He has a job but does absolutely nothing but drink beer and lay around watching tv when not there.
My mom tries to relate to him and converse with him but he doesnt respond.
But she keeps banging her head against the same wall over and over and guess who gets to hear about it?
He gives me dirty looks every time he sees me.
He calls my mom names whenever she tries to get him to help out with something
He caused us to have to move into a cheaper smaller place by lying about how much money he was making and not transfering to a job that paid more (because he had the option) at the same time my mom got fired from her job.
My mom is convinced that we need him to help pay the rent because she has a poor job but has not gone through with any attempts to find a better one.
I work a poor job too and am taking a class to get a better one. How do I finally get rid of him when I get that job? He is on the lease until May and I am on the lease too. Does that give me any rights? Out Deadbeat!
2006-09-27 00:47:46 · 18 answers · asked by thorkitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
IF ANY ONE CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS IS YOUR MOM
2006-09-27 00:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy did this sound like what I was doing but my boyfriend did not work Look your mother has got to face the fact's that it is not going to get better before she knows it she will have nothing at all and why have a man around if he can not RESPECT her kid's! Were is your Mother self RESPECT she does not need this she needs to try and get another job and help her self talk to the Landlord and tell them what is going on she or he may ask this person to leave or do what I did and get a eviction going
it is a 5 day notice to quite call your police dep.
2006-09-27 01:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The option that you have is to move out when you obligation to your lease is finished. As far as getting rid of him don't you think that is your Mothers job? If you choose not to want to live with him that is your choice but she is a big girl and must make her own decisions. I am sure if the shoe was on the other foot and this was your husband you would very serously resent your mother asking this same question!
2006-09-27 01:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is drunk and is unable to sense anything do some nasty things you can do to him.. such as but not limited to throwing him out of the house. Slap him, step on him, put some pepper on his beer, etc., you can actually invent anything.
This may sound nasty but here in our part of the globe (Southeast Asia - though not all) some women put blood from their menstruation into their drunkard man's coffee. It is believed that this makes the man tame and follows every whim of the woman.. Now if you really want to get back to him... be nicer to him... then make some coffee for him once in a while so that when your period comes, it would be easier for you to place some fragments (remnants from washed underwears) from your monthly period into his coffee. (lol)
But this is no joke...though not all asian women resort to this,,, (this is quite absurd and unsanitary) only a fragment does it here in our part of the globe but not a so secluded town.
Now when you get that good job, convince your mom to move out with you and you need to live together as mother and daughter and forget that drunkard bastard..
Tell your mom she can find other good men out there if she will not hurry about her love life... which is not very necessary in the first place considering that she has you.
And if the sexual desires sets in,,, she can actually use some of those many toys out there that she can use privately without the benefit of a drunkard man.
2006-09-27 01:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea how the lease thing really works.. but talk to your Mom, tell her how you feel and how this man is not only ruining the relationship between you and her but also ruining everyone's life. Tell her you want a new & better life for you and your mom. If he budged and threaten, call the police. You don't need this in your life.. don't make your life difficult than it already are!
Talk to your manager abt the lease & your situation, hopefully you'll get to his/her goood book and he/she will help you out!
2006-09-27 00:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by shuddupfirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything, only your mom can. What you can do though, is to sit down with your mom, and have a heart to heart talk with her, and tell her that you may have to move out because you cannot handle seeing her abused this way, nor can you guys afford to lose your place of residence. Just offer your mom love and support, sounds like she needs it.
2006-09-27 00:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry to say this but no matter what you do if your mom doesn't get him out you are fighting a loosing battle. You may want to consider moving out on your own if you are old enough. It's mom's that has to take that step.
2006-09-27 01:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you have same rights as him,just see realestata and tell them you want to move and transfer your share of bond and make up the difference,im sure if you talk to the realestate and let them know your situation and what you want they will be very understanding and most likely help you out....keep your head up and keep strong,things will work out ,make sure of that ,just focus on what you need and you will get there...and if you need to chat feel free to do so
2006-09-27 01:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by waveboy7675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consult a lawyer about your situation. im sure if you can prove that u pay rent and he doesnt and u want him out that something can be worked out.cause he just sounds like a free loading bum.otherwise pack up youre things and move to a place of youre own.guys like that really make me sick,im really sorry about your situation. in wich country do you live?
2006-09-27 00:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by the one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that is between your mother and her man to decide whether they want to stay together or not. if u don't like smth - u know where the door is and u might use it. as a parent myself i would shut my children immediately for critisizing my man in any way. so i don't understand why your mother let u do that. stay out of adults' decisions, take care of your own life
2006-09-27 00:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a minor, you can lift the burden off your shoulders and tell a school counselor or go to children's services and tell them, especially if he is doing more than what you said.
If you're not a minor, you can just move and pray your mother wises up.
2006-09-27 01:15:10 · answer #11 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋