2006-09-26 17:40:32 · 16 answers · asked by Brooke2009 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Yes. It relieves me from the pain, I was suffering through.
2006-09-27 05:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by goodbye 6 · 12⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day (whether it takes a day or a year), yes you do feel better. When I was young, I used to think that forgiving someone meant that I had to ignore my feelings for the sake of the other person or also let them get away with what they did. Now that Im older, in the big picture of life, when you forgive someone, it is NOT for that person's benefit but for your own. It is unhealthy to harbor negative feelings in your body because believe it or not they do affect you. If you are an unforgiving person, as time goes on and do not forgive, then you will end up with many negative thoughts/feelings for different people. People will not be affected as much as you will be affected. Yes, you can argue, "well he/she will miss out on my friendship, etc." so yes, that person will be affected. True, but we are talking about you here, not them. Also, we have to allow others room for mistakes, just like you make mistakes (say the wrong thing at the wrong time, basically offend someone, for example). In other words, just like the wonderful prayer "Our Father," "forgive us for our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us." Isn't wonderful when you really f**k up and you just feel awful and torture yourself "why did I do/say that??!!" Then when the time comes to come face to face with that person....and that person's like "oh, that's ok...you were just (tired, sick, drunk, etc.) I understand...we're cool." And then this huge weight lifts off your chest/shoulders. Isnt that the best feeling ever?
2006-09-27 00:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by bbw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope. it didn't make me feel any better but ignoring the feeling just makes it all go away. the reason why i don't forgive is the thought that that person will expect i'll be forgetting everthing. as if nothing happened. so, deciding whether i prefer to feel the guilt feeling because i didn't forgive someone OR to feel being manipulated and fooled, i'd prefer to feel guilty. at least, in the latter, i am against myself. in the former, i don't have any control anymore.
2006-09-27 00:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by jedi_rei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you forgive someone from your heart, than only you can feel better. But some people are not worth forgiving. They take it for granted.
2006-09-27 12:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by .. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Forgive and forget is better. Not forgiving would mean the pain/incident is still within you, carried in you and will still hurts. Why hurt yourself (especially when life goes on for the other party)? Emancipate yourself from mental slavery. None but yourself can free your mind :-)
2006-09-27 00:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by TK 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no some times you just have to put things on the shelf for awile to realy deal with them right insted of in the heat of the moment saying yes I will forgive you and not realy being honest
2006-09-27 00:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by esoreinna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not forgiving is the start of hate and that is not a good feeling you can forgive them without telling them thats the start to growth
2006-09-27 00:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it has...but only to think that I have forgiven is not enough ..u hav to forget as well ...cuz if I think i have forgiven but i still remember the occasion and how i had felt then i'm nothing but a hypocrite...In my case, I don't remember when I have forgiven..I come to know of that occasion only when others tell me after a long period expressing their gratitude..I don't want to appear to be proud..but thats real forgiveness...forget it...and its really heavenly...Cuz bitterness in heart is also as fatal for us as it is for the offender
2006-09-27 00:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by True_lover 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it will not make me feel better. It is a burden when we dont forgive someone whether it is because we cant or we wont. It is harder to move on.
2006-09-27 00:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you forget to forgive that person. Yeah.
2006-09-27 00:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it like this:
You can forgive, but you can't forget.
2006-09-27 00:48:06 · answer #11 · answered by glow33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋