sometimes i cannot stand to be in the same room looking at him...i know that sounds awful because he treats me and the kids soooo well. Its confusing because i know i love him. Please Help
2006-09-27 01:21:00 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow you guys have given some really good advice...lol at the one with the PMS comment that could be it too!
2006-09-27 01:34:16 · update #1
The responsibilities of children and an adoring husband leaves little room for personal space. You are overwhelmed and need a breather. When you are able to get some regular "ME" time ; you will be more amenable to affection.
Also, make sure you take precautions not to get with child too soon. It may be a sub-conscious fear of getting preggies again too soon.
2006-09-27 05:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should contact your doctor. You could be suffering from depression (I know because I do ) or you could have a physical illness causing you to not feel like being intimate. Also having the stress of being a wife, mother (and I will assume) an employee can cause you to feel this way. Do you have any ME time? By this I mean time just for yourself an hour perhaps just to relax,write in a journal,read what ever. In either case there is help and hope. I do hope that this helps you and that you find relief.
2006-09-27 01:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by nana_viki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've probably become to used to him being good to you. You need to somehow get him to take a break without taking an actual break if you see what I mean. You don't want to sound ungrateful, you just need to learn to appreciate him a bit more again. Try and encourage him to go away on a blokes weekend or something. this may give you a bit of space to yourself and if that doesn't work, maybe it needs a bit more time. I wouldn't just suggest a break from the relationship as this would be hard on all involved especially the children. Good luck.
2006-09-27 01:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is a part of you that is fighting against being totally in in love and under his masculine domain,if he treats you well your response is to be to his touch ,because honey there are a lot of competition out there and to find a man that takes care of his house is very hard to find these days,sincere hard working men deserve all that we as women can give ,since marriage is losing ground to divorces and and common law couples,not to mention lovers that hover around hard working men,it is all right to give in to the touch of the man that treats you right,you may even enjoy yourself
2006-09-27 01:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest looking to God for the answer. It sounds like you are drifting away from your husband which is definitely not what God wants to happen. If you and your husband grow toward God, you will also be growing together. Whatever you do, don't entertain thoughts of being with another man!
2006-09-27 01:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's too good,that's the problem.From the almost 41 years of experience I have in life I've learned that women almost always take good guys for granted & end up leaving them for some abusive piece of trash.Do him a favor & do it now,don't waste half his life like the piece of trash I married did.
2006-09-27 01:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Troy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'n not married and i don't plan to be anytime soon but i live with my parents, and they act the same way to each other too. but when you think about it, you know that you love him...and thats all that matters...if he has been your only man or if he's been your longest relationship maybe its because you want to know what its like to be with another guy, but if you love your husband why should you let that bother you us women have our mood swings every now and then as long as you don't act upon it you'll be alright.
2006-09-27 01:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you loud & Clear!!
My husband and I figured out that, I only felt up to sex one week a month. two weeks I pms before my period and can't stand my husband to touch me, then have period, where he don't want to touch me for one week, then my good week, where he has to get it while the gettings good!!
Make sure you do make up for it when you do get the urge!!
Sexual Desire does decrease when your older too!!
Just talk to him about how you feel, and tell him that it has nothing to do with him!! Ask him to be patient with you, when you feel that way!
Women are like a puzzle; but we can't even solve our own!!
2006-09-27 01:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad to know I'm not the only one. I've been married 6 years, and feel the same. We haven't had sex since my daughter (3 yrs old) was concieved.
2006-09-27 01:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Quartz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have a hormone imbalance or need treatment for depression. You should talk to both your husband and doctor about this. Best wishes
2006-09-27 01:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by sm2f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋