you found out they had a special friend that they talked to regularly on the phone. there has never been intercourse, however they do have phone sex (a lot) and talk every chance they can.
2006-09-26 17:56:08 · 37 answers · asked by Goldenmutt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to make things more interesting for all of you, I am the one having the phone sex, and having the very emotional, mental relationship with my also married "friend". Its not just the phone sex, its the amazingly wonderful friendship we share. The phone sex could stop but not the friendship
2006-09-26 18:04:30 · update #1
It would depend on how much i loved them, and if they were prepared to give up that friend if asked.
2006-09-26 17:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by kel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't just divorce my spouse, but I would have to discuss the issues with him and give him a chance. If he doesn't change, then I would walk. Consider that these kinds of things will break the trust in a marriage and it would take an extremely long time to get that trust back, but it will never again be 100%.
Having said that, u should consider what u two are doing to your spouses and how they would feel if they found out. I don't care if it's just phone sex. It is still cheating and it is morally wrong, no matter how much u try to justify it.
2006-09-26 18:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating if sex is in the name. Oral sex, phone sex, cyber sex, etc. it's all cheating. What would you do if you found out she was doing the same thing behind your back? The phone sex is the first step to a full out affair. Phone sex with this person wont satisfy you forever. You will want more than that in the future. It is emotionally cheating if you have a friend of the opposite sex that you tell everything to even stuff you cant tell your partner. You are cheating and just think about how crushed your family will be when you get caught. You are willing to put your wife and kids through hell just because you cant keep your dick in your pants even if it is just on the phone. Hope it's worth it.
2006-09-26 19:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by ckoladawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all your both married ! How do you feel about your spouse is the question that you need to ask yourself? And does your spouse know that your doing this, with the so call friend? If your partner knows about this think of how he/she may feel that you have been doing this for sometime . I think that you really should stop what you are doing for the sake of your relationship with your partner. You married this person because of love, not just sex, I would think. So just sit with your spouse and talk things out and make it work if that's what you really want to do.And stop the phone sex.
2006-09-26 18:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely would. A marriage is supposed to be - not just about sharing kids, financial responsibilities, and a place to sleep with each other - but about love, emotional attachment, intellectual stimulation, fun, and becoming best friends and lovers to each other. It is obvious that in your marriage that is not the case.. so in my eyes.. that is no marriage.. you are being unfair to your spouse (I missed your gender).. He/she deserves a life and a loving relationship better than the one you are providing. If he/she can't come up with the courage to give you a divorce.. then you should realize that the only fair and caring thing you can do for your spouse is to give one to him/her and let him/her move on and have a life with someone other than you.. and if you truly have this great connection with the other person.. maybe you can convince him/her to do the same and get together with that person..
2006-09-27 05:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I would divorce them but the phone sex needs to stop. Even though the spouse is not techinically cheating, they are obviously emotionally cheating. The couple should have a serious discussion on why this is happening. If the spouse refuses to stop or it gets worse then yes I would divorce them.
2006-09-26 17:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by Dirty.Little.Secret. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce not the best solutions..Yeah,I might satified with my decision if I divorced my spouse because I'm in anger at the time when I know my spouse have phone sex with somebody else.But it wont be a good idea to solve this problem.So what I should do is control my anger and then my spouse and I have to talk from heart to heart..I'll try to advice my spouse to stop phone sex with somebody else..But if my spouse still want to have a phone sex and she become phone sex addicts I
will let her have the phone sex with me...!!!!Hehehehe...
2006-09-26 18:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ashita Tomorrow Iwasaki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, the answer is yes. There is no logical reason that your significant other be having phone sex, especially a lot, with someone else. They said vows and if they are not willing to keep them (even mentally) then the marriage is already over, just not legally. Good luck!
2006-09-26 17:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation will not get better until you end this virtual relationship. If you want to stay married, STOP! All contact. You'll not be able to keep both for very long. You're also effecting HIS marriage. If you want a divorce, keep it up. If you keep this secret friendship you are drawing bad Karma. I wouldn't do it myself.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 18:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if divorce would be the route to take, but I think that it there is definitely a serious issue that needs to be addressed. He shouldn't be having phone sex with anyone but you. The talking every chance they get is bothersome too. I'd be mad at him, but what right does this chick have to be doing this with YOUR husband. I hope for the best for you.
2006-09-26 18:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by ccmlgs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would divorce my partner, becos this will ultimately end up in real sex with the phone caller. The phone caller will say everything to rouse her feelings and she will try to get those things done by local people, ultimately making her/him a whore.
the answer is that you should give her kick and chase her away. If possible shoot the balls of the phone caller
2006-09-26 21:54:15 · answer #11 · answered by gunetilake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋