What do you do when no one likes you? Or when you don't fit in anywhere?

Question

Your ideas are different than everyone elses. Your not accepted and don't belong to any culture, or any group of people. Your questions about the world only bothers those that you ask, so you have to learn on your own. Even your family is distant, and anyone who claimed where your friends, were only users not to be trusted. What do you do? How do you feel?

Mavis - Your a cool woman! I'm glad that you like my questions & take the time to really answer them, even if we don't always agree, I love it, makes the gears in my head keep turning :)

Agreed, I think you have to be strong to admit not knowing the answer to something, or being confused about it. But it's also good to work towards not being confused so you have a clear mind & have learned more.

Agreed that you have to be able to communicate well enough for people to understand your thoughts. You have to be sensitive to the art of communication. But it also takes an opened mind on the listeners part as well. And the more far out your ideas, the more closed off some people will get no matter how clear and understanding you are to them while communicating. And that can make you more lonely.

And your right, everyone wants to be accepted to some degree, & they should. People have to decide, do they want to be fake, or be better at communicating to gain acceptance.

Mavis - Also, you mentioned people say the older you get, the less you care about what others think. I think there's a balance to that. I think it's important to care what other people think to a degree so that your understanding to other peoples ideas, way of lfe, so you interact well with people, etc. But don't care so much that you do what everyone says. And don't not care at all because then you'll just be rude, get stuck you your own way of thinking and never accept that you may be wrong about somthing. You stop growing.

Mavis, good times.

Answer 1

Well I think you must be a most interesting person. Most likely very intelligent, and creative and what I would call.."a free thinker".

Please recognize the beauty in being non-mainstream. I am an older person, and like yourself, I realized at a young age, and even yet today, I am somewhat of a "misfit". I laugh about it these days, although it has caused me some issues over the years.

Considered a "maverick" at work, (corporate america) or in some social settings, often, a "lone & misunderstood Ranger" by having certain viewpoints and opinions. Nevertheless, I prefer, to consider myself.."a Brave Heart", and living life through my own perspectives.

Don't expect things to change, it is your inner nature, and you are a true individual. Being true to yourself, your mind and heart makes you "different".
Beautifully.......different.

Answer 2

I think it i great to be artistic and creative and just say to yourself 'I don't care what anyone thinks and I am at peace with the world around me even though- My mind clashes against everyone else's reality. My thoughts trigger confusion in others.''And then I can change the world that doesn't want changing while living a comfortable life'

Yeah, that works if you can ignore what others say. if you can be stong enough to accept being confused yourself. You can have new, different ideas and do a lot with them.
But if people have trouble understanding your thoughts, you have few people to really talk to. If you really are not accepted by anyone, you'd likely eventualy lose what understanding you had for 'their' way of thinking and you can get use to being alone.. but I think being accepted is something most everyone wants..deep down. Especialy when you're reminded of the connections other people have that you don't...

There are little culture groups that you could almost fit into. Almost.

you could seek people that share your interests.

I think you could feel ok with it in time though maybe not. Depends a heck of a lot on the events in your life. Ever expirience and thought.

I find it interesting the people say that once you reach a certain age, you won't care what other people think. Ok, maybe so, maybe not. but still, you would carry your past expiriences with you and if you continue to grow -away- from most people, you'd not be in the same situation as someone who always fit in. You just couldn't be.

Oh sorry, i think half of that turned out to be just random blah, lol. I do like your questions though so I had to go answer some. :)

Mavis knows what to do.

Answer 3

You don't do anything. Are you living your life for you or are you living it to please others. I am guessing your very young because after you reach around age 30 you stop giving a crap what people think about you. Life is just too short. And another thing...most people that changed history were disliked by the majority and many were killed. They never backed down on what they believed in and now are considered some of the world's greatest heroes. To do that though they had to suffer. You are not the only one who feels like they don't belong anywhere. Many people do. Don't worry about it. Just live your life because worrying about that is only a waste of time.

Answer 4

Well, the moment you are under this situation, instead of feeling out of place and undergoing depression -love ur thoughts and beliefs.

That is how most of the leaders and revolutionists came forward. They did not believe what the majority believed in but in their own thoughts and beliefs of truth and justice.

Learn to appreciate yourself. Don't come under the pressure of society. Stand up among the crowd!

Answer 5

Go to your room and read. At least that's what I did for a while. But people actually like me. I just choose to be by myself a lot. I am antisocial like that.

Answer 6

Enjoy it! Use your difference by being creative and artistic.

Answer 7

uh...move