Is it showing someone how much you care by doing anything for them?
Is it being completely loyal & dedicating yourself to only one person?
Is it a sexual thing and is that why its called "making love"?
Is it laughter?
Is it pain?
Is it comfort?
Is it a friendship like no other?
Is it having a family, that you never had before?
Is it knowing everything there is to know about that person?
Is it taking care of the one you love when they are so sick they might die?
Is it putting yourself in a position to ruin your life and your dreams just to be with them?
Is it giving up on everything you've ever care about and sacrafice your happiness for theirs?
Is it unconditional trust and forgiveness for someone even though they have made mistakes that would be otherwise unforgivable?
Is it tearing your heart out, crying your last tear, and breaking your self-esteem down until you are so weak you cannot go on?
If I feel all of the above for one person, is that the person that I will spend the rest of my life loving? Or trying to love?
If I fail at "love", do I get a second chance?
Will you still love me if Im not perfect?
Is it still love if the love I feel is different than the love you feel?
How is that possible?
Isn't love mutual?
Don't we both have to feel the same way for it to really be love?
And if its really not love than why do I feel this way?
Someone help me, I think im going insane...
2006-09-26 17:59:55 · 15 answers · asked by lostin20s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self-love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.
The concept of love, however, is subject to debate. Some deny the existence of love. Others call it a recently invented abstraction, sometimes dating the "invention" to courtly Europe during or after the middle ages (though this is contradicted by the sizable body of ancient love poetry). Others maintain that love really exists, is not an abstraction, but is indefinable; being a quantity which is spiritual, metaphysical, or philosophical in nature. Some psychologists maintain that love is the action of lending one's "boundary" or "self esteem" to another. And others attempt to define love and apply the definition to everyday life.
2006-09-29 01:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in love but you didn't love yet. the feeling that you have right now is very strong and I respect it but you need to know that withing 2 to 3 years from this relationship this feelings will go down and your eyes will be opened. and you will see things in the other person you never saw it before. At that time, the real feeling will come ,either love or seperation. I don't agree with you to have a full trust and confedance, you have to keep in the back of your mind that everything bad is possible (it's like a vaccine from any unexpected situations) so you won't be shocked or hurt so bad. But anyway, Good luck :)
2006-09-26 18:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by ahmedragab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, your bottom line of the question is the answer-- the
Greeks, in a wonderful observation, called love just another form or insanity. Love is a 'Feeling" you get. like being hungry. You can induce "love" or the "feeling" just by injecting someone with chemicals. In fact, you can inject someone with chemicals to make them " feel" hungry, or sad, or happy .. or anything you want.
Love would be a chemical reaction affecting your whole body, with hormones and chemicals flowing back and forth from the brain to other nerve and gland centers.
And yes, as the greeks said, you are going insane, since the mind is affected very strongly, and you loose your objectivity.
2006-09-26 18:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by outgoingtraffic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of it.
Love forms in different ways.
Only you can define it.
Love is a long time. Liking is a short time.
Love that you love to feel it without having sex.
Love pours out with a hug.
Love happens when you know it. Love don't mix with confusion.
Love is confirming and definiting.
Love can be crazy, can be tense, can be calm, it can be anything. Only your heart can tell you that because individuals has different way of loving.
Be in Love with Yourself First And Love will Come Next!!!!!!!!!!! :)
2006-09-26 18:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by beautifulswan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey whoa...one question at a time. You make me dizzy. There are many forms of love. When you meet someone and there's a chemical attraction without knowing them at all ...then that's just attraction. When you get to know them and still like them and want to be with them all the time...thats more than attraction. But when you see their faults but still love them and feel so good when you're together that's love. Real love is wanting what's best for them. We have romances which are based on physical attraction and real love develops over time. Trouble is we let sex complicate things before we are really in love and that is confusing. Love is a mixture....attraction, friendship, sexual love, really caring about this person who can annoy you and yes....hurt you...sometimes. Love is meshing two lives together in every way to make one life shared by two.
Its not doing anything for them to prove your love...especially if that involves losing yourself, changing your personality or doing things you consider to be wrong. Real love is deciding that no matter what you will forgive and keep loving them... not the oowie-goowie romantic feelings...but the strong love in action.
Being completely loyal and dedicating yourself to one person only sounds great but it could get obsessive and you always need lots of other friends and relations to make your life happy. But you find out about that once the absolute loving/only have eyes/ and time for you/ stage is over.
Sexual love is only a fraction of a loving relationship. If the relationship is good then sex will develop over time ...good relationship and the giving and receiving of pleasure will be good. Especially for a woman she needs to be treated in a loving way that romances her and not treated coldly and then expecting her to jump at the chance of sex. Sex can be purely selfish...its not always loving.
Its sharing and pain and comfort and heaps of other things rolled into one.
It can be a friendship like no other but they may not be your soulmate but it still can be good. But the relationship will not be all you need in life. Don't expect it to meet all your needs.
It can be having a family but that depends on how close you get to him and his family. I don't think it ever is knowing everything about anpother person. Tjhere's got to be some mystery. It certainly is knowing lots. But some things you won't really like to know...not all th enitty gritty.
Love is definitely being there for them when they are very sick. And the kind of grieving you do proves how much you loved them.
Love is not putting yourself in any positions that might ruin your life or stop your dreams. No one who loves you would demand that much of you if they care.Its not giving up everything or sacrificing your own happiness...that's plain dum. You will make sacrifices but hopefully wise ones. Relationships should be mutually happiness making! Real love does trust and forgive but don't be walked over. Trust is earned and forgiveness is a two way street. It won't ever be perfect. Too high expectations will always be disappointing.
Real love will not break down your self esteem. Love builds up. Love is patient and kind. It is not self-serving. Real love loves the imperfect ...and since no one is perfect then it has to be that way. I don't think you both necessarily feel exactly the same way...it would be choice if you find that but don't expect it. You are not going insane. ! Love is a rocky road, but exciting and changing and evolving. But slow it down a bit. The intense feelings are just that...intense....and only feelings....good feelings but some are unreliable and don't help you know whether you have met that certain someone. Don't rush headlong into anything...your haert and emotions will try to take over. Think rationally...be happy but also be wise. All the best!
2006-09-26 18:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I continually chanced on that the inspiration is love maximum of all. What I propose with the help of love is, attractiveness of who you're, and the soul mate God meant you to be with. have confidence is the different. you may learn have confidence. have confidence is something it fairly is obtainable in time . Forgiveness is a ongoing and a could. not basically on your mate, yet additionally for your self. Compassion and insitivity of each others thoughts. final yet not least.....know. devoid of know, you cant do the above. i like your question. I even have had to conflict this for myself and my relationships alot. expertise shows us the way in this experience. Be bless my chum.
2016-10-01 10:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's all the above and then some. I felt comfortable with my man at first glance. I think a relationship has to be give and take all the way and sacrifices made for eachother.
2006-09-26 18:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by robbie347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
God gave us the definition of Love in His love letter to us- the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13 beautifully sums it up- you could read it online if you'd like- same with John 3:16, and Ephesians 2:8,9
Hope this helps! :)
2006-09-26 18:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Shanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is beyond the feeling of euphoria that you get from being in love. Easy answer! Love is when another persons happiness is more important to you than your own happiness!
2006-09-26 18:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is everything you mentioned above, but the most important thing to know is that it can make you strong or break you.
2006-09-26 18:04:14 · answer #10 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋