I am living in a common-law marriage since 6 years. We are both previously divorced and have a son each from our marriages, both grown up and both accept our relationship totally. We are otherwise happy and share active hobbies and pastimes, go often on short holidays and have good friends. But we do not have any sex, although I would like to. I am attractive and my man is very proud of me, he says it is due to stress in his business etc.etc. But I found pills like Viagra & co. in his wallet and the car, obviously with some missing. When confronted, he said he was trying them out (while driving!!) to see the reaction!!! I also found the phone numbers of three women, whom he knows and has had affairs with before me. When I told him that I knew that he had the numbers saved on his mobile, he hid them under the names of men. I know that he meets these women, sometimes he gets calls when we are together during the week, but never on weekends and never after he gets home from work.
2006-09-26 22:05:56 · 13 answers · asked by tanamera 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, 1, leave the guy if you can't trust him. Take all his stuff with you if that makes you feel any better.
2) To those of you saying common law marriages don't really exist anymore- I know it is uncommon in many states, but it is perfectly legal in TX, and is recognized any time after you meet 3 basic criteria- all you'd have to do really is live together, file taxes together, and tell people you're married, and according to the state you are. While most states may say you have to be together for 7 years to have a common law marriage, this is not always the case. Whether her marriage is valid or not depends on her state. Not only that, but it really has nothing to do with the question she asked. If she considers him her husband, and he considers her his wife, the answer should be the same as if they'd gone and done it in a church or wherever.
2006-09-26 22:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really suspect that he is cheating on you, then leave him.
Common Law marriages don't really exist much anymore, and I believe you have to have been together for at least 7 years to be in effect, and in the state I live in, you also have to make a public announcement, such as in "legal notices" in the paper, or something like that, or it is not legally enforceable.
As to the woman - does she know you even exist? If not, your anger is misdirected. Better to just move on than to get yourself in trouble over some guy that just isn't worth it, right?
2006-09-26 22:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP!
God stop doing this. You're looking for revenge because you want to have sex with a man who doesn't want sex from you? You need to grow up. You have a child and you live with his kid for chrissakes, act like an adult. He doesn't love you? find someone who does. that simple. It's an infinately more useful pursuit for you than trying to hurt him for some conspiracy you believe you've uncoverred. It doesn't even matter if he's cheating on you. You believe he is. It's over. do something productive with your life..
2006-09-26 22:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by W0LF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try my best to get out of this relationship. If you really want to get even just tell the married woman's husband what's going on, if he's attractive go ahead and have a fling and let them know about it. BUT get out.
2006-09-26 22:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Paolo P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, common-law is just a fancy term for live in girlfriend. If you two aren't married, you really don't have much to say about it. Sure, it's rude of him and probably downright rotten, but if you love him and he loves you, why aren't you married?
BTW... common law doesn't fly in most places. There's absolutely nothing legal about it in many states.
2006-09-26 22:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by iswd1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow...how long are you going to sit around and take this it's all up to you, you know he's cheating but for the record i wouldnt even seek out revenge cause it will backfire on you...hey let karma do her job and i bet by the time she get done with they *** you'll definitley get the last laugh
2006-09-26 22:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even bother trying to get revenge. It takes too much energy. Just dump him and his cheating heart.
2006-09-26 22:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get straight to the point, ask him up front, you can always tell a lyer
2006-09-26 22:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by jewelsnz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pls do accept that common words: men are born polygamus... if you cannot correct him... just keep yourself busy from other recreations in life!
2006-09-26 22:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by danieldenzel2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the husband and tell him.
2006-09-26 23:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋