do men finally see they have a good woman once she's put up with a lot of crap, been patient with them for a while, then decides to leave once she sees things are one-sided and is finally tired and burned out. In other words do men cut the bull crap (even if they don't tell her) and see she was really good to him?
2006-09-27 02:03:51 · 23 answers · asked by Kisses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we realize it when shes just about had enough of us
2006-09-27 02:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
No, it will still be your fault in their eyes cause they "did everything and she was still just a *****".
If a man is not brought up to appreciate women from babyhood on by his mother (yes mom, you are responsible) then the only thing that gets through to them is doing without.
The problem is that there are plenty of other woman ready to jump in and "do a better job of loving him" than you did.
Leave, don't look back and don't wait for him to wake up and realize that you were the best thing that ever happened to him. It'll never happen.
However, the good news is that there are plenty of men out there that would be grateful and appreciative of your devotion. They are not all jerks, you just have to be more selective and actually get to know them before you get involved.
Men aren't good at lying, he was probably a jerk before you got involved and you didn't pay attention to the signals or you thought it wouldn't matter. We do that as women, we ALL do it.
Good luck and good hunting.
2006-09-27 02:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say yes in my situation. My husband, before he was my husband, broke up with me four times in a 2 year period. We kept trying to make it work but he kept doing me wrong. He was scared of committment basically. We would be together for awhile and then he'd break up with me. He broke my heart over and over. But I loved him so much that I kept coming back hoping each time he would realize what he had. Finally the last breakup (the 4th time) I had enough. I was tired of giving 100% and getting back 25%. I was tired of being hurt by him. I did so much for him and I told myself I wasn't going back. Well I started seeing someone else and he found out. I hadn't done this the other times. I would just wait around for him to want me to come back again. Anyway, he freaked out. He called and wanted to come to my house and talk and I said no. I stood my ground. Then we ended up talking again. Next thing I know he's got me at his house and he's got a ring and he proposed to me! The man that couldn't realize he had a good thing woke up! The man that was so scared to committ was ready. He said that he realized that this last time I wasn't going to came back and he didn't want to loose me. He cried! This macho, hard man cried! So I guess the fear of not having me and me not coming back made him realize that I was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with! We are happily married today and all the crap I put up with in the beginning was worth what I gained!
2006-09-27 02:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men (and women) are very selfish. It's always about them in a relationship. These people never miss their water until their well runs dry, if you know what that saying means. However, hindsight is 20/20. The see after wards what they should have saw long ago. Sometimes its a hard lesson to learn.
2006-09-27 02:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by greenejl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
unfortunatly us as women usually think oh if i do this or that and forgive him for ( whatever thing) hell see i love him ..and what we are realy doing is showing them we dont respect our selves and so they arnt gonna respect us either ..you seee its a chain thing the more we put up with the less they respect us and do it more ..and then yea once we are gone they are like oooopppss but even if you go back they still will not respect you and you would have probably lost so much respect and love for him that eventually you start not to care what the hell he does..
then you have a cold relationship ( yea you might fight less ) but thats cuz you stopped caring and sayin anything ,not because he stopped or changed!!
i have alot of experience with this type of **** and its not good
so with my hubby now the first and littlest thing i was like uuu uh i dont think so i am a good woman dammit and to prove i am i dont need to accept no bullshit but show you i am not gonna put up with anything!!!! so he respects me and loves me more than i have ever felt love and that makes me love and respect him more too its a very intense love when there is respect !! very important!! keep your foot down like we would with a kid..once you give in they now know you give in !!! be strong and respect your self and have pride if a man isnt givin you the respect and love you want to give then its not even ya know !!
take care and i went blabbing again hahah padierma@yahoo.com
2006-09-27 02:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They usually decide to do so after the woman has left and moved on with her life....My question is why do women put up with so much crap? If the relationship isn't equal then they don't need to be there and they can find better if they truely want it.
2006-09-27 02:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
if men appricated women a lot of bad things will stop frm happening .
1) there will defnitl be less affairs which will mean less divorces
2) if men appriciated women a lot of psycologist will be out of business cause women will not need there help since men will know how to take care of their women
3) all the abuse centers will have less women cause if men appricited women they will never hurt them or hit them and they would be happy
i can go on and on. the truth is men dont know how to appriciate a good woman no matter how good the men may be. their minds r not meant to do it
we spoil our boys by pampering them and they accpect the same from their wives. its consided to be their 'duty'(hahah)
best of luck
2006-09-27 02:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by in ur face 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Never they are always going to be right and every loving gesture of support will eventualy come back to bite you in the yoou know where. Men complain every day yet they stay with crazy and mistreat the one who would cross oncoming traffic to pick them up there favorite snack justto see them smile. screw em as I see it if I ever try the old shanghai surprise again this time I will be aloof and hard to deal with all the time.
2006-09-27 02:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think alot of men realize they had a good thing when it's gone & they have hurt the woman so much there is just no way she is going back & hopefully the woman has moved on to someone who appreciates her - hopefully the man has learned his lesson for future relationships, but i don't think that is always the case.
2006-09-27 02:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A good woman needs to demand appreciation and stop martyring herself out. And a good woman must NEVER wait for a man to realize, he is not the only man you will find...move forward.
2006-09-27 02:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not always I was married to an abusive chauvanistic man for many years...im adorable and sexy and he couldnt handle that and just freakin complained for so long 28 yrs and I finally fell for someone else...some men are more mature...im remarried..
2006-09-27 02:13:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋