It's NOT always as simple as divorce, so honestly, do you make yourself numb and stop trying to figure out if he is lying? Can you stop caring if he's lying?
Please don't answer with get out of the relationship. I already know that option. What else is there? Thanks.
2006-09-27 01:06:00 · 5 answers · asked by a b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK.... If I understand you correctly it's alright that your life partner (the one person you can trust the most for love and devotion) lies to you and maybe cheats.
I think it's great that you're willing to give up your happiness for someone that has no respect for you. How wonderful.
So you want to spend the next 50 years in either misery or numbness. I say do both!!!!!!!
You can even allow him to beat you if you think so little of yourself. Maybe your children can grow up just like him (based on what they see). Worse they can grow up just like you and accept abuse (yes.... lies are abusive).
I must admit that you see leaving as an option. It's not an option. It's what people with self respect and the need to be loved do.
I suggest counseling first..... and if that doesn't work (in short order);
Please really think it over. You deserve much better.
2006-09-27 01:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is based on trust ,don't dwell on it so much, maybe your looking for something to be wrong just leave it alone if she's cheating on you believe me it will come out on it's own.you don't want to live out your married life not being able to trust the other person,you will drive your self crazy.maybe think about seeing a marriage counselor and explain to them whats going on and why you feel the way you do.your right divorce isn't always the remedy there are a number of ways you can fix the problem.a marriage counselor can help or a priest also just your local church pastor.good luck i hope i have been some help to you. pete
2006-09-27 01:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by THE SHADOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to ask yourself is he/she worth all of the worrying? if you cant see yourself without this person in your life and you both love each other than you should be able to sit he/she down and tell them that if they really love you then yall need to meet in the middle, that a relationship is supposed to be about trust and teamwork. just tell he/she that you dont feel like they are giving you that and you need to ask he/she what yall can do or talk about that to come to an understanding on how you want your realtionship to work, good luck and god bless
2006-09-27 01:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you have to have trust. so if you guys are having problems then i would say go get help if you guys wanted and needed. second tell her how you feel and try to make it work. good luck. but there alway has to have trust to make a marriage work.
2006-09-27 01:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling, preferably with your husband, but at least yourself.
2006-09-27 01:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋