Please diagnose: does this person have antisocial personality disorder?

Question

please diagnose this person. I suspect he has antisocial personality disorder as classified by the DSM-IV, but he doesn't seem irritable or hostile to me, though he claims to beat people up.
his quirks:
he is always late, if he shows up at all
he is always wanting something from me
he never reciprocates a kindness, like buying me a coffee back
he always says how handsome he is and believes it
he has a mona lisa smile and his eyes look "blank" sometimes
he tries to appear educated by using big words
he is secretive about everything
he lies to his brother in front of me
he lies to me, though he doesn't know I know!
he picks his nose and farts in public and doesn't care
he has lots of big plans, but never does any of them
he talks loudly and cuts people off without letting them finish
he is very charismatic
he doesn't appear to have a job
he bodybuilds and is almost fanatical about diet
he doesn't say thank you
he forgets all the things you have done for him, like buying dinner

forgot to add: he has a criminal record too

Answer 1

Well, an "official" personality disorder is a condition that makes it hard for the person to actually function in life.

So you can have some of the traits, but just not as extreme as the real disorder.

Without knowing more, I would diagnose him more as "narcissistic" disorder if anything.

Anti-social is where someone does not empathize whatsoever with others and can be psychopathic in nature -- i.e., often violent and/or uses others without guilt. (i.e., the mob, street gangs, etc.)

Narcissists are much more like what you are describing (almost verbatim):

They see their own lives as a big drama in which they are the star, minimizing the contributions of others and maximizing how wonderful they are.

They often have grandiose ideas that they never implement, they constantly use others for their own benefit, try to impress everyone and look perfect, smart, strong, accomplished, etc. All their interactions feel "fake" as if they are trying to manipulate you. They lie constantly, to avoid any negative truths about themselves and to accentuate the good things about themselves.

In other words, their lives are very much self-centered, a delusion of grandeur where they are the 'star' of the show and can do no wrong compared with others.

They don't go out of their way to hurt you, but if they can use you for their benefit, or if you try to challenge their delusions, they CAN become caustic and aggressive. The illusion must be maintained at all costs.

It is hard to tell where immaturity ends and "disorder" begins. This person might not be clinically narcissistic, but he needs to grow up. Usually this does not happen until he is backed into a corner and can no longer believe his own lies -- and this is very hard to do.

The only way to deal with him is to challenge him but not fight with him -- i.e., when he lies, challenge the statement without anger if you think it needs to be done, but if he argues about it, don't waste your time arguing. Don't retract your comment, but don't enter the argument.

Otherwise, just nod and then ignore him. See him truthfully, act accordingly, and share what you see with him when appropriate or if he asks. Otherwise, you need to let him sink his own ship; he will not benefit from advice or help until he really wants it.

Answer 2

That person has big attitude problem, though that person seems to have some signs of anti-social personality, I really can't say if that person have anti-social personality only MD can do the diagnosis. Anti-social people usually don't have remorse on the wrongs they did, they don't follow rules/law, they always break rules/law, they abuse others, they have reckless and aggressive behavior, irresponsible, manipulative and usually these people have criminal records.

Answer 3

I'm no expert, perhaps he has got DSM-IV, but he just sounds like a bit of a a hole to be honest. And self centred. It depends how well you've known him. Has he had a diffcult past? When he does things that you feel to be anti social, perhaps you could point it out to him, maybe he isn't aware of his actions!

Answer 4

I think that you also must have some sort of "disorder" for wishing to be in the company of this person at all.

Ditch !

"he talks loudly and cuts people off without letting them finish" :
- I bet he is American then ?

Answer 5

He is anti-social but has so many different problems it becomes hard to sum it all up in some disorder. If he doesn't show you the slightest sign of politeness and kindness to you, what are you doing with him anyway?

Answer 6

This person needs help now and fast ,a very messed up person I dont even have a clue what you would call his problem ,he has so many ,if I was you I would get away from him .

Answer 7

he might have some anti-social traits in him, but he also is narcissistic and rude, bossy and a bully. he is also very low in self esteem and feels he is not good enough.....

Answer 8

Sounds autistic to me.