A 'friend' of mine that I met a little over a month ago is 21 and I'm 18. I told him that I want a relationship with him. He said that he's not ready for a serious relationship, that he is too young, that he's not sure what he wants in a girl, that he's still trying to find what else is out there. Then he said that if he was in a relationship with me he would probably cheat on me so there's no point for him to be with anyone right now(that's what he said). He's dating somebody, which I already knew that he was, but he said that they aren't exclusive so he can see other people just like she sees other people...
My thing is that I really really want to be with him but evidently he is just not quite ready for an exclusive relationship he still wants to play the field... What exactly should I do about this situation
2006-09-26 17:56:28 · 7 answers · asked by ~DANiELLE~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is basically saying to you 'Loook we can hook up and have sex but that is all I want". You are not going to get a long term thing out of this guy, if you want long-term, move along.
2006-09-26 18:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's being pretty honest. This means you can either just enjoy his company part time, or move along.
If you want an exclusive, you have to do 2 things:
1: be absolutely the best thing hes ever had for several days
2: stop seeing him for at least 2 weeks. Don't call, don't see him,
nothing. Let him experience the absence.
2006-09-27 01:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by cyphercube 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD are you just plain stupid?????? you know what you should just stay indoors for another 10 to 12 years because your a danger to your self and others...... he said no.... he's to young, he will cheat, and he's older than you and you still think you could have him??.......If I were a woman I would be ashamed because you just made several million woman look really bad with the way you think, but your probably a typical woman type anyways..... good luck your gonna need it....oh yea you had better have your tubes tied before you get knocked up by some loser you pick to change into a winner........
2006-09-27 01:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First I would say read what you just told us. Really read it. Your answer is there. He's already in a relationship, but it's not exclusive? Save yourself some grief and find someone deserving of you.
2006-09-27 01:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by ladylucknc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's clear....forget about him....wait for the one suited for you...for you alone! You should not rush love...love comes on it's perfect time...with the right person ....you're still young though, give yourself a chance to meet your real love. He is definitely not worth it..he had clearly said things to you....unless you really want your heart to be broken ...stick with him....but i assure you you will CRY!
2006-09-27 02:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by maic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either wait and see what happens or move on. What else can you do?
Seriosly, he is either trying to let you down gently or he really is telling the truth and either way I admire him. He could have just as easily used you and hurt you deeply.
Why would you want to be with somene who doesn't want to be with you? Please think higher of yourself.
2006-09-27 01:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone
2006-09-27 01:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by nextelfan25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋