how to wins friends and influence people??

Answer 1

How to Win Friends and Influence People. This is Dale Carnegie's summary of his book, from 1936

Part One

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.


Part Two

Six ways to make people like you

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.


Part Three

Win people to your way of thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.


Part Four

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

A leader's job often includes changing your people's attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Answer 2

Become A Friendlier Person by
1.Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2.Give honest, sincere appreciation.
3.Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4.Become genuinely interested in other people.
5.Smile :-)
6.Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
7.Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
8.Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
9.Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Win People To Your Way Of Thinking by:
1.The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2.Show respect for the other person’s opinion.
Never say, “you’re wrong.”
3.If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4.Begin in a friendly way.
5.Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
6.Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7.Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8.Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9.Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
10.Appeal to the nobler motives.
11.Dramatize your ideas.
12.Throw down a challenge.

Be A Leader by:
1.Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2.Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
3.Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4.Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5.Let the other person save face.
6.Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
7.Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8.Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9.Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

Answer 3

That was an amazingly popular book written in the 1950s, which was picked up by salesmen everywhere. My father read it over and over.

I never finished it, but it was my impression that it was more honest and respectable than most of the popular psychology garbage written more recently. Look at neurolinguistic programming, for example.

Please understand that there is taking unfair advantage, and then there is taking fair advantage. I think "How to Win Friends and Influence People" was about how to take FAIR advantage.

Answer 4

You win friends by showing a genuine interest in them. Some people who are insecure, go on and on and try to impress other people with what they have done, who they know or what they own. But, there is a saying that goes: "When you are trying to make an impression, THAT is the impression that you make".

Answer 5

Read the book
The 7 habits of highly effective people by Covey
If a teenager i'd prefer The 7 habits of highly effective teens by his son Sean covey.

Answer 6

Although expensive, what I have found works is buying a meal or snacks for one or more people. Food seems to unite people (the "breaking of bread" as religious people would call it, and wine is alcohol which is a social lubricant --maybe religious people had it all worked out!). Also, being a good listener helps. Sharing your foibles (letting people figuratively see your @$$) is good. Also adopting a positive attitude toward negative people and purposely seeking them out for companionship tends to work.

Answer 7

It's a helpful book, I have read it twice and want to have another one. You can download it free here http://ebookee.org/How-to-Win-Friends-Influence-People_80847.html, and do as the author told us to.

Answer 8

There's a book with that title.

Answer 9

I prefer "How to Lose Friends and Alienate People"

Answer 10

I think it was Dale Carnegie who wrote a book with that title.