I made some dumb mistakes and she moved out I'm trying with everything I am to win her heart back She says she needs some time to figure things out and she's confused I appreciate all help here as I'm lost without her not only was she my wife she was and is my best friend and lover I miss her terribly any help???
2006-09-26 18:45:33 · 12 answers · asked by hood_king_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Loving someone is not a matter of what you tell them but what you do. Even if you say you love her but you do not show it, it will not matter. Do not take her for granted, always be sensitive to her needs, be loyal and faithful - and love her from your heart. Meaning, you have to touch her emotions, change for the better. Let her know that you need a second chance do not wait for her to tell you what to do...but by instinct, do things that are pleasant for your relationship. Simple and thoughtful things expresses how much we care about the person. e.g. Do not cheat, be on time, helping her with household chores (helping her NOT doing everything yourself- but it's a bonus if you do...)
Ask yourself what do you want to improve in your relationship: is it communication? time to be with each other? how you understand each other? finances? sex life? All these things should be taken into account when you want an improvement in yourself and in both your lives. Marriage is a commitment- to nurture each other and make each other complete.
Love is a costly thing, do we love enough?
2006-09-26 20:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well depend on what kind of "dumb" mistakes you did. My advice, give her time to think, and you need to think too. Make sure you know what you want from the relationship before you talk to her. And be sure about what changes you need to do to keep your relationship. Tell her, Both of you need time alone to think and reconsider the marriage. Then talk to her when you she is ready, Maybe you guys need some professional help. Try everything you really feel. Don't lie. Ask her what she expect from you and the marriage. And start from there. If she love you, she will take another chance, but make sure to workout what you tell her other way she can go and never come back.
2006-09-27 02:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by speedy girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, you may have damaged the relationship beyond repair.
I am going to assume those mistake involve another woman and if that is so.. you wife may never forgive you for that and the trust is gone. She will remind you of what you did and always use it against you. I think you should just move on.. after 5 or 10 years of that .. it's not fair to both of you.
Trust is a huge thing and it's damaged. You need to learn from your mistakes and move on. There are plenty of other women out there .. but first you should be on your own and be true to yourself.
2006-09-27 01:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know and I know that she did the right thing by leaving...... go fix your self first you got problems that run deep....don't deny it you know its true...if she is smart she will see right through you and stay away. you would be very lucky to get her back.....don't blame her...if you truly love her then let her go for now and work on your self.... she deserves to have a man not a head case it is going to be a long road back if you even get a chance so get right with you self and be the man she needs and don't lie and say bull shitttt like I won;t do it again or I'm sorry cause that crappp ain't good enough and you probable don't even believe it your self .....
2006-09-27 01:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, people need space. Give her the space she needs, but make sure you are involved in her life even when you are apart. Tell her, that you love her and you realize you have made mistakes. That you understand that she needs space and tell her you are going to take the time too - to really look at yourself and make up for the mistakes you have made.
2006-09-27 01:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by mama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave her be. she needs time to think about things. if you really love her you will let her go and if she loves you..you two will end up together down the road. i know it's really hard but i just went through something like that with my bf and i let him have his space and things seem to be getting better. if she truly loves you she WILL forgive you for your mistakes and come back to you. she is probably also scared that whatever those mistakes were could happen again. you need to explain to her that they WILL NEVER happen again because YOU need to EARN her TRUST back!! trust is important in a relationship
2006-09-27 01:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to make the changes withthin yourself first. Correct the mistakes you made in the past, she's needs to see the changes to you need to made. This will take time. Do not rush anything, or constantly bug her about it. Take time and remember those promises you made to her & never kept, and finally do them. She'll know by then you mean business
2006-09-27 01:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by i serve HIM 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Id say get your butt to counceling, and ask her to join. If shes not up for it quite yet, work on your issues with that councelor alone. At least your wife will see youre trying, but that will not guarentee a return from her. Do what you can, and try your hardest. And be totally honest and senciere when it comes to her.
2006-09-27 01:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by RocketGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to drop this bomb on you buddy, but when a woman says she needs time it means she is screwing someone else. When this happens they are most likely in their 30"s or 40"s and at the height of their sexual drive or sexual peak and they can make YOU think that it your fault when it's not. Don't fall for their evil crap.
2006-09-27 03:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you know what BUSTER, that's what you get, ya'll men will never learn, You just don't know what you got till its gone!!! Maybe a little more wife time would have been good, and picking your dirty underwear up from the bathroom floor, or helping out with housework, or smiling when you didn't feel like it...damn men, all of you....DAMN YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-27 02:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋