2006-09-27 00:33:33 · 17 answers · asked by katrina_ponti 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
In order to live well together, the couple really have to be truly in love, and able to do exactly the same things together they will be doing as a married couple.
Apart from any religious or moral distinctions according to one's beliefs, there is really only one difference between cohabitation and marriage -- there is no civil contract.
You share the same dwelling, the same bed, and everything you will share as a married couple.
Now, as to whether or not it "bodes well?"
It only bodes as well as the relationship which begat it.
If their love is real then no problem.
If not, well...
It's really as simple as that.
Love.
That's all that matters.
2006-09-27 13:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bender 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think all people should have to live at least in the same house before getting married. This way you could see what kind of slob you are getting, and if you can put up with their ways and they can put up with yours. If All people did this, there would be a lot less divorces, because there would be a lot less marriages. Would you buy a car without trying it out? I don't mean sexually either, for all those with a dirty mind. I mean try out living in the same house to see if they can do it without killing each other. Many people are quick to get married and find out it just doesn't work after a few months. One must know what one is getting in to or it won't work!! Have fun.
2006-09-27 00:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. In many cases(maybe not equal to marriage)that arrangement has worked better. I guess it comes down to the 2 that want to shack up. If they are both unsure of their feelings are the other person and they need an isurance policy(being able to walk when they feel like it)then shacking up over marriage is probably best. People say to go into a marriage with a prenup is somewhat stating you feel the marriage wil not last or the love will fade. On the flip side, going without the marriage can be said the same. That there is not enough love there to commit to the other for life, and that is the reason why the couple do not want to marry.
More than just a "piece of paper", a marriage is a declaration to everyone that she is mine and visa verse. It lets all others know, you have been taken. Do not approach. Like a shingle in front of the house with a big "SOLD" on it. That finality scares the heck out of a lot of people. They will make comparison like you have to have a test drive. If you did your ground work while dating and was completely transparent with open communication, you will know what you are getting into. And if you are mature enough in the mind, you know that what snags may come, you and your spouse can sit down and come to a middle agreement. One of the biggest purchase a person makes is a home. You chose the neighborhood, find the house. Walk throught it and if it looks good buy it(if you can). How many people lease a house in the neighborhood for years 1st or even the house they want to buy BEFORE they move in? I can not think of any. You get it, you move in, and you enjoy. And if things come up, so long as it was not the product of deception, you fix it.
If you went to buy a car the saleman put the keys in your hand and told you to go drive it and use it like you owned it, you would. If he checked back with you after a few weeks and said if you truly think this is the car for you, then send in the money. I can bet my dollars to anyones donuts, 98.5% of the people would never send in any money. They will just use the car like they owned it never buying it. Many people without the certainty or maturity to stick with something they decided on want to have a de facto marriage but with conditions. They are thinking of a ME situation, and not an US situation. They want to be clear to go if things get too bad FOR THEM, not have the willingness to work on a solution for the BOTH of them. And bring in children and property should an untimely death happen and there is no will(as with many)things can get very, very, very messy.
It can work. But as one poster stated, keep it brief. It is like a debt. Go into debt when you have no other option but get out as soon as possible. Enter a shacking up situation but finalize it quick. Otherwise you wil be driving a car that you feel you owe but you never do, because you never really paid for it.
2006-09-29 10:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My parents didn't live together mariage and now they are divorced. My dad lived with a woman for 10 years na dnow they are happily married.
Living together makes you know your partner much better, including the annoying habits and perhaps dark secrets. ;)
2006-09-27 00:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes because you get to meet the real person and share the mundane parts of life
2006-09-27 00:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No--especially if there are children involved. Research shows that children living in cohabiting households are likely to experience family breakup. Children in cohabiting households are likely to have emotional and behavioral problems. Children in cohabiting households experience greater educational difficulties. Children in cohabiting households are more likely to be economically disadvantaged.
2006-09-27 01:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by bwlobo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Short and sweet. Yes! Even my Grandma told me to live with my husband first.
2006-09-27 20:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by Cali Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my wife for a year and a half before marriage, kind of a free trial, if you will. You know, you need to take the Ferarri for a spin before you buy it. You need to know about the cow before you buy it(she agrees with these statements, I am not being a male pig here!!). Her parents are deeply religious and were a bit dissapointed but they got over it quickly. It's your life it is your decision!
2006-09-27 00:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by rswdew 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
If the two of u agree on it although Marrage is a piece of Paper. Acording to the way I see it in the BIBLE if u sleep with a woman she has become your wife anyway. How about that.
2006-09-27 00:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by sarge 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Whatever knocks you out. Marriage is just a piece of paper
2006-09-27 00:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋