In short we both fell in love on net and want to marry...both are sincere in our love with each other and committed...but girls parents want her to be married in same caste and with a person settled in America..... though she has managed to convince her parents that she requires sometime to think abt marriage. She doesn't want to annoy her parents also by getting into court marriage also...so can anyone give a solution as to how we can overcome this situaion and get married? The girl is a south Indian and I'm from north..so language and cultural differences are what her parents don't like.
2006-09-26 20:37:43 · 13 answers · asked by sweeeeeeeeet sood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's so tough!!hmm... u could get married without her parents knowledge, but i don;t think you want that, well she really has to talk to her parents about that, and convince them, and you should talk to them too, you could adjust and combine both cultures together, or you could promise her parents that you'll adapt their culture, she's old enough to take her own decisions, and parents have to support her with that, she can't marry someone she doesn't love, that person is staying with her forever, and she won't be happy, she should tell that to her parents, i'm sure they don't want their daughter to be miserable for life.
2006-09-26 20:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm you could try talking the issue out with the parents. Being civil adult could take some time and many people dont have the patients for that so any further options may not be apropriate and are not a suggestion they are here for amusement. You can elope....or...they want her to be with someone in america....so you go to america and then they approve of you.....or....if the preceding don't fit your needs you go to the store get a shot gun and a shovel oh and some ammo for the shotgun make sure you bury them deep in the ground and you can have the funeral on the same day as the wedding.
2006-09-26 20:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural for the parents to feel apprehensive about this proposition as there is so much of gap in every thing. So many barriers. In India, marriages are not of two individuals but of two families. So marriage has to take into consideration the family matters too. If you are earning good salary and can convince the girls parents that you are good enough to take care of the girl and all her needs, you can go to the girls house and talk things over with her parents. Perhaps, your parents, if possible, can accompany you.
2006-09-26 20:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by sunilbernard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People went to come back to India and settle here.
Language is no barrier
she can learn your language(it will be very useful to both of you)
u can learn her language ; learning a language is not difficult
After learning,by speaking both languages will break language barrier; culture is not the wall between u
U (your parents,would be and u)try to convince her parents on the above lines
2006-09-26 21:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by dondon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she lets her parents rule her life then there is no chance unless you are able to do miracles. Like for instance if you are from Bangladesh and you are Buddhist and her family is following Islam they will definitely object to this marriage. If you got no spine and want to change your religion/ beliefs then they might accept you but realistically speaking forget about her family and move in together. Once you are married and have kids they will accept them kids and by accepting kids they will accept you.
2006-09-26 20:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Chillin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both the girl and boy have a good understanding better wait till the mind of the girl's parent change or change their mind through love
2006-09-27 00:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by babu m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. what a complicated situation. you met each other on the net? that sounds like a risky relationship. i guess you two COULD get married against her parents wishes.. life is short. but then again, be prepared for the I TOLD YOU SOs if it doesnt work out.
2006-09-26 20:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gentleman
Leave her at once
You will commit a mistake if ever you marry her.
She is not the type.
Bitter advice but it will save your life.
2006-09-27 02:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them you are genuine, language or cultural diferences do not stand across the lover's way. be honest, mere loving will not do. Can you be on par with them. if you can, continue.
but, do get parent's blessing, otherwise it will one day be misery.
2006-09-26 20:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by gunetilake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey its fine..don worry
i have a friend from south and her boyfriend is from north......his mom and dad just love her,they know bout both of them tooo....and her mom and dad have met the guy and like him a lot though they don know bout their relationship....
don worry just tell your parents bout her...and then go meet her parents....if you have the qualifications required then they ll definitely agree to your marriage......
best of luck
2006-09-27 08:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋