until recently I've never been much of a worrier, but ever since i made up my mind to have a baby i just can't stop.First it was about concieving, then once i had conceived it was about losing the baby ( i have had a previous miscarriage) or ectopic pregnancy, now i've had a trans vaginal scan they told me they could see the sac but no baby YET and to go back in 10 days, im worrying about that! being pregnant seems to be one constant worry . Is it just me or is like this for all first time moms?
2006-09-26 20:53:15 · 18 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
no offence, but no more "god is looking after me" advice. Whilst I do respect your views i am not religious therefore it doesn't help me. Thank you
2006-09-26 21:20:31 · update #1
I don't think everyone worries so much though I am sure many do worry - I would see a doctor just to talk about these worries - it could be from fluctuating hormones - that could always be adding to it which would make it worse.
Do you worry about anything else now that you never did or does it all relate to the baby etc? I would see your gyn and tell him or her this first and if need be see a therapist or psychologist just to talk this out with someone and get some coping skills that may help you relax - You just want the best for you and your baby and that is nice but you can't even enjoy this time cause you are so nervous so see a doctor - they may want to test your hormone levels, etc.
Feel better :o)
2006-09-26 20:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way since I've been pregnant. I find the best way to deal with this is to be informed. Your body is freaking out while you’re pregnant, and everyone's pregnancy is different so sometimes it's hard to know exactly what's going on, but you'll feel alot better if you have some idea. Some good resources are....
PREGNACY WEEK BY WEEK BOOKS! These are the best! I have two so I can get different views on what may be happening. It's like the bible! (Sorry about the religious comment) Any time I think there is something wrong I look for my symptoms in the book and see what it might be and if I should be concerned. Plus they take you trough the whole process. They tell you what is developing this week and what is normal to be experiencing. I couldn't live without them!
Another is there are alot of websites that offer the same. (Or at least they try.) Some good one's are....
babyzone.com
pregnacyweekly.com
earthmamaangelbaby.com
And finally your doctor! Don't let them stop you or make you feel like a burden if you ask questions! ASK AWAY! That is what they are there for to keep you healthy body AND MIND! I even would write a list of questions I had so I would remember them all, and I would just hand them the list and they would go down and answer each question.
It is ok to be overprotective! That is your child! Just make sure it doesn't consume you and disrupt your life. Everything WILL be ok. You'll see! Good luck!
2006-09-26 21:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a big worrier too. I was worried all thru the begigning about having a miscarrage. then when i got past the main part where i was more likely to have a miscarriage i started worrying about other things. no i worry if i can do this or not..if the baby will come out okay...etc i guess its just something that time will help you get thru. If you ever want to talk im here for ya! :) just calm down I know thats hard to do and enjoy this time
2006-09-26 21:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by MUFASAS MOMMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be normal to worry. I know that I did with each and every one of mine. Until I got past the first trimester, I worried! Try not to, I know it is easier said than done. It honestly will do you no good to worry, it can not change what will or will not happen, in fact it can only make things worse! Try to relax, and keep your mind off of it. Read a good book, or take a nice warm bath. Have your significant other give you a back rub. Do things to relax your body and mind. I am sure everything will be ok!
Good Luck!
Dee
2006-09-26 20:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never worried with my first but I was in my early 20's and conceived easily. I don't know how old you are are what your circumstances are, but I've noticed that moms who wait until they are over 35 to have their first, especially if they've had multiple losses, complications and/or infertility problems tend to be HUGE worriers. Also I think it has to do with your personality as well - obviously some people are big worriers (although you said you weren't).
2006-09-26 21:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact you are so worried just shows how much having this baby means to you & that you're going to be a good mum.I'm a worrier by nature so i was the same with all my babies.I found it helped me to be informed about EVERYTHING & to keep in mind that worrying would'nt change a thing.
(p.s.If you think you're worrying now,just wait until the baby's born! )
2006-09-26 22:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An idle mind is the devil's workshop. Have faith that all is already worked out and everything will be okay. Sometimes stepping out on faith is the best thing you could do. Being a woman is a trip, being a woman tying to conceive is even worst, now being a pregnant woman is better and being a Mother will be the best. I know who is on your side and you do too. God Bless.
2006-09-26 21:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a female so I can't proclaim to be of any real help in the circumstances that you are going through. However, I can say that worrying doesn't help. Too much of worry can only complicate the matters.
You are striving to bring a new life to this earth. My advice to you is : STOP WORRYING & START LIVING -- God willingly you shall bring a healthy new life into this world :)
2006-09-26 20:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I was pregnant with my daughter I was worried all the time! What I did I just thought of the statistics. The chance of anything being wrong is actually quite low! Just think of it that way!
2006-09-26 21:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't stop. I was like that through my 3 pregnancies. I am also as parinoid with my 3rd baby as i was with the other 2.
JUst breath and relax
2006-09-26 21:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋