2006-09-26 19:59:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That's a tough one!I know how you feel though. My brother's baby died from crib death at 7 weeks old, one week later I gave birth to my son and the two babies looked so much alike. I didn't call and tell them about my son's birth. My mom did and my brother and sister in law came over to visit. My first reaction was OMG they'll see the baby, I was frantic! They came in and my nephew saw my baby and asked his dad why they had given his baby brother to me!My brother picked my baby up and held him,then I noticed my brother's face turn an ashen color and he handed me the baby. It was heart breaking he said he had to come over, he couldn't run every time he sees a new baby. I think you should spend an afternoon alone with your sister and tell her how sorry you are for her loss . You can feel hurt for her loss but don't let that take away from the joy you're entitled to feel about your own baby! For your sister's sake I wouldn't talk a lot about it in front of her though, she has gone through one of the most heartbreaking times of her life. She will eventually learn to live with it but that emptiness will always be there. Congrats ! and good luck!
2006-09-26 20:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister has a complicated time handling my life because she has been attempting to concieve now for 5 years and it serisouly doesn't appear as if she's ever going to have somewhat one. I "oopsie" get pregnant and it makes her very unhappy that i visit sneeze and concieve a toddler. I favor i ought to help her yet I have no longer something i visit do for her. She change into excited when I had my first 6 a million/2 years in the past because she did not understand she couldn't have little ones. In 2003 I had a miscarriage and he or she change into terrible and her and her husband stated I deserved it and stated as me a whore (i change into in a courting on the time, an fairly strong and intensely lengthy courting LOL) and they hated me for it. I had my 2d daughter 14 months in the past or maybe as my sister loves her niece she desires she would have her personal and he or she is attempting more beneficial sturdy and bigger sturdy to the point of obsession. Now i'm pregnant back- 37 weeks now and he or she is having an undesirable time handling it. I presented for her if she will be able to attempt for yet another 3 years that i'd be a surrogate for her if she needs and he or she has common and this retains an oz of peace interior her soul. there is quite no longer something you could do to make your sis do not ignore that you nonetheless have a life to lead even if if her life is somewhat demanding. she will be able to quickly understand and sense free that her little niece or nephew is on the way- that's merely very complicated to have lost a toddler and watch some different person have a splendidly healthful toddler. that's an fairly unhappy situation. attempt to be sypathetic yet to boot have a communication with her it really is cut back and dry... that you're sorry she lost her toddler and also you help her in besides plausible yet that you actually have a life to stay and that contains bearing little ones.
2016-10-16 02:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by carrilo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to tell her and it will be very hard for her to deal with so you will have to allow her to be upset when she hears your news. six months is not long enough for her to be able to think rationally, she will be happy for you as you are her sister but she will be upset that her baby isn't hereand it's not her that's pregnant I had a stillborn baby at 40 weeks and the grief is overwhelming and lasts years. If you don't tell her she will feel excluded. be gentle with her,best wishes
2006-09-26 23:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by cino_bean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I not really good person to ask this question as I was never lucky enough to have any of my own, but I truly believe that although your sister lost her baby, she would be very very happy to hear of your good fortune. I wish you all the luck in the world. GOD bless you and your sister. Will be praying for you both. Love and peace always.
2006-09-26 20:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dreana S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those situations where you are damned in you do and damned if you don't.... either way can have a bad reaction. And being your sister how long can you really not tell her? You are going to have to eventually.... Id wait a few weeks and then tell her
2006-09-26 20:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with telling your sister. She has had time to grieve her loss. You are probably very excited about your new baby and want to share it with the world. I think your sister should be happy for you. I just wouldn't go into details about how excited you are. You may want to keep that to yourself for a while.
2006-09-26 20:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her, if she finds out too late or from someone else it might make her feel bad that you couldn't come to her and tell her. She's your sister, she'll be happy for you regardless of her loss.
2006-09-26 20:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will possibly not be easy for her
but on the other hand, she will much prefer to hear it from you, rather than hear it from someone else who is bound to be less close (not being your sister), or than seeing it when it starts showing.
so go ahead, tell her, just try to avoid extreme positive demonstrations.
2006-09-27 00:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by AntoineBachmann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should - she will be happy to share your joy! She will realize the difference between the two situations, don't worry.
2006-09-26 23:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course! If shes a good sister she'l be happy for you! :) congrads on the baby
2006-09-26 20:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by prettypinknz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋