i love my husband of 6 yrs very much but I am not sexually attracted to him at all anymore...its not that i have thoughts about anyone else...i just dont feel that spark and i dont like to kiss him that much and that was always my favorite part....should i just try to work it out or is it too late...i dont want to tell him about it.,,i cannot hurt him hes too good to me
2006-09-27 01:41:46 · 16 answers · asked by icecreamheadache420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to admit you've become a bore.
2006-09-27 01:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like the beginning of the end? Only you know this. Figure it out fast, its not fair to him. What was the spark to begin with and can you resort back to that. Have you both got into such a routine that you are just too tired or bored to be excited when together. Find what both made you melt together or find something new that can stimulate your company together. At least you can say you tried. Otherwise it results in two people ending up miserable at some point. Good Luck:)
2006-09-27 08:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by deceit29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not unusual but how you handle it can make or break your marriage. If he loves you and is a good husband and you love him then you can make it work if you want to. I wouldn't come right out and say I'm not attracted to you but I would talk to him and maybe explore some new avenues in the bedroom. Maybe some roll playing or maybe a liitle more romance is all you need. They say getting "in the mood" starts for a woman from the time she wakes up till she goes to bed. Meaning if he wakes up grumpy then you won't be in the mood later because you are still remembering him being grumpy. Thats the old "you catch more flies with honey" If he is a good husband I would explore all options before giving up. The grass is not greener believe me you may give up the best thing to get nothing in return!!!
2006-09-27 08:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unforetunely we all go thru phases in our marriage, but you don't end things, you work on the problem and fix it. Divorce happens to easy in the world. You need to learn to look at your husband as the man you was so attracted to and the reason for which you married him. Why would you get rid of a good man, then someone else will have him and you'll end up with nothing but regret? You aren't attracted to him, because you don't want to be at the moment! Look for the things you saw in him when you first met him, I'm sure they are still there, you just need to open your eyes. The phase will pass, if you allow it. Good Luck, and give your husband a chance before using to harsh of judgement.
2006-09-27 08:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not everything...of course you should try to work it out. Especially if he's a good respectable man who treats you right. I do think you need to talk to him about this though. Don't tell him you're not sexually attracted to him, but say that your sex drive has dramatically increased and that you would like to know if he would be interested in doing something different to spice up your sex life. As far as deciding what things you can do, well I guess that depends on what your into. Give it some thought and talk it over with your husband. Maybe he has some fantasy to share with you or can come up with some ideas of his own.
2006-09-27 08:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called a hump when soldiers are marching like 25 miles they call it humping it. Thats because at one point you go numb and just keep moving your feet you can no longer feel the pack just the road under your feet yo get the point well every marriage gets to the humping it stage you are just a little numb right now it will come and go the most important thing to remember is when you made that vow for better or for worse numbness is not yet worse so hang on it will all come back around in a while don't kiss him right now if you don't want to you'll be back to normal soon enough.
2006-09-27 08:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All aspects of a marriage take continuous work and effort. My guess is you have let the responsibilities of a home, jobs, bills, and children if there are any wear you down.
You have another responsibility, that is to each other. When is the last time you took a weekend out for just the two of you? It doesn't have to be an expensive one. It has to be time for just the two of you to enjoy the things you used to do when you were dating.
Compare it to a campfire, if you don't feed the fire, it will eventually die down to smouldering ashes. Grab your husband and go chop wood.
2006-09-27 08:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your infatuation period with your husband lasted 6 years then you are one lucky girl. We all go through phases like that and most of the time the problem isn't the man, it is some other stressor in our lives. I firmly believe that you should hang in there and just continue being yourself. Remind yourself that you chose this man for a reason and remember all of those reasons. Sometimes it even helps to write them down. Marriage isn't just about sexual attractions. There is so much more involved that it seems silly to throw it away if you do love the man and he is good to you.
2006-09-27 08:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by A.R. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you have come to the point where you see him more as a friend than as a mate. remember what attracted you to him in first place. sometimes when you are stuck in a routine at home you begin to feel unsatisfied and you begin to question everything.
spice up your relationship. try new things. go out on a date. go away for a weekend and do activities together. remember why you fell in love with this man. sounds like you still love this man and respect him.
If all else fails talk to him and see what he thinks about this. Communication is key.
2006-09-27 08:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you do dont tell him bacause his not going to take that out of his mind,, you dont have to feel bad it's not your fault You should talk to him ,tell him that you want more excitment,and I think is realy importan to kiss a partner,To me a kiss means allot to me,, maybe he should also try toput more effort,,,, try to make the first move maybe he gets a clue,,, take your husband to a date,, some times marrage life becomes boring because every day you do the same thing,,,, ask your selve do you love him or are you just use to being with him?
2006-09-27 08:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is more than just sparks flying all the time. If you expect it to be 100% exiting and lovey-dovey at all times, you're living in a fairy tale.
2006-09-27 08:46:34 · answer #11 · answered by francesfarmer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋