expected to stay and watch the kids. I want time to do anything for me, maybe just take a bubble bath!!!
He is divorcing me now. Am I wrong to ask for my own space?
2006-09-26 18:17:45 · 9 answers · asked by proud mommy and wife 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he says now that it is because I screamed at him outside, but I had my reasons
2006-09-26 18:29:42 · update #1
ur not wrong, u have just as much rt to ur own time. its a respect thing.
what i can't figure out, is if men gave thier women some time to relax they would be happy, and if ur woman is happy, the family is happy.
this is the dumb stuff i did
we did not have alot of money even with both of us working. she was on her feet all day. so i picked up one of those portable jaccuzzies for the tub, some of those bath salts she liked, and a bag of the little refill candles. she worked late one night, i had dinner ready and the kids feed. while she ate i got her bath ready with some good music, and 30 some candles all over the bathroom. i had some wine and a small fruit basket by the tub. me and the kids went to a movie. i loved to baby her every chance i got. unfortunutly she became very ill and had to be put into a care facility only 35yrs old. the point is we need to be there for each other life is short . if he is not going to be there for u then u need to find someone that will. we r only human and sometimes we take our loved ones for granted, but he is flat disrespecting u.
good luck kiddo
2006-09-26 19:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you aren't wrong. The pair of you must have had other issues for him to want to divorce you all of a sudden! That's crazy. I have a fiance who can be quite selfish at times but this is beyond that. I understand him (being that he's a guy) expressing that he doesn't see where you're coming from but for him to not make an effort to understand you is wrong.
I doubt he's serious if his desire for a divorce is solely based on this incident, so just have a <3 to <3 with him and let him know how you've been feeling. Tell him that you don't mean to "*****" but it's been bugging you and it just wouldn't be right if you didn't express that. Communication is important and he should value that. Don't yell at him (though it's understandable) just have a serious chat.
I've learned through experience that men do not deal well with being yelled at or put down.
Best wishes to you! Take care of yourself and get some rest ;)
2006-09-27 01:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a lame excuse for him to divorce u. It is NOT wrong to have your own space. In fact it's very important that u give each other space to do your own thing once in a while. He sounds very selfish.
2006-09-27 01:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with my now ex wife i would come home ( im gone 3 weeks as i drive a truck) tell her to go take a bath, or go out to the store for a while and i took care of the kids.
2006-09-27 01:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. How else are you supposed to recharge your batteries? I am so sorry that you are having a hard time. Sometimes the only time I get alone is the drive to work and the drive home from work. I find myself driving slower.
2006-09-27 01:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by RiverGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope not wrong at all..... he sounds kinds selfish and childish.... sorry , just and observance there.... a lot of men are like that tho..... some even get jealous of their own children... shame but true...... but we moms in reality do NOT have the pleasure of time alone.... but it will come.... when they are almost grown or grown...... depends on the children !!! God bless
2006-09-27 01:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your correct in wanting and needing a little free time. I would have to say that he is a little "brat" and also needs to be responsible too.
2006-09-27 01:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by CubbysMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He just wanted and excuse to divorce you so that is his excuse. asking who is the other woman/ or man. because that is so dumb of him to do that.
2006-09-27 01:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by sweetlee725 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you yelled at him a lot didn't????? now he is gone I guess you got what you wanted.....
2006-09-27 01:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋