficult at first but there will be no other way than to engage yourself on different activities like hanging out with friends..this way, he will also think that you can live without him and at the same time it will end but in a nice way that you wouldn't feel guilty. well, i think if you hate losing people then you have to start accepting the fact that you can never keep people for yourself unless you treat them as "THINGS" that can be kept for good and NOT HUMAN BEINGS. you can ask yourself this question.."would you like to be kept and used only when they need you?" sometimes, it is much much better to ask ourselves first and think three times when deciding on things. Go on life slowly but surely.
2006-09-27 09:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by mgeoi19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe that you deserve much more out of a relationship and then give yourself permission to have it. Staying with this guy is only saying I deserve to be treated badly and I deserve to be someones good time girl. delete his number out of your phone delete his e-mail delete him out of your life then keep yourself busy with friends and family to stop thinking about him. You will not find the right guy for you if you keep letting this guy take away your time and attention.Do you want to be a good time girl or another guys love
2006-09-27 09:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same place. my ex says he still has feelings for me and honestly i have feelings for him too! and these feeling wont go away even tho we were through september 3rd!
idk what to do.
but u deserve way better than that man!
im just about positive that u are a beautiful woman and u dont need a man to tell u that u are pretty! so think about that b4 u let ur ex back into ur life
2006-09-27 09:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Vicki Lee*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the answer, do you want to be someones back,you do deserve much better
2006-09-27 09:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and live for yourself and your children...
They are your priority not a guy that is a good piece of Azz
:o)
Jerry
2006-09-27 09:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh ... I don't understand the question.
2006-09-27 09:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋