i am 33 and my husbands 28 he is saying that he dont want sex with me anymore, we had a good sex life and hes just saying that he dont want it anymore (i do know that his last relationship ended with the girl going off and getting pregnant by someone else) is it me, when we met i was a size 18 then i went to 24 now i am down to 14
2006-09-26 23:52:27 · 21 answers · asked by ssldavey2003 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You cant change how he feels but every man needs sex! Try spicing it up a bit in the bedroom or if its too soon, just watch a dvd together with nothing on! he will give in eventually. If not then its not worth being in a relationship with this man. Sex isnt the be all and end all of a relationship but it is a major part and if he has no lust for you then it is pointless. Hope everything works out ok.
2006-09-27 02:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband just prefers the larger lady, something to hold onto and cuddle if you know what I mean. ( I'm a size 8 but I know many men that prefer a bit more weight ) . I strongly advise not to have an affair if you have a good marriage in general, but try and get him to sit down and discuss these problems, I had a brief fling and my husband found out and believe me it is 100% not worth it, so many people ended up getting hurt. you would be better off making an appointment with your local marriage guidance councillor. I would also have suspicions that there is a possibility that he could be having an affair but if you are sure he is not, sit down and ask him what use to really get him going previously.
2006-09-28 11:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Wigh Swan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you.First of all talk to him about it and ask him to explain why and discuss possible reasons/solutions. It might be something medical, or something wrong with him? Who knows.
This has obviously knocked your confidence though so you probably don't feel sexy and wanted, tell him that.
Buy yourself some kinky underwear and wear it under your normal clothes, you'll know it's there and it should help a bit.
If he can't talk this through with you and try to resolve it then I think he's not being a husband at all...
2006-09-27 00:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by zweebob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn’t the answer to love, neither a guarantee of a successful marriage! The only solution is see is plan a night together, talk about the problems and don’t you forget to include God ;) turn to him, he knows what best for you both ;) and at the end of it all, if you really cling to him, both of ya, you’ll see things changing drastically…im not telling you that you’ll become the perfect couple, none of this, but things will get better for sue if BOTH of you work hard on it ;)
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
Proverbs 3:5-6
2006-09-27 02:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I'm surprised no-one has as yet come up with what I would think is the obvious ... he's having an affair (i.e. getting it somewhere else).
Please don't ask if it's you that has caused this situation ... who knows why guys behave like this? I know I don't. But, in my experience, if a guy is going to cheat is isn't anything to do with his partner. A lot of them just want to have it both ways - i.e. have their partner and a nice home, and also have a "bit on the side". I think they think it's exciting.
This is just my opinion based on watching my parents, and the relationships of my friends and colleagues. I might be wrong. In fact, I hope I'm wrong. But just thought I'd put my two-penneth in.
2006-09-30 14:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a tosser and you should dump him. You can't control how he relates to you, only by how you relate to him. Sounds like you are lineing yourself up to be used as a doormat. It's definately not you, it's him.
You could suggest marriage councelling or sex councelling. If he doesnt' agree then really challenge him. It is some issue he has and if he makes you feel like it's your fault he's a bad bad man.
Size 14 is perfect. Well done! It's much better for you to be that size. If he likes bigger women instead, he'll just have to find another one. You're not big anymore.
2006-09-27 02:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by helen g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I think I'd have to see the videos in question in order to give a fully informed repsonse. Seriously: 9 months pregnant? The guy is probably afraid of hurting you. Chill, you'll have a lot more interesting stuff on yor minds in the next few months. See how it goes in a few months time. In the meantime ... tell him you're horny and you'll make baby look the other way.
2016-04-13 00:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 27⤊ 0⤋
No it's not you, no matter what size you are. It's him. You can bet on it.
I don't have any answers, but I know how you feel.
does it make you feel lonely and cheated? mine does. Why don't spouses get it (male or female). In a marriage, your only lover is supposed to be your spouse. When they refuse, it hurts.
2006-09-26 23:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do besides sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him about it and based upon his answers decide if thisis how you are going to livethe rest of your life in a sexless relationship.if he cared about you he would take your feelings and concerns into consideration and work it out. if he doesn't go. life is too shortto be stuck in an unhappy marriage and a sexless marriage is an unhappy one.
2006-09-27 00:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by misfit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my lover of five years left me for another people. I was hurt and depressed. Only 3 days after the spell was actually cast, my lover returned to me! How to get them back and get them open again.
2015-02-09 04:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋