2006-09-26 21:59:46 · 19 answers · asked by Liz M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WOW!! It sounds like you are in the exact same situation as I am... and I have been pondering this and talking to a few close friends about this. Obviously I can't give you a definitive or not that he is or isn't cheating on you. But what I can offer is the idea that if you "feel with everything in you he cheated" then even if you don't have hard evidence to prove it, there have been changes in his routine, personality, affection, pet name use, ... etc... I'm sure you get me. Even if you can't put your finger on it, for you to feel that strongly that he is cheating on you there must be clues that you are picking up on subconciously.
Unless you are beginning to have some form of paranoia.. but if you are.. you will also find yourself being paranoid about others - family members, coworkers.. etc. So if your man is the only one you are suspicious of - there IS a reason for it.
Now whether the subconcious clues actually have to do with cheating - you may want to do some quiet sluething.. this may sound bad, but look for physical evidence - if you find some, you may be right, if you don't, well you still may or may not be right. You've already confronted him and he said "no" but you don't believe him, right? So confronting him again isn't going to change that since if he said no the first time, even if he is, he probably won't change his decision to tell you... and if he isn't.... him telling you multiple times that he isn't probably isn't going to make you any less suspicious.
So try to work it out. Take a look at his behavior. Since you accused him, did he turn it around and try to blame you for being untrustworthy? Did he say he was suspicious that maybe you were cheating? Has he become more careful and more caring around you than usual?
Anyway, If you would like to chat with me more about this and see what I have to say about my situation and how we might both be able to help each other get through a similar situation, send me an email at krissyzaqdpie@hotmail.com
2006-09-27 02:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what makes you feel that he cheated? Sometimes you self esteem can get low and then you start feeling guilty and then you feel that your spouse has cheated. However if you do not have evidence that he did then do not push the issue it will cause problems and he will end up leaving or cheating. If he is cheating or has cheated it will come out eventually until then continue loving him. If you feel it was recently go get checked out by a doctor for std. But sounds like you might also want to get checked for depression. Good Luck.
2006-09-27 06:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to disappoint the men here but a woman's gut feeling is 98% of the time correct especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Women have a way of zeroing in on these things and the only best way out of such a dreaded question is not to answer with a NO, but to ask WHY she even asked the question. Because a straight off NO is a YES with women especially if there are mitigating signs of neglect on the part of men. So my answer to you sweetie is YES, he cheated on you.
2006-09-27 05:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found in my personal expierence that you can feel it deep inside of you if he is cheating. I'm not saying he is because you have to give him the benefit of doubt. I would keep a close eye on him and check things you wouldn't normally check. Cell phone, *69 , things like that. If he is it will come out eventually. Hopefully not , for your sake, but if he is you know what to do.
Good luck.
2006-09-27 07:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by dazedandconfused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your instinct may be wrong. Are you ALWAYS right? I don't think so. You are fallible like the rest of us.
Now, this is important. Why are you still with him if you FEEL he cheated? (Do you doubt your instinct?) If you have not doubt, then you should DUMP him and dump him now. Trust is essential in any relationship. You obviously don't trust him. You're just asking to have your heart broken if you stay with a cheater. Think about it.
Good luck.
2006-09-27 05:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to know. But I will say this- you shouldn't be a in a relationship with anyone unless you can trust them. Whether it be a problem with not being able to trust him individually or you having trust issues in general, this is something you need to work on.
2006-09-27 05:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably...i always listen to my gut feeling cos it hasnt let me down yet...the time i had that feeling i didnt say anything at all...i just bided my time all the while not being too close with him...over time i caught him out...and generally if ur smart u always will
2006-09-27 05:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by yep ive left 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, doubt is doubt you need to be sure. If you feel with everything that he cheated he might have he migt have not, dont spoil rleationships with doubts or it will become very dificult. always be sure.
2006-09-27 05:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by Beejan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a really hard situation to be in, I feel for you. Usually if I feel that strongly that something happened, whether it's denied or not, it probably has happened (i've learnt that from experience). good luck! x
2006-09-27 05:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes that little inter voice speaks the truth so listen
2006-09-27 05:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋