He is 39 (I'm 34) and I don't know whether to consider him seriously or not...I wonder about my future with him....how important is intelligence and economic situation when thinking about getting married????
2006-09-26 19:53:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So what if he is not the brightest person and poor don't you think having heart of gold and love you more than anything else is that enough for you. If not then I think you needs to look for another guy. It is better to marry a person who has good heart than those who are rich and bright when they can maltreated you. Though now a day women are more materialistic and sophisticated that they prefer men with more money and genius person.
2006-09-26 20:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rijied 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very important, but so is love.. and sometimes u have to give up one for the other.. now financial situations are subject to change if ur smart.. Security is the issue not the money at hand.. so u need to help him realize how security in the future (retirement, 401k plan ect) are important and if he doesnt have a job that has those plans its time to start relocating to one that does.. and the same for u.. and if u budget ur money wisely put it in good financial investments then as long as he's a hard worker, then things will work out in the long run.. if you love him.. anything can work its way out.. but money shouldnt be what totally hinders ur decisions, now if he has a going no where job and he has zero aspirations of getting one, then u have a problem.. but sometimes people just need someone to help show them the way..
2006-09-27 04:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen... economic situation may go and come ..... its not actually a big deal....
BUT intelligence is something which a person must have to survive.... you should have some brains to think about how you are going to survive and how you are going to feed your family.....
but then if you are a working woman and you earn handsomely enough to live comfortably after marryng this guy, then let me tell you this............. Your guy is one of the rare kinds that exists today.... where else you will find a guy with pure heart.... you can marrying him only if you think you can single handed earn for the family that is going to come.....
2006-09-27 03:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The not to bright thing will probably bother you down the road more than the money thing, can you smarten him up maybe some college classes or life skills classes or something to help him because you don't want to break that heart of gold later on down the road when that not so bright thing starts to turn you off or embarrass you in front of your peers! That happened to me once with the sweetest guy and sexy too but after the lust wore off he sounded dumb in normal conversation and it bothered me I suggested college and it stuck in his head. A few months after I broke his heart he enrolled and is in his 2nd year we are still friends and today I am proud of him but married to a better for me guy! Good Luck!!!
2006-09-27 03:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by katie k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
G'day,
I believe both of you already got a job. How's his job compares with yours? How long have you been together?
These questions need to be asked b'cos of my ethnic background, altho it may be applied for anyone anyway. Man is usually expected to perform better in earning some monies. If the woman is doing better than the man, then usually there will be 2 outcomes, either the man feels that he is not worthy of you, or you later feels that he is not worthy of you. Some people may say that it is a terrible thing to say, but you'll be surprised to hear or even think about this later in your marriage life.
Another thing as well, he may need some 'encouragements' from you as well from time to time to perform better. Now... how do you feel if you have to tell him what does he need to do? How does he feel if you have to assist him from time to time? He may develop a low self-esteem as well, unless he loves you very-very-very much and doesn't mind your encouragements.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-09-27 03:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by Batako 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is able to hold some sort of employment or you are able to support the two of you, a man with a heart of gold would be worth more than money itself to a person like me. Finding someone who you can consider to be honest, thoughtful, genuine and kind, is worth all the money in the world as there are very few of these rare gems out there in the world. i say go for it as long as you are able to be the main provider in the family.
2006-09-27 03:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by scarlettohara1861 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is almost 40 and still poor, that is how it is going to be. Unless he has inheritance coming, or something else, you are asking for a life of wanting.
If he isn't real bright, you won't even have the pleasure of a good conversation. Why do that to yourself?
2006-09-27 02:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by busybody12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very important. Just make sure he has alot of savings and at least one or two property. Otherwise your future will be bleak.
2006-09-27 03:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has heart of gold what are looking for just go ahead because geeks are a better option than studs and yes they are more sensitive too.
2006-09-27 03:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by chubby cheeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you ever feel bored and lonely when you are with him?
if so, do you have to be away from him to shake out of that mood?
if both are "yes" I think you shouldn't rush into marriage.
2006-09-27 03:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋