i tried telling him before and he didnt beleive me! Either im due for an acadamy award or he is that pigheaded to believe hes that good.
2006-09-27 01:14:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
lol @ jenniferL i dont know ..im embarrassed now lol
2006-09-27 01:36:22 · update #1
Is it fair to him to fake? More importantly, you aren't being fair to yourself! Stop faking and play show and tell with him instead -- letting him know what would please you and help you achieve genuine orgasms. I wouldn't have a big discussion with him and insist that you faked in the past. Just move on and focus on making things better for the future. Maybe start by taking a bath together, have a glass of wine, and then take turn giving each other massages with a nice smelling massage oil. Touching other erogenous zones often gets overlooked in favor of focusing on genital contact. That is a huge mistake. Relax and enjoy some foreplay!
2006-09-27 01:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think communication is VERY important in a relationship!
And my faking orgasms, u are basically faking the whole relationship...because u are no being 100% completely honest!
Sit down with him and tell him u need to have a serious conversation with him!
Tell him that you have been faking orgasms only because you didnt want to hurt his feeling , but now you realised that it would be better for you to be honest!
Then discuss the reasons WHY u are not having orgasms...and maybe discuss things that could make it more exciting for you
2006-09-27 08:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, your cheating yourself. A lot of women have trouble reaching orgasm through penetration. There are other ways to orgasm, and different positions to help you reach mind blowing orgasms! This doesn't mean you will have them every time you have sex, but you increase the chance that you will.
So yes, I would tell him you really do have trouble reaching orgasm during sex, and you felt bad and didn't want to tell him. Then say you want to work on that so you don't have to waste your energy faking, when you could be having real ones! Woo hoo!
2006-09-27 08:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.... If you can have one, or more, more power to the women that can. But for the rest of us.... Perhaps you should talk and tell him that you are not receiving and it really isnt fair.
There are a lot of reference books or videos, (that are not porn) on how to get a woman to orgasm, and statistics show that men have about 20 orgasms to a womans 1.
2006-09-27 08:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by jackie48083 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not so much about your husband as about you. Who wants to engage in sex if there's no fireworks at the end? Get yourself a toy if you must that will give you what you need. For the record, he hasn't failed you, you failed you. If he has no idea you aren't "with the program" how can he have done better? Now, for once, be selfish and let's get that job done.
2006-09-27 08:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by MillwoodsGal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP IT RIGHT NOW! Don't ever do that again! You have perpetuated the problem by doing this! He will soon figure out you are telling the truth. But in the mean time, don't be afraid to tell him what you want and need to be satisfied, and do it in a gentle way.
2006-09-27 08:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have him watch you play with yourself and have him see what a real orgasm looks like, so he can tell the difference between a fake one and a real one so he can understand better. Heck, have him put his fingers in you while you are 'double clicking your mouse' so he can feel the contractions inside of you while you have the "Big O".
Just a suggestion. :)
2006-09-27 08:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who is being unfaired to is You, u have to go thru all that hell of escalating ur panting n finally sigh so hard when u could just lie there n read a mag
2006-09-27 08:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell him. And if he thinks hes that good its your fault. Maybe try positions that could help you orgasm. Like you being on top, if you can get enough stimulation to your clitoris you shouldnt have a problem. Or if hes on top, missionary style, try raising your hips, again so your clitoris can receive stimulation. You shouldnt tel him, but you should stop faking it. Maybe when he sees that you arent getting pleasure he will work harder at it.
2006-09-27 08:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell him b/c it would make him feel inadequate and possibly put a strain on your marriage. I would get a Karma Sutra book and show him what you would like to try. It'll be fun for both of you's!!
2006-09-27 08:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋