I want to know peoples opinions and please don't be rude. I've been seeing this guy and I get the feeling like he doesn't deserve me. He asked if I wanted to go to dinner and when we got there there he asked if I had $5 and I only had a $10 and I paid my own way for dinner. It hurt my feelings and I tried to express that's not how you treat someone you care about.
he has a big wad of money in his pocket but he can't even help out with $5 for gas when we where going to drive my car to the beach. Do you think I should break up with him? I'm already thinking about it but some second opinions would help.
2006-09-26 18:05:51 · 26 answers · asked by ♥♡♪♫☆♥♡♪♫☆ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh yeah and it was my birthday and he didn't get me ANYTHING, not even a rose or special date. do you think he's a cheapskate?
2006-09-26 18:07:29 · update #1
I would feel odd if I didnt pay for the date.
Dump the guy!
You deserve someone better!
If he is like that now, could you imagine later?
2006-09-26 18:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by hrithik_scrotum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by marinaccio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you seriously pay? I would have rather called a friend ,to go out to dinner .had a good time on my own ticket . When you pay the first time ,it will never be your last time. .you will swear on the day ,you ever accepted to be a friend to some tight wad like that . If, you care about you ,change the channel start on a new program. for get about this business of going dutch you don't live in Holland .
2006-09-26 19:04:31 · answer #3 · answered by lytesdelite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you to go with him to do anything, he should at least offer to pay. If he asks you to go somewhere, and then makes you pay, that is really just rude in general.
For the birthday thing, how long have you been going out? Months, or just a couple dates? He might not have known what to do for you because it's such a new relationship.
It's OK if he doesn't want to spend much money, but he should be straightforward about it instead of putting you in a position to pay for things unexpectedly.
2006-09-26 18:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he is a freaking tight wad! Besides why is he driving your car? He is no man. You will be miserable with someone like that. Find a man that will treat you like a princess. Though money isn't everything in a relationship but at least there are men out there that know how to treat a good woman by at least buying her one rose to show how special she is.
2006-09-26 18:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors in this.
If he is having financial issues, then it is reasonably acceptable for him to not pay for everything--although he should offer from time to time.
If you have been dating for a good while, then you should generally go dutch or switch back and forth on who pays. If you have not been dating long, the burden of payment should go to the asker of that specific date.
There isn't a whole lot of excuse for him to not get you anything for your birthday. Even the poorest guy can get some notebook paper and make a card.
If you aren't happy, you should go ahead and break up with him. However, in the future, be sure to expect to pay for dates from time to time. It is 100% normal for women to pay at least part of the way. (My first date with my fiance was my senior prom, and I refused to let him pay for everything...what I'm saying is that you should keep in mind the cost for the entire event; if it's expensive you should at least offer.)
2006-09-26 18:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have Paid, after all he asked you to dinner, but beware of why you were asked. if you have shown the softer side since you've been dating(you know that side where you try to do everything to please him) then he's using
your kindness for weekness to get what he wants. He never intended to pay for your meal, he just wanted company and a ride for dinner and since it was your B-day, what better opportunity to kill 2 birds with one stone. Point Blank(He went out with you for your B-day at your expense.) I think you know the answer to your other question.
2006-09-26 18:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by keepnitreal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would dump him. He's just using you. My opinion is, if he wants to date me he's going to pay for dinner and whatever else we do for the evening. I don't mind that some women what to pay for their half or whatever, but if that is not you don't put up with that kind of behavior or it will continue or get worse.
2006-09-26 18:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask your self what kind of man are you looking for??? decide that first then look for that kind of man....notice i am saying man and not guy....guys are what men are before they become men.....a man will respect a woman so be a woman first... a man will want to show the woman he is interested in that he is Worthy of her so he will pay and drive and give gifts like flowers and stuff. a man will be seeking a mother for his future kids so he must be able to support them and protect them so don't be fooled by guys saying they can do those things but can prove it...... a loser guy will seek girls who will have sex on a date and or move in with them without being married....a man will respect a woman for not giving in to sexual desire,but will project a willingness to love him in marriage. and be his woman then....a real man wants a woman he could be proud of and show off to his friends and take home to his family and who he would trust to raise his children........ be the kind of woman a man would seek out and you will find the right man to be with...... remember to pick a man with your brains, your gut feeling, and sound reasoning, and not just your goofy girlish notion of what love should be because your kids are relying on you to pick the right man to Be there father.....good luck....
2006-09-26 18:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ,Yes please go on and talk to him about the level of his seriousness in the relationship.That is the keyword..See if he maintains eye contact and go by your gut instinct since there is no other way to know his state of mind..
All the best and remember you are special and someone somewhere is made for you ! Happy be-lated birthday!
2006-09-26 18:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋