I had a very nice girlfriend. She promised that she will divorce her husband and marry me. Everything was going right when one day she decided that she will give her marriage a second chance for the sake of her son.
This completely devastated me. I am always thinking, why did leave me, if she had promised to be with me for the rest of our lives? Was she lying to me? Why did she do this to me?
But them at times I think that may be she did the right thing for the sake of her son.
What do you think? What should I do now?
2006-09-27 00:03:42 · 19 answers · asked by Achilles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She told me that she hated her husband and was not living with him any more. She said that she cant toletate him for a second and did not have sex with him for more than a year. She used to call him her ex husband instead of husband.
2006-09-27 00:15:07 · update #1
Move on hun! The fact that she cheated on her husband should have been a clear indication on what she is capable of doing but she also has a son.
You said that you had a very nice girlfriend, but the things she is doing to you, her husband and her son does not seem to be very nice though.
What you should do now is leave her alone and let her fix things with her family. Go out and do things you enjoy, look for girls with a single status maybe. Remember it for what it was.
2006-09-27 00:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by rissienr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you should never get involved with someone that is married. That will only cause you problems. She promised you she would be with you for the rest of your lives? Well she promised her husband that too. These things hardly ever work out. How could you have trusted her if she left her husband for you? She would have done the same thing to you when something else better came along. I think you are better off. Find you someone that is not in a relationship. Someone you can trust, I don't think you could have trusted her. I know I couldn't have. I think you will see some day that I am right. Just move on with your life and you will find a trusting person. Good luck bro. Sorry things ended up the way they did for you. We can't help who we fall in love with. You will find that special someone soon.
There was also a child involved. I dont think she should stay for that reason but she was going to stay anyway I bet. She was never going to leave her husband. I would say she used you for alittle while. Before things got to heavy she ended it. She will be looking for someone else now. Dont ever rip up a family. It will only come back to you.
2006-09-27 07:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never form a relationship with a married woman (or man). You are messing with someone else's family. And you are the one that ends up hurt. Married people that are having affairs, don't always tell the truth. Did she actually have her own place away from her husband? If she was a sincere woman she wouldn't have been cheating on her husband in the first place! You need to stop everything with this woman, and loose all contact. It is the right thing to do, unless she can prove divorce to you. I'm sure your intensions were well, but hers weren't. Unforetunely you choose a women whom you thought was ok because she was telling you her marriage was over, and you wanted a life with her. Its going to take some time for your heart to heal, but God will reward you with a good, honest woman. Good luck to ya!
2006-09-27 08:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you believe someone who lies and deceits in the first place? You shouldn't be shocked, she ruined her vowels, cheated on her husband, and then made a promise to you? Do you really think her promises mean anything anymore. I feel a little bad that you fell for a taken woman, but you are just as guilty. But, this sounds like a mess from the start. Best thing you should do is go about the steps of moving on. There's too much baggage here and much more drama to come, if you continue to persue her. Move on. Don't try to maintain a strong friendship, best thing is to not contact her at all. It will make things worse and confuse you more. Maybe you can possibly friends in the future....but usually once they're an ex .....that's just what they are.....an ex....sorry...
2006-09-27 07:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bailey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a touchy one. your a douche bag for expecting a married woman to divorce her husband. You shouldnt have even been involved with a married woman. You should especially not get into a relationship. i could maybe see meeting a married woman at a bar and having some fun if she is in a bad marriage but you dont get in a relationship...cuz now your the fool standin in the rain while shes inside by the fire place watchin her son and husband opening chrismas presents that she bought with the money she was able to save while you were blowing all of yours on her. dont worry though shell screw up and hell divorce her eventually. (but you probably wont want her then, no why go after an available woman....retard)
2006-09-27 07:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just really don't know how to answer this. Use to it was mostly Men who Cheated (or should I say "got caught) now days more and more women are cheating. Some women Cheat get a man reeled in and then just keep them hanging on a string knowing that man will always be there and do things for her. I have a friend going through the same exact thing. And its driving him crazy! Women can be so vendictive, (And I'm a woman saying this about a Woman) You need to just forget about it and go find somone single. Shes just gonna cause you pain in the long run. She doesnt know what she wants therefore, shes gonna keep running back to you and him. It was wrong to get involved with her in the first place, shes cut it off... Go on!!! I'm thinking hard while I'm typing. If it doesnt make sense. Just ignore it..
2006-09-27 07:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by AngWings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have seen the writing on the wall when you started the illicit affair. People often have mirages about the other person without considering what will happen thereafter. Did you actually think she'll leave her ''investment'' for a single person? Many married couples will tell you a whole bunch of lies to hook you up but at the end of it all, its all a lie.
Even if she had married you which i very much doubt, she would still cheat on you. Are you ready for that? My advice, save your breath and look for other singles like you. marriage is not a play affair but serious business.
2006-09-27 07:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a marriage breaker and she is a cheat-she will cheat on you eventually if you got together-you know that don't you?Once a cheat,always a cheat.You should broaden your horizons bub,there are plenty more "single" females out there in this world for you-you do not need to go around breaking up marriages to get what you want-especially marriages involving children.What should you do now?Bow out gracefully,and be eternally grate full you didn't get your teeth knocked down your throat by her hubby.....like i would have done to you.Get wise,she is a player and you got played.
2006-09-27 07:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She didn't do anything any different than what men do to women all the time. She is a "playa". She had no intentions of leaving her husband for you and was just telling you what she thought you wanted to hear. You need to move on and don't get involved with a married woman ever again.
2006-09-27 07:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, her son played a very important part in her decision to give her marriage a second chance. She did what she thought was best for her and her son..
There are never any guarantees when in an affair. What she told you she may have very well meant it. However, blood is thicker than water.
2006-09-27 07:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋