did i do something right or wrong?

Question

I have stayed with my hubby for 2yrs but of recent he has changed he started coming home late drunk when i ask him where he has been he tells me with his friends while he is away he does not want me to call him on his cell phone.
I serve him food but he refuses to eat so i finally decided to follow him and find out what exactly he does at nite i found him in the bar with acertain gal i walked away followed me & started conving me that it was his friend's galbut i wasn't conviced that same nite the gal called i picked up the phone so she refused to talk to me so after s i decided not to cook i went to dance he looked for me until he found me he asked if i had prepared food at home told him that i hadn't cooked coz he doesn't want to eat at home went back home and i proceed to club.
After the dance i went back he opened for me and i slept but he has never blamed me or said anything and we are in good terms. my be he relaesed he was in the wrong?

Answer 1

Playing games within a relationship is never right... if your intentions were just to go out and enjoy yourself, then I would agree that everything worked out for the best. But if you wanted to make him jealous or "give him a taste of his own medicine"; the result doesn't always end up on a positive note.

Answer 2

It's pretty hard to undrstand your question. Did it happen real recently? If so, yeah he realizes he was in the wrong, but he's just sitting back trying to figure out what to do next. What are u supposed to be blamed for? Not cooking dinner or catching him red-handed? The other girl maybe didn't know about you , and tole him adios. who knows, but just because you two are on good terms now, doesn't mean a thing. Why let him hold all the cards. Get out of the relationship. He don't give a crap about you. He's a hellacious ***.

Answer 3

Marriage is not a toy fiddle but a serious commitment. Why don't you have a heart to heart talk with your husband without raising voices or yelling at each other. All these grammar that you're saying shows that whether or not he's sober(that is if he actually is sober cuz he might be pretending), he might do it again.
Two wrongs don't make a right. If he doesn't love you, he won't give a damn if you go clubbing or not, infact, he'll take it that at last, you're giving him space. Cook his favourite food, give him a massage, a warm bath, do an exotic sexual position, look and smell good and we'll see if he won't be your puppy.

Answer 4

I know you have a lot of things playing to your mind now. What you did is right, IF no one is involved here. I know you love your husband and that’s the reason why you did it is because you just want him to realize that he is a married man that should always took the responsibilities of making his wife happy. Try making yourself very important to him, love yourself the way you loved him. Show him that you’re still attractive and don’t you ever believe him about the gal. You saw him that night that proves his cheating on you. What if you continued to play some games here that no one will be involved especially your ex (because it will make things worst if you let him). This will be between YOU and YOUR HUSBAND, let’s twist the role. You play his role and he will play your role (the one who’s always preparing dinner and waiting for her partner). But after everything, you must forgive him if you saw sincerity in him but if still happening you must forget about him and focus yourself being a mother of your child.

Answer 5

you cannot always police your husband and that,s a fact, your husband may have done something wrong and cannot confess it to you so the best reaction is to try to disrupt the relationship in any form possible,people feel guilt especially when you treat them as well as you have stated,but you need to talk to him and employ the (eve tatic),I do know that men talk with their pants off,at least if you are going to take a shot at saving your marriage you should try to get to the core of the matter ,it could very well be that he had a fling with that bimbo and realized that you have staying power and he screwed up and as usual is not man enough to come clean,now that you have him in a corner squeeze it out of him,good luck on giving your marriage a second chance,delmy d

Answer 6

You didn't do anything wrong in my opinion. You followed your instincts. If the odd behavior has stopped maybe all he needed was a wake-up call.If his behavior , as far as the going out and phone calls, or even strange numbers in his cell phone, if this remains then the rest is probably a front. Follow your instincts and don't wear those rose colored glasses.

Answer 7

It sounds like you did something good, on that night anyway. Has he stopped going out without you though?Is he still seeing someone else. If so you might have to put on your best red dress and go out and have fun for your own sake more often. If you are having a good time he will more than likely want you back.

Answer 8

Well the club scene is a big problem it seems. You should be out with your man not you going one way & him another. But if you are happy & you guys are on good terms you just go with the flow if that is what your use to doing.

Answer 9

You sound like a 5 year old. If you are going to ask a question then write it so that people can actually read it. Try spellcheck at the least and figure out where the punctuation keys are on your keyboard.

Answer 10

He is treating you very shabbily. Tell him you are his wife not a servant at his call. He needs to stop his loutish behavior. There is nothing like catching him with another woman and having him ask if you cooked!?! Tell him to start acting like a husband .