hi i m 18 years old. i am very unhappy with my life. staring from the begining my parents wre both working so they cud never give me time so i alwasy felt deprived of their love. so at the age of 13 i went into a relation but it failed.cuz that guy was was too insecure about me and he wasnt happy wenever i talked to other guys.. things went upto physical beating. then we ended this relationship however. inever had any frenz so cud not share vid any1 wat i was goin thru..then i made sum frenz but they were too so caleed they used tell me their probs and i used to solve them thats it. i m very caring and a loving gal.. love others and never think about urself types..i was fine! life was going like this. then i fell into a relation again.. my bf is fine..he loves me i know. but things aren's that good.. i m always sad. alwasy mesed up. and now my bf and my best frend share a warm reltion too.. i m insecure.both of them are sick of me tey feel i m crying all the time. i duno wat to do..
2006-09-26 23:33:31 · 18 answers · asked by gorgeous girl . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i canot go to a doctor .. cuz my parents wont agree to it.. i just need to be out of it.. sometimes i feel i need to be alone but that my lonliness starts hurting me.. i dunno what to do .. tell me how should i feel beter.. how should i come out of this mess of my life. i feel like kiling myself. or running away from life! i m very sensitive very very much . take athings to heart very easily and keep on thinking.. i have got very negative to wards my life.. tell me how to make my atitude positive towards my life :) i feel no one loves me.. everyone thinks i m wrong!! i have faced so much in my life that now i m sick of it ! i m in high school yet and i feel my life is hell.. dunno eat to do.. please tell me how can i make my life good.. postive and happy.. i just want to run away from all people around me .. my boyfrend .. my best bud my family.. the more i m vid them now the more i m sad...
2006-09-26 23:47:20 · update #1
that sounds like a sad place to be ... have you tried counselling or ringing a help line? If you haven't you should or maybe see you doctor as it sounds like you may be experiencing some depression... either way get some professional advice and be true to yourself....
Often when feeling anxiety and worries problems seem worse than they are ... but please get help... you have your whole life ahead of you ...
Other things to try is ... exercise.. it's a natural andorphin... raises your happiness level... find other interests in your life that can occupy you and get you out of the house.
Good luck my friend...
2006-09-26 23:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion would be to get professional help, where ever you live there should be help available a Mental Health Clinic. Just hear me out, ok? It seems you are not happy because of depression. I think if you felt neglected in childhood, you may not know what a healthy relationship consists of. Once you find the answer to WHY you feel so bad, and work on a solution, with help, you can then be more confident in choosing a healthy relationship. My Dear, many people can function alone, but when they get involved in a relationship it can bring out our sensitivities and our insecurities, some of these issues are from the past, while growing up. What has been hurting you for years? When parents are not emotionaly available to a child it produces hurts, wondering if you are ok, feelings of less than, often it feels like we do not fit in anywhere or with anyone! Our parents do play an important part in giving us the praise and time to share and listen, if they have not done or given you the emotional support, you may feel confused, yet I am sure they did the best they could at the time and with whatever means they had, I do know it does not take away the deep sadness you may feel, because it hurts! Remember only you not a MAN can fix you, only you can learn and have the willingness to search for the people who can give you a support system and help with your deep pain. It can get better as long as you do not denie how you feel nor cover those emotions up by using alchol or drugs or relationships to feel better, in the end you will feel worse. I bet, you are a great young woman and have many wonderful Qualities. You need help sweetie, find someone who has information that will help you find the places or meetings that can help over time to allow you to make healthy choices for your life, you are young and can a future and a goal for your life, work at it. One day it will be benificial to you. Best of Luck, Hope this helped in someway. Please remember you are special in God's eyes and recognize you are to be special to YOU!
2006-09-27 07:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer have your parents read this. Communication is key and they are still important people in your life.
Talk to your school counselor and tell him/her exactly what you said here.
It sounds like you are in a very very bad place, you have to believe in your friend and your bf that they do love and care for you. THink of how much THEY would be hurting if you left them. Your parents, too, would be hurting. You are not that type of person . . . talk to your bf, too, about what you said here. Trust yourself that you ARE a very very good and caring person. Volunteer at a human shelter and take care of the abaondoned animals there. Anything to help you realize the wealth of your caring that other people really rely on (yes, you are loved, it is just that people never say it)! You indicated that you helped your friends throughout your life, that is a rare and special gift to provide the insight to solve problems.
You are loved. Always remember that.
And by the way, don't worry about the misspellings!
2006-09-27 07:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still studing? Well try to find some activities that you may find interesting. I've been through the same and it's called boredom. I've found music. Also I've found a new job. Life has to go on. You're young and you will get over it for sure. Be happy and smile a lot. For every smile you give you get prettier everytime. It really works! Remember: there's only one life. Grab it and live it! It's worth while. V.
2006-09-27 06:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by another911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks u didn't get any one yet who can give true love, i mean unconditional love. Do u know how long it takes to get a human life? When u came to this world, there is a purpose for it. it is no good thinking of ending it. becos of silly things.
remember, there is some one witing to come through u and conqure the world.
think that u will b the mum of some great personality in the future. For that u have to stay alive, healthy - mentally and phisically.
18 yrs. and u think u had enough of life. u didn't see any thing yet. wake up u will be remembered for what u done to the world. b prepared and start thinking of good things that is going to happen to your life.
u r most welcome to ask any doubts. Just think that u hav some one who take care of u, unconditionally.
hoping to here from u.
2006-09-27 07:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Nair A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear i know how u feel, i been thru difficult times b4 and recently i get to know the story of a social escort who is been cheated into this trade by the syndicate. no matter how tough our life is there is always hope, be positive because life is always up and down. do the right thing sort out your life, review your relationship about your bf, if he is not the type for u, forgo. look far u need a bf who could make a good husband. will pray for u. best wishes.
2006-09-27 08:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being 18 is a tough age indeed. My suggestion to you is to think long and hard about your life and decide what it is about it that makes you so unhappy. You may be surprised to learn exactly what it is,,,and then get rid of it. It may be your boyfriend that is making you unhappy or your best friend. If you are about to graduate high school adn go off to college, that may be the ticket to your happiness. My daughter was terribly unhappy in high school, but went off to college and had the time of her life. If you go off to college..live in the dorm definatly the first year or so. Great way to make new friends and and begin a new life...
2006-09-27 07:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by JIM D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, God loves you and created you for a purpose, a wonderful purpose! Find a good church youth group and you will meet plenty of genuine friends who will be interested in you for who you are not just what you can do for them. It sounds like you are feeling depressed but ask Jesus into your heart and he will renew your mind and heal your emotions over time. True. Live Gods way, which is the best way.
"but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" (isaiah 40:31)
This does not mean life will be trouble free with Jesus, but it does mean that whatever life throws at us He will bring us through it. God Bless you sweetie.
2006-09-27 06:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by angelvic_83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is't hell. Think of all those people out there who go to sleep everynigth hungry and sexually abused all their life. It sounds like you need someone to truely love you the way true love is meat to be. Your Partents should love you uncondishally but it sounds like they don't pay you any mind. Set goals for yourself and find a great loveing man. Become closer to God also.
2006-09-27 06:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by JayX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try living a happy life. Life is a one day cricket match. There is no second inning. So enjoy it to the best of your capabilities. Do not cry over spilt milk. If he is leaving you, let him leave you and you better on with your own life.
2006-09-27 06:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by Achilles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋