I have realized in my 20's that that everything we make plans to do when we are young almost tie us to the past. To move on I have had to change some dreams, make some compromises, and leave some things behind. I have not been worrying about how this will make me feel if my life ends before I am ready. What if all the worries I had about making it when I turn 60 and wondering what if regreat giving up on this or that?
I just wanted to ask a question and see if there is more like a statement than an answer to (when is it ok to just be happy in the moment and forget that tomorrow is a mystery we can't solve? When is it O.K. to accept that yesterday happened for a reason beyond your control?) This question should span across generation gap because we all have days we wish didn't happen and dreams of perfection that we wait-sometimes work-for on our own?
2006-09-26 19:26:15 · 8 answers · asked by Mark B 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Dont make things complicated.
Jus accept life as it comes and live to your wishes and dreams.
U wil yourself experience the lesson of life.
2006-09-26 19:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by kummu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Supposedly, there are three stages to everyone's emotional development. Romanticism, Existentialism and Religion (bah!).
Everyone starts off as a Romantic. This means that they live for the moment and to hell with future consiquences.
As we develop we move into Existentalism. This is based on Reason and an understanding of the world that we live in. An Existentalist will do things for the greater good even though they do not enjoy them because they understand that they will be of benifit, either further down the line or to somebody else.
The final stage is Religion. This is based on Faith and the belief in things that we can never prove. Some one who has religion is suseptable to making apparently un-reasonable decisions but does so again, for the greater good. They may not benifit from them, they may not benifit anyone, but this is how they resolve all the questions in their minds, through Faith.
Whilst everyone starts off as a Romantic they might not ever progress to the other stages. However, typically, a child is a Romantic, in their late teens early 20's they start to err towards Existentialism, and sometime between their 50th birthday and their deathbed they get Religion.
However, please note that this definition of Religion is not tantamount to going to church and believing in God. It is a state of mind and very few young people are there, even though they are religious.
Personally, I hope I remain an Existantalist forever. I cannot accept blind Faith, I need the answers.
2006-09-27 04:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was a complicated question, to me. In the song, "My Way" popularized by Frank Sinatra, there is a line, "...Regrets, I've had a few; then again, too few to mention...." For someone who had a lot of regret, as I did, this helped "soften the blow." Are there things I regret? Sure, but I've moved on.
One lesson from life that I learned as a child and teenager was that the closer I got to age 20, the less "dreams" were going to come true. I am not a psychiatrist. (Smile.) I do work in the "social services industry" in my state and in that way help others. I am a good listener. I try to help people see things from other perspectives and help them make their own advice. Maybe not in this life I am not a psychiatrist, but I still have the inner motivation to HELP.
"Just for Today" is a good motto. "Just for today I will have a [plan of action]. I may not keep it, but I will have it. In this way I will avoid the distractions of confusion and worry."
Try living one day at a time.
Does that mean throw caution to the wind? No. But don't needlessly deprive yourself of some measure of happiness and comfort.
You're as happy as you make up your mind to be.
Even the most negative person can become your friend if you force yourself to like them and hang around with them.
2006-09-27 02:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by latenightuser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what you have to do to survive... life is hard.. it's not fair... if you want to try something different or something new don't be afraid. Give it your best effort or you'll always fail. Do what you want to do (within the constraints of the law). You'll always regret something... no one on this earth has lead an error free life... you have to learn from your mistakes...
Look at me for instance... I have a bachelors in Computer Science and I'm a truck driver.... if I could have combined the two fine but I'm just happy being the truck driver. It's a lot less stress than the other job. So life doesn't always send you down the rose covered path... just make sure your wearing good shoes...
man all those cliches are terrible... but I think they are all true that's why some of them memorable they are all rooted in true.. for the most part...
2006-09-27 02:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do something good yourself and the world in a practical way.
Don't harm, don't lie, and bring something good and simple to your life & sorrounding.
2006-09-27 02:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Gabrio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's politically correct, recycled nonsense from the nineties.
2006-09-27 02:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-09-27 02:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by 2Horses 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now you just have too much time on your hands.
You know you get more points for answering questions than asking them. especially the same question.
2006-09-27 02:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by rimples25 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋