Traditionally, the woman's parents have the responsibility for paying for the wedding. What kind of crap is that? Thankfully, most weddings today; are split between the couple and/or the parents. But, what is up with that tradition? I've heard some men spout that they pay for everything else, why should they pay for the wedding? Well, if you claim you pay for everything else then why SHOULDN'T you pay for it? Sure, it's tradition, but that's a screwy one, in my opinion. I repeat...OPINION, but what do you all think?
2006-09-27 00:48:41 · 19 answers · asked by Bailey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do have to agree with a lot of you. It really shouldn't be on the burden of either parents, but the couple themselves. Both of them. Thanks for all your input!
2006-09-27 00:59:16 · update #1
First of all, I personally think that both family's share in the ex-pence, but if they would have to choose between one or the other........ then I think it should be the mans family, because with all the sacrifices the women is expected to make..... um / child birth, love honer and OBEY!. Lol why shouldn't the mans family spring for it . Me personally, we paid for our own wedding, we didn't even involve our family to worry about the ex-pence, and ultimately, I think that best.
2006-09-27 01:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding tradition is all antiquated anyhow. The white dress is a symbol of virginity, and women who have been living with their boyfriends think nothing of wearing one at their weddings. Historically women were perceived as bringing financial burden to the husbands' families because they were not income producers (this is all part of screwed up patriarchal culture), and not only did the bride's family have to pay for an elaborate wedding, but they also had to pay a DOWRY -- money just GIVEN to the groom's family in exchange for taking her on! This is still done in places like India. Personally I hate weddings and I would be happy if I never have to go to another one for the rest of my life. The biggest joke is when rich families spend a ton of money on weddings and then the couple splits up in a year or two - how pathetic. My nephew is getting married next year, and I've already told him I'd rather invite him and his fiance over for a nice dinner and drinks and skip the wedding if he doesn't mind. I think the COOLEST and MOST ROMANTIC thing to do for people who want to get married is to ELOPE!!! Just disappear, unannounced, go someplace beautiful and romantic, get married in private, intimate ceremony, and seal your love without all the hoop-lah. Who needs all that crap? I think most of it is fantasy-chasing put in women's heads from the time they're little girls being told Cinderella stories.
2006-09-27 08:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by uncle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think weddings and the amount of money people spend on them are stupid!! It's not the parents responsibility to pay for a stupid wedding. People already start marriages in debt why add to that with an elaborate wedding? People should use that money towards a house or something useful.
2006-09-27 08:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's my personal opinion that the responsibility to pay for the wedding should be on the couple. That would stop all of the exceedingly grossly obnoxious weddings that cost 10s of thousands of dollars. Also, if the couple can't afford a party, and really, that's what a wedding reception is, then they probably can't afford to be married and have a grown up responsible life yet.
2006-09-27 07:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back in the day (which was a wednesday, if you didnt know) the father decided who his daughter married so it was his responsibility to take care of everything. i think big weddings are retarded anyway, my sister in law just had a huge wedding spent thousands, been married for 5 months and now they are trying to have it annulled. My wife and i did the courthouse thing saved money and we couldnt be happier together. weddings are just to commercial its just a way to try to impress other people and has nothing to do with your relationship. so why do you need to waste all that money on one day. 50 years from now it doesnt matter how much you spent on the flowers or how many layers were on the wedding cake just that you were both there together and are still happy with each other
2006-09-27 07:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That tradition started when women would marry and stay at home while their husbands worked. The women's parents would pay for the wedding and the groom would pay for the wife afterwards. Today, both husband and wife work outside of the home, so it is polite to offer to pay half. Good luck with your wedding.
2006-09-27 12:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Q. Why does they bride pay for the wedding?
A. Because the groom pays for it the rest of his life!
OK, seriously... when my wife and I got married, we paid for stuff, her parents paid and mine did as well. I think the tradition's pretty much gone out the window these days.
2006-09-27 07:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today, does nt matter whoever pays!
Thats why they spilt bet'n the two.
All other critics will last only for 5 or 6 monts after the wedding!
Its actually the life after that which matters.
2006-09-27 07:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by kummu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it should be against the law for couples to go into debt over their weddings. Let them save for the big day, if they absolutely have to have it. Charging it to already maxed out credit cards, that then puts them in bankruptcy court in less than a year, is just plain ridiculous.
2006-09-27 07:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It comes from when the father of the bride had to pay the groom a dowery, but like you said not many people stick to this tradition any more so why worry
2006-09-27 07:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋