She upsets me so much ,also her brothers and sisters . to make matters worse shes struggleling in school. Her step father is heart broken but has little influance on here . She has a mind of her own and cares little about are feelings .. Help
2006-09-26 20:06:35 · 25 answers · asked by Daddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what do you mean by fooling around? u can always bust him for statutory rape. but why are you letting him in your house? she is your daughter u should try to exercise a bit of control over her. dont let her do something she might regret later. but have u tried talking to them both as mature adults. maybe they are really in love with eachother. if so ask them to wait until your daughter is older. or atleast stop upsetting her family.
2006-09-26 20:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of ppl will say to send her packing, well, I agree, but by way of the state. Or you have the option of having him arrested for statutory rape if she is under 18. I am a mom also, 12 and 16 old daughters. It's hard to see them do these things that in the long run are gonna hurt them. If you don't nip it in the bud now it will get worse when you are raising your grandchild. If you beleive they are truly in love and it's not a rebelious thing, the family and her friend may be able to sit down and lay down some laws. Definately take her for birth control. Then maybe you can talk to them about not flaunting the relationship in front of her siblings and putting the thoughts in their heads in the future. You are in a tight spot because I know the love and trust in your family are at risk. Maybe counselling, I really have no answers, only choices. Just remember they are your choices to make not theirs, It's your roof even if it's her home too! I'll pray for you all.
2006-09-27 03:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Liome 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you need to play hardball. I have one 17 yr old daughter, and I have keep it under wraps since middle school. I have a lot of family issues and I feel for you. I was just always really strict when it comes to sexuallity. Now I have a 17 yr old daugher who is a virgin and very picky about boyfriends. Some things we do right and some we don't. So don't be worried if she is mad at you. Even if it is years down the road, she will forgive you and thank you. 26 is way to old for her if she is 15 or 16. Talk to her and then call the police. This man needs to know that you are not going to tolerate his abusing your daughter. I have called the police on my kids. My daughter at 15 for smoking pot, I gave them her stash and she was busted, and my son for other issues as well. Today, she knows I will call them and is scared. My son told me just yesterday , that every bad thing he thinks of doing, he thinks first about going to juevenille hall . So it does work. Don't let this man rape your daughter any further. She needs to know that as long as she is a minor, she follows your rules. Some may not agree, but I took advice from a friend who had five boys and told me that they have no privacy. So when my daughter was old enough to keep secrets, I told her she had no privacy from me, and that I had the right to look through any of her things in her room at any time. If the left-wingers are cringing at this point, look at it this way. ..If the Columbine shooters had nosy parents, they might be, as well as those they killed, alive today.
2006-09-27 03:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello call the police and press charges and seeing how he knows how old she is it is not called statutoy rape it is known as cardnial knowledge of a juvenile which means harsher charges. if this gets out too much someone else could notify social services and then you and your husband would both be charged for allowing this illegal activities to happen with your daughter and bringing it in your household around the siblings. would you rather lose all your kids and both of yougo to jail just so your daughter can be a teenaged adult or do you want to be a parent and put your foot doen show your love ,tell your daughter to get over it and press charges other wise they will just sneak around behind your back this way they law will issue a restraining order against him and put him on probation if they dont make him serve time
2006-09-27 11:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First my heart goes out to you and your husband, Lately I was
going through something a lot worse with my daughter A grow man hurt so bad my heart is more than broken, But please
take the first steps Call the Police really we did now she hates
us more, But your daughter maybe did consueling, It takes the parents to love them,pray every night put her in god's hands,that's all you can do I feel like I'm still crazy its been two
weeks. I'll keep you in my prayers.Let me know how it goes
Please,stay strong.
2006-09-27 03:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by MISSIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to act fast have him removed from your home by the police for rape if she is under 18.Simply get her counseling asap. She is not an adult and can not make adult decisions. You as the parent are responsible for her at all times. If she is over 18 have your son and husband make this guy there best friend. Sometimes they will go away when that happens. The girl will drop him like a hot potato,because he will relate to you as an adult not a teenager. and she is a teenager
good luck
2006-09-27 03:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by belleville 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advice to you would be to pay someone to have a visit with the 26 year old guy. A good assbeating will not only take care of this particular individual but will discourage other guys for sure. Once he is out of the pitcure you could deal with your daughter much more effectively.
2006-09-27 03:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 26 year old man is breaking the law if "fooling around" includes sex. I'm assuming your daughter is under 18. Don't wait, call the police and have the creep arrested. I work with this population (sex offenders), so I'm giving you good advice.
2006-09-27 03:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Justsearchin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELLO, you need to call the police and have this guy arrested! He's with a minor...what if she ends up pregnant? You need to out your foot down and take control of your home and children. It's one thing if she's doing this behind your back but you know that it's happening in your home and you haven't done anything...that's crazy.
Have him arrested and start with the tough love...boarding school, boot camp, whatever you have to do...she'll thank you later.
Good Luck.
2006-09-27 03:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Threaten him with calling the police. If threatening him doesn't work then call the police. Maybe you should point out that he was in like 6th grade when she was born, or she was in 2nd grade when he graduated High school... Like he's almost old enough to be her father!!!! Good Luck and remember your her mom... she will always love you!!
2006-09-27 03:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Tinkerbell31385 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋