I caught my wife cheating behind my back. She does not know this yet. Now i wants to teach her a lesson.
WHAT IS THE ACCEPTABLE WAY TO DO IT?
AND I WANT TO KNOW HOW WOMAN WANTS IT?
HOW CAN I STAMP MY AUTHORITY ON HER?
SHOULD I BE PHYSICAL?
Sorry for the caps. Im angry at the moment.
2006-09-26 22:27:16 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes i am spending more time in army. I dont want to mention that. But yes it maybe partially my fault, spending more time in the army serving for the security of Israel and the people.
2006-09-26 22:52:26 · update #1
Just divorce her maan.. she cheats probably you don't give her enough attention, or you don;t listen to what she did and said, or she didn't get pleasure in her sex life with you.. or she is just a player..
regardless all reason why she cheated you, you never have a right to do revenge or teach he a lesson.. You are angry so what? does it mean by hurting her you can heal you pain of being cheated? NO.. you don't own anything over others people life and body.. if you marry someone doesn't mean she belongs to you.. both parties has equal rights in decision making..
try to put yourself together..by being angry you can't solve anything.. talk to your best friends so they can comfort you and probably you could stay over at their place and avoid contacts with your wife first..
No physical things... use your brain.. you already hurt, yes.. but all you have to do is end the relationship and move on.. if you think it is not fair because she cheats and doesn't get any punishment, you are wrong.. we have no rights to punish someone..
My dad cheated on my mom a lot.. but at the end he got what he deserved.. he lost his job,and he has to move far away from city because people talk about him.. all my mom did is just divroced him and move on..
Don't do anything that you will regret.. Violence never was the answer..
2006-09-26 22:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by _ni_ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T BE PHYSICAL! then you will be in the wrong. If a woman cheats usually there is a problem with the relationship. Revenge will not be for your benefit. You need to tell her you know and confront her without anger and have her explain why she did it.
Try to work it out through talking and see what the real problem is behind her cheating.
Best of luck and hope whatever the result is-that you are both happy in the end.
2006-09-26 22:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by NY gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont own her and you want to teach her a lesson (its called abuse)thats the wrong way to go.i have cheated once before he dont know about it but we only kissed.sometimes a woman needs to feel loved and your not there most of the time.we are all only human.she had her reason for doing this.just like i had mine and no i'm not a bad person.but the question is do you still love her after finding this out?if you do then you need to take her and go somewhere and just be alone and tell her what you know .its no good fighting it will only make things worse.ask her why she did it?was it only once or more?and ask her to go to marriage coucelling with you.and if you feel you cant trust her then get a seperation ,but go for a walk alone and really think about this.but dont try to own her thats totally wrong you will only be driving her away from you and thats not what you want.my husband thinks he owns me and its wrong its just driving me away from him.and now i do want out of my marriage.stop and think is this what you want????
2006-09-26 23:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by browneyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to this guy, TSS is extremely rare nowadays and only happens if you leave a tampon in for days. They're much easier to use than pads, you can swim with them in and honestly he sounds like a radical man. Not trying to insult your pastor but none of that is true, I've been using tampons for 5 years and I've never had TSS or any other problems. The gay people and AIDS thing was a rumor in the EIGHTIES. Anyone can get AIDS if they are not practicing safe sex.
2016-03-18 01:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by Aline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're ID as IDF member is true, then you're probably spending more time at the military base than at "home-base" with your wife. Women, just like men - have the same needs - both physical, emotional and spiritual - and if you're not fulfilling your end of the deal, don't expect her to wither away, drying up waiting for you to notice she's alive. 98% of women who stray and have affairs outside of the marriage are often neglected by their husbands. The 2% are just notorious. I'm sorry you caught her cheating but before you get angry with her, try to find out why she cheated on you.
2006-09-26 22:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no acceptable way to handle adultery, first you have to be honest and confront your wife with what you have discovered. Then find out why she has done this, and if the marriage can be saved especially if there are children out of this marriage. Stamping your authority on her is to let her know that you have morals and values. Not stooping to her level... "Lack of self respect''.
Never resort to violence. Do try to find a way to channel your anger into positive energy, good luck.
Smiles
India.
2006-09-26 22:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by india_isis1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she's cheating u gota accept.anger wont change anything nor revenge wud make her suffer.think abt it,if ur suffering its better to leave evrythg in god's hand and leave her.U have to go away let her alone with her lover,dats enof for her wen she'l realise the chance she let gone and lost u.she isnt reacting now coz ur with her,ur absence wud b enof for her (tell her u love her so much now dat its better u live separately,hold ur pain and try to b innocent she'll find herself guilty)and will regret all long her life,she mite even yearn for u to come back and chase u wen ur away dont leave any contact.Believe it will hurt her.I pray god bless u with Love which u deserve.plz dont complain or show her betrayal made u suffer.
2006-09-26 22:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very angry. Don't do anything physical(that doesn't mean that you are to go for mental torture). Tell her gently what you have seen & ask her that what punishment she deserves. Let her explain. May be, you are wrong.
2006-09-26 22:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings, been there myself. All of the above is abuse! You should get a hold of yourself and see what has gone wrong it takes two for the marriage to fail! Get counseling, for yourself and both of you. Loosing someone trust is one of the most painful thing someone should not go through and divorce is even worst. Abusing her will get you in jail!
2006-09-26 22:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Alo, no violence, you hear? That will only drive her away even further. And you can't stamp your authority on her, what do you think she is - an envelope?
Maybe make her feel guilty...
2006-09-26 22:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by yes darling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋