What if your husband/wife completely stop having sex with you because you refuse to give oral pleasures. What do you do. But when he/she want to have intercourse they take it while you are sleeping. Then when you are ready they don't want it no more. What actions should be taken?
2006-09-26 19:43:27 · 19 answers · asked by sweetlee725 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage should be give and take, compromise. It is not something that is there for a person just to take. That is violating your personal space. I think reporting a rape to the cops will cause all sorts of problems, as well as being expensive. If the situation can't be discussed between the two of you, I'd suggest counselling or separation. This sounds really disgusting. I'd hate my partner to do that. Lucky we both love oral hey!!
2006-09-26 19:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by jewel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a doozy. Well, first of all that's called marital rape. Second, sounds like a major issue...most men, including me, would love to give/receive oral but most women are not into it (at least the giving part).
Is it a big part of marriage? No. Love and Communication is. Especially Communication. Communication will open the doors to questions you have but your husband/wife has the answers.
Perhaps a meeting of the minds may help. Make oral pleasures spontaneous that way he'll/she'll appreciate it and MAYBE, a BIG maybe, you won't feel obligated to perform it every time you make love to your husband/wife (trust me he'll/she'll appreciate it when he/she gets it...I would).
Take action asap before the worst thing you could imagine happens...HE/SHE CHEATS AND BRINGS YOU SOMETHING YOU CAN'T GET RID OF!!!
I hope this helps...coming from a REAL MAN'S perspective.
2006-09-26 20:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by DarkHardwoood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If oral sex is there, he is happy. The engine will work fine. In turn, other party will be happy. therefore compromise each other. If the shaft and the hole is perfectly clean, oral sex will not do any harm.This oral sex culture was given to the people by the blue films of the western countries. Otherwise, have sex is a holy thing in olden day.
But we cannot go aginst the world. We have to march with the world.
So have oral sex, provided that the instruments are very very clean and no facial.
good luck
2006-09-26 21:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by gunetilake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex is a huge part of any carnal relationship. I think these things should be talked about, and if marriage is about knowing each others likes and dislikes before being tied down then how did the other partner agree to it if they knew they were not gonna receive any?? Sex is not just intercourse; from touch and kiss to intercourse all is vital for a healhty sex life. I think that intercourse is just animalistic , to procreate. Worse come to course, the still hungry partner may secertly start havinng an affair, and personally, I wouldnt blame them.
2006-09-26 21:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by rajni l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex is an integral part of marriage so be a man and give her the pleasure. Running away from oral is just not right and would create problems for a man. If you have any concerns then talk to ur wife and discuss what u r comfortable with and what aspects of oral sex you are not comfortable with.. Discussion is the key..she is ur soul mate, life mate...dont waste ur relationship
2006-09-26 19:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by mediawala 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband and I don't really take part in oral sex, neither of us likes it that much.. he does every once in awhile and I will give it, but I do not like it done on me, we have come to the comprimise.
My husband used to dry hump my butt when we were sleeping but he never went so far as to actually have sex with me while I was asleep...
If he is having sex and you are asleep that is rape and you should report it and attend marital counseling and seek more emotional help.
2006-09-26 20:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by carebearashee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to call the police and report a rape. Short of that, you both need to get into marriage counseling. I suspect that there's a lot more at play here. How can you not feel somone having sex with you when you're asleep? Again, I think there's more going on here.
2006-09-26 19:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Tony G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about other relationships, but in mine oral sex isn't that important. For one, I don't like it done on me, never have and he doesn't like to do it, so that works. Then he likes it done on him, i enjoy giving, but he doesn't like it all the time. Works out great, actually. And if they have sex with you while you are sleeping that is rape. I would first talk to them, discuse it and if that doesn't help, go to the cops.
2006-09-26 19:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know that some women/men dont like oral sex however to me its like this..your married thats the one person your going to be with for the rest of your life..or so thats what it should be....anyways why not do everything and anything for them....wouldn't you rather do it yourself..then for you spouse to one day get fed up and find someone else who does the job...im not trying to be an *** im just thinking realistically...most women/men get into other relationships while married because their spouse doesn't perform what they want...or when they want it...im not say that when he has sex while you self is right that is wrong...but if your wife/husband can't pleasure you then who can.the person next door...down the street..at work.....huh
2006-09-26 19:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All sex is a big part of marriage. Don't matter what type. Are we a pair or just singles ?
2006-09-26 19:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋