2006-09-26 19:33:44 · 14 answers · asked by nil 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
What IS he interested in? Even if it is just "video games", ask him what his favorite game is. Then ask him if he thinks it could be better. If he says yes, ask him how. After explaining that it should have this or let you do that or whatever, try to bring up the fact that wouldn't it be cool if he could design his own games. This COULD [yeah okay so it's a stretch] lead to an interest in computer programming and rendering technology.
Everyone hates "studying". This is absolute truth. However, everyone likes learning about something they like. I have always liked computers and always wondered how they worked. So, I learned. And, it's funny, but I cannot ever recall having to "study" any books or anything about computers, but I can say with confidence I have learned a lot about them.
Anything interesting is never tedious. Anything non-interesting is boring.
Okay, so this applies to things like English class and biology class and some other classes--i.e. requirements. I was always frustrated when the counselor said I was not permitted to take math and physical science (physics/chemistry) classes all day. [Even college made me take English--it's a conspiracy I tell you It's not fair!] I once tried to argue we were conversing in English, isn't that enough? Didn't work, I lost the argument.
Anyway, motivate him to learn about what he wants to learn about. There is a postive aspect to every interest. Sort of like when we get older the saying "If you enjoy your job, you'll never work a day in your life" applies.
2006-09-26 20:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by quntmphys238 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many kids don't end up going to college right after high school. Some decide they would rather take a breather and it is unfortunate that some end up waiting too long.
Have you sat down and talked with him about his aspirations? It might be that he is afraid of failure or having too much pressure to succeed. Let him know that it may be extremely difficult for him to get a "good' job in the long run.
As suggested, point out instances where some people who do not cintinue their education end up in dead end jobs. Try not to be too pushy because it may cause him to rebel.
I think it is okay for him to take a few months off to relax. He will end up realizing that a college education is in his best interest. If he would not like to attend a traditional college have him inquire about online education. While online education is undoubtedly more expensive than a public university classes are given a couple at a time rather than 3 or 5 at a time.
2006-09-27 02:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by bella_estrella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No idea what age we are are talking about here.
Home schooling may be an option. My daughter did poorly in school, when we started home study I thought we had really made a mistake, she was only working at her studies about two hours a week. I was very surprised when the "A"s started showing up on her report cards. She had just been bored to tears.
With the school system diluted to the lowest common denominator, and more interested in teaching conformity than in getting children to think, we have pretty well lost it.
2006-09-27 02:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 children. And I know you can not force your child to "go to college and study" something they do not want or like. If they are uncertain of what they want to do, give them more time. My oldest took one year out and worked and saved money and then went to college, thus giving her more time to decide what to do with her life (Nursing). It worked out. I was on her and I wanted her to go right on in to college and it only sent her further away and made a wedge between us. And I do not want that again..NO! Next in line, my son is a freshmen in college just this fall quarter; he was ready and knew what he wanted to do.(Computer Science Degree/maybe a Masters?). I have a daughter now this year who will graduate June 07..and she "thinks" she wants to major in Art? She does well with Art and English..I don't know what it is with my girls; but they can't make up their minds..lol. Next in line..my son, a freshman (9th grade..wants to be a wrestler?) and my youngest son wants to be a doctor.
I just think he needs more space and time, he is just not ready. Keep in mind boys/men do mature at a slower pace than girls do. And just be there for him and continue to show him all the love and support a parent can give.
2006-09-27 02:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by sdrose17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make study a fun thing. Depending on his age, you could buy books on video and read along tapes, or use them at the library. He can watch videos and listen to music at the same time gain knowledge.
2006-09-27 02:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by jantutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a ride w/him through the worst neighborhood in the city. Point out all the homeless drug addicts, prostitutes and criminals. Tell your son "Do you want to end up LIKE THAT?"
NOTE: you should definitely take a firearm with you for protection, just in case
2006-09-27 02:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by college_republicans_club 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? Do you what reason(s) make your son no interest in study? Talk to him....Talk positive ...to encourage him instead of to blame him....all you need to communicate with your son .......
2006-09-27 02:40:11 · answer #7 · answered by hongkees 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the benefits of studying. Also give him examples of the men of higher qualifications. The need is just to inspire him.
2006-09-27 02:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by har 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to check what he is interested in. may be he wants to learn music or some other thing. dont force ur own wishes on him
2006-09-27 02:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just observed that what he have interest either in subject or in any play game
2006-09-27 02:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by chirag s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋