we have been married for 3 years now, and my husband,s gone off sex, saying it,s dirty.and dont want it any more.when we met i was a size 18 then i ballooned to a size 24 ,i,ve been on a weight program and have gone down to a size 14 and i am looking better then ever please help
2006-09-26 19:29:44 · 14 answers · asked by ssldavey2003 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
well your weights not the problem he said he feels dirty can you think what could have made him change like this.
ask him why he feels dirty and if he cant answer you ask him to go to the doctors
is he depressed there nothing worse than depression for making you think and feel differently about things.
is he on medication a lot of medications side effects are loss of libido.
and don't take this the wrong way cos i don't mean it to sound bad but please don't start using this page as an answer to your problems.talk to your husband only you know him from how he was to how he is now.
i wish you all the luck in the world and i hope together you can sort something out xx
2006-09-29 12:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your weight is the issue. He said that sex was "dirty and he doesn't want it anymore". I think the issue is sex, period. It sounds like he has some deep issues around sex itself. You didn't mention what your sex life was like when you first got together, but I imagine based on his statement about sex, that it probably wasn't great.
I would encourage you to talk more to your husband. Try to find out why he thinks sex is dirty. Has he always felt this way? If not when did he start feeling this way? What caused him to adopt this attitude towards sex? What kind of attitudes did his parents have about sex? Was he abused in any way in regards to sex (physically, emotionally or spiritually)?
If he does have some issues in his past I would encourage you to encourage him to seek counseling about it. I grew up in a family that had a very negative attitude towards sex and sexuality, and counseling has really helped me.
Keep the lines of communication open with him, try to talk to him and support him as much as you can. Try to remember that his feelings of distaste about sex probably have nothing to do with you at all. After all you have lost weight..congrats!
2006-09-26 19:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by mopo28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have confidence me its not all down right here from there, and if the start of his new child makes him in no way prefer to have intercourse with you lower back, have confidence me its not the start. It sounds like its purely considering the fact which you're so a approaches a protracted he's uncomfortable. i think of he would desire to be there once you have the new child, you could not deprive him of that via fact of your worry of your sexual deprivation after the adventure. He has each suited to make certain his new child born. You adult males can constantly bypass to counseling. yet have confidence me when you have the toddler if he would not prefer to have intercourse with you, the being pregnant and start isn't the priority. you purely would desire to understand which you're attractive and the pregnant physique is attractive. And if he would not love you for giving life to his new child yet another guy will! Congrats!
2016-12-18 17:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by satornino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that its your fault. Your fluctuating weight wouldn't have anything to do with it. He is a different animal than he was in his twenties. Sex drive tends to come down a step in a mans thirties. If he has had E. D. then that could be it. That can really drive a man batty. If so then he may need you to get him going with more foreplay. It takes you time sometimes doesn't it? If he is not interested in sex then i really don't see him as seeing anyone else unless your problems have skyrocketed outside of the bedroom.
2006-09-26 19:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by i_put_down_the_toilet_seat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may need to look elsewhere for a partner, 28 yr old males do not 'go off' sex unless being brainwashed by a religion.
2006-09-26 22:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by Autumn Breeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a pitty you slim down hew loses interest,maybe her likes large girls?if he does then your in trouble,you need a big talk with your husband or he may start an affair with a size 20
2006-09-26 19:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking him for sex, go to www.hoodiahoodia.com, and buy one bottle of their product, use an expensive Cologne that attracts him to you, but remember, ignore him and don’t ask for sex until he will, even if he did, make your self don’t want.
2006-09-26 19:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by junaidi71 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose weight, be erotic, offer him a glass of wine and a kiss. That should help.
2006-09-26 19:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by J.SWAMY I ఇ జ స్వామి 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he cheated on you and is having an std outbreak .if this is the case he will continue turning you down until it clears up.that is just one of the possibilities
2006-09-26 20:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by kevin p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a girlfriend. ALL MEN ARE INTERESTED IN SEX.
2006-09-26 19:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by wandering_canuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋