2006-09-26 21:49:30 · 8 answers · asked by newron r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave the two..go to third ..this time no paired sisters
2006-09-26 21:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by s g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go for either of them! The one that "loves you" probably does so because there is some deep-seeded sibling rivaly between the sister (not necessarily a bad thing - often times sibling rivalries/competition makes each one a stronger individual and also - may seem strange, but also bonds them together in a way). I'm sure you are a fine person, but the other sister's love for you is probably more of a manifestation of her envy of her sister for acquiring your attention and love. Every woman/girl loves attention and if she feels she isn't receiving enough, she may be jealous of someone else (usually close to her - like a sister who is). While I can't speculate on why the one that you "love" doesn't love you back, unrequited love is never anything good and no matter how much love you lavish on her or how many crazy things you do to make her jealous... she will never love you in the free way that you desire.. hence - neither of you will end up happy. If you go for the sister that shows you love, once she takes the attention and love away from her sister, her sister may feel slighted at wich she will feel envious or angry at her sister, whatever feeling she will have towards you or the sister won't be good and will pobably create ill feelings in all of the relationships for the future. After she no longer has the love, support, and friendship of her own sister, the one that "loves you" is bound to re-evaluate her decision to be with you - even if she does love you really, love that might tear apart the family is not usually worth it, especially if it's a close supportive family. So once she has the attention and has hurt her relationship with her sister.. maybe she will realize she was seeing you through rose colored glasses to begin with and she will then see things in you she doesn't like... or maybe she was just in it for the competition and the chase and will subsequently get bored. Either way it doesn't end with a pretty outcome for anyone.
I sincerely doubt that there are very many relationships that start in this way that work out. There may be some, but they would be few and far between... and going into it, you would need to be well aware of what everyones thoughts and feelings were of the people involved - because even though the one that you love would not be dating you.. she would still be part of your relationship in the whole.
And.. if you don't love the sister that loves you.. why would you want to be with her anyway? You don't love her! Kindly decline any offers for dates and move on and find someone you love who loves you back.. sometimes a reason for dating a family member of one you love might be because you are comfortable with the family and would like to remain as "part of the family" even if you can't have the one you want....
Why don't you try changing your relationship with all of the family to just friends and see if you can satisfy all feelings that way..
Then you may have the help and support of the friendship of both sisters to help you find a truly healthy loving relationship who fits your personality, your future dreams, and loves you back as you love her.
2006-09-27 03:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the one that Loves you.
2006-09-26 21:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start loving the sister
2006-09-26 21:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by trishul60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ever want to have a chance with the one you say you love, do not get involved with her sister, because if you do, you will never have a chance of getting her.
2006-09-26 21:53:39 · answer #5 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the one who loves you and start learning to love her. And when both of you are happily married,, she will soon envy her sister and she will regret not loving you.
But don't try to get back on her...
Just let the normal flow of life go on with you.
2006-09-26 21:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex with the one that loves you take pictures and show the other one what she's missing.
2006-09-26 21:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by JOHN M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on to the next
2006-09-26 21:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋