when is it a good time to get pregnant again? i have a 3 year old son is it to early?

Answer 1

The ideal time to get another baby is when the elder sibling is semi independent ie between 4 to 5 yrs old. There are lots of times that due to the attention deficit the parents have a problem with the elder sibling, also pl prepare the elder one mentally for the new arrival.

The relationship between siblings is one that lasts a lifetime, and preparing children for the birth of a new baby is an important beginning. Most children will ask lots of questions about pregnancy and birth and have a natural curiosity about the baby-to-be.

What Parents Can Do Before the Birth
Show your child picture books and videos to help her learn about the sounds and sights of a birth.
Check with your hospital about sibling preparation classes and tours.
Bring your child to a prenatal visit to meet your birth attendant.
Visit friends who have a new baby, especially when the baby is breastfeeding.
Show children pictures of their own births.
Tell them how you prepared for their arrival and what they were like as infants.
Follow your child's lead and supply information when you're asked.

What Siblings Can Do Before the Birth
Practice holding a baby in advance with a doll.
Remind them to support the doll's head, and show them how to be gentle.
Help choose the baby's name. Don't bring this up, however, if you don't mean it. It's not fair to ask what they like, and then ignore their opinions.
Help pick out baby's coming home clothes.
Give them a choice of outfits and stick with their recommendation.
After the Birth

Just as important as preparing siblings for the arrival of a new baby is understanding children's normal feelings of jealousy after the baby is born. Imagine how you would feel if your partner said one day, "Honey, I love you so much I'm bringing home another wife (or husband). From now on this person whom I love, too, will be sharing our life together." It's no surprise then that young children often act even younger when a new baby joins the family. They may not sleep as well, cry more, want baby bottles or the breast if already weaned, whine, are more demanding in general, and might wet their pants if previously potty trained.

Although the birth of a baby is usually most disruptive to a first-born, according to in Mothering, a child's reaction depends mostly on personality. Usually by the time the new baby is eight months old, with her quite obvious personality, siblings imitate their mothers and want to help care for the baby.

What Parents Can Do After the Birth
Arrange for siblings to visit if Mom and baby are in the hospital for a few days.
When the new baby comes home, arrange for someone to bring over a birthday cake.
Have the baby and your older child exchange presents.
Have gifts on hand for the older child when friends and family bring baby gifts.
Encourage fathers, aunts, uncles, and grandparents to spend more time with the older child.
Give the older child status with special jobs to help the family, then praise him for his helpfulness.
Ask him to help set the table for meals or get the mail.
Every day find a way to spend time alone with your older children and focus solely on them.
Encourage the sibling to play with the doll he practiced on before the baby was born.
Have a place for the older children where their belongings will not be disturbed by a crawling baby in the months to come.
Calmly accept any negative feelings your older child expresses about the baby, while at the same time emphasize the baby is always to be treated gently.

Answer 2

well i believe that is the perfect timing, when my sons dad and i were discussing the thought of having another baby, we decided that we would try to get pregnant again by our sons 3rd bday(hes 20 months now), we just thought it would be a good time cause by then Jeremy should be outta diapers, he would be old enough to know what was going on, and it will have given me enough time to relax b4 doing it all over.
My sister has 2 girls ones 21 months and the other just turned 5 and they are happier than can be those little girls get along sooo well that its awesome to watch then just play and how her older daughter watches out for her sissy.
We have a friend who's little boys are either 11 or 12 months apart and she was a little over whelmed but she loves that she got it over in one fatal swoop.
And i have a friend what has a little girl that turned 1 on march 28th and her little boy is due here in the next few weeks and she cant wait to be a mom of 2!

It just depends on if you think you and your son and the father are ready to have another baby! But as far as i see it 3 years is a good age to have another baby!

Answer 3

a good time is when:

(1) you feel like it, feel that you can handle it. But don't be over conservative on this, because the longer you wait, the more you will have to re-start (as opposed to just stay in it), and the tougher it can be for the first child, who will have had more time to feel like an only child, i.e. be more jealous

(2) your body can take it. Here you're very safe, doctors typically recommend at least 6 months rest and better 12 giving a minimum spacing between conecutive children of 15 to 21 months

good luck

Answer 4

Now is a great time actually. I had my second 13 months after my first and she didn't seem to get it. She was 3 1/2 when my son was born 9 months ago and she actually liked it this time. She understood that there was a baby in there that daddy put there and was even in the room when I had him. She was warned ahead of time what to expect. She is really into helping too. She runs for diapers and wipes, throws them away, picks out clothes and toys, she even hauls him around now that he's bigger and sturdier! My suggestion with a boy though would be to get him a doll. Boys can be so possesive of their mothers. Show him how to practice on the doll. Dress it, clothe it, feed it......and be sure to refer to the real baby as HIS baby. He won't get jealous that way.

Answer 5

I think whenever you & your son are ready! I got pregnant again (whoops!) when my daughter was 9 months old. I was ready but I think it made her grow up faster than she should have. Now everythings great, they play together & really love eachother. Having them so close in age was hard on me, but I take it your son is out of diapers & doesn't need mommy time all of the time. So go for it!

Answer 6

i found that for me three year's apart is perfect just out of diapers and getting ready to start per-school i have a 9 year old a 6 year old and a 3 year old and they all do great with each other so i don't think its to early. hope this info helps good luck

Answer 7

Its perfect! My daughter was 3 when i delivered my son. Now, 8 and 5, they are still close enough in age to play, yet a gap in time between them for mom to rest before doing it all over again!

Answer 8

Now or later you choose what is right for your family. My mom had my older brother and I three years apart and my younger brother and I are 16 years apart. I have a 10 year old and a almost three year old and that work for me as it worked for my mom. It all depends on what you can handle at the moment.

Answer 9

I think now is a good time for you if you are ready. My daughter was going on two when my husband and I started trying to have another and we now have our son who is two and we want to have another one. I think the closer in years they are the better.

Answer 10

I think 3 years is an ideal age gap.Its close enough for them to play & grow up together (& the older child not to become too used to your undivided attention) but long enough that you can enjoy each childs first years.