Do you agree That some parents have become spineless jellyfish afraid to discipline their children?

Question

The worst mistake a parent can do is try to be a "friend".
Reach down and grab a pair or at least scatch the phantom outline where they used to be and dicipline your children when they do wrong. I am sick and tired of people rewarding bad behavior and they wonder why their kid is throwing a temper tantrum in the toy aisle at Wal-mart. Even worse they give in and buy the toy to shut the kid up.

I have seen "Fathers" that my 3 year old is more of a man than. At least he is polite.

Simple solution,(warning logical content ahead.) Leave the store. Is shopping that important that you can't do it later when you child is better behaved?

Their are other punishment then spanking.
and yes I do have kids.

I work retail and I would rather put away a cart full of stuff then deal with a brat scraming and crying.

Answer 1

I agree with your thought on this and if the parents would only look to see what their right are concerning correcting their children they would know. I had a 8 year old son that acted up no matter where I went and even in the big department stores and so I contacted the child abuse hot line back in 1980's and just recently for my grand children to find out what the correct punishment would be fot them acting up. I was told that a good strong hand to their bottom would work or a time out in a chair. I have also put them in a corner for a hour or so and removed all the things from their rooms to let them know that we as parent are responable to raise them, feed them, give them shelter and try to educate them the best that we can. In the Bible in certain area's it states that if a son disrepects a parent he shall be brought in front of the elders and if it is bad enough could be stoned. I feel this is a little harsh and should not be done to no one at all. I feel that if a parent has courage enought to teach a child right from the beginning that there is a time to have allot of fun with their parent but when the parent is stern and tells that child they mean business. This is when the child learns that they are to listen to the partent or something will happen or things that they like or like to do will be taken away. I hope that you can find a better way to a more understanding way to teach the parents that they are in chare and not the children. God Bless and great question

Answer 2

It's not so much that parents are afraid to discipline, it's that they don't want to spend the time disciplining. They would rather just give in and let the child win than spend the time and effort teaching their child right from wrong. Those same children who are undisciplined at home are then coming to school where we teachers have to teach them right from wrong, and explain why certain behavior is not acceptable.

It sucks because then those children grow into adults who think they can get what they want whenever and wherever they go. Example: Think about the idiot who was in front of you in line last time making a fuss over nothing and demanding the customer is always right. And you heard their "complaint" which wasn't even valid.

Answer 3

In case you haven't noticed in public "EVERYBODY HAS A RIGHT TO PROTECT A CHILD". This has led to alot of good parents being accused of child abuse.

WalMart has cameras and will turn you in to child services in the blink of an eye. They want the kids to throw a fit so the parents are embarrased to give in and buy the child something to shut them up, and at the same time they make more money.
Especially at the check out where the highest marked up items are.

Answer 4

Hear, hear! You said a mouthful!!
I spanked early and often. Consequently, I have a well behaved 12 year old who's mannerly, trustworthy and confident. I can't remember the last time he got spanked because he learned the first couple of times! I get told all the time how "lucky" I am to have such a good boy. It's not luck, but thank you all the same.

Answer 5

once in kmart, about 7yrs ago. I was christmas shopping for gift wrap. I went through the toy aisle and this kid was on the ground flailing and screaming and I almost ran him over with my cart. The mother yanks her son up and says you almost hit my kid. I was like thats a kid ? lady if thats a kid, tie my dam tubes NOW. try parenting.

she didnt know what to say. My kids act up, they get a swat on the back of the leg or they are out to the car asap. Im not putting up with that crap

Answer 6

Yup, many parents today walk on egg shells and let their kids run their lives. Parents need to realize they are the adult and the child is under their rule - not the other way around. I can't stand to see adults pacify children just because they don't want to deal with them.

Answer 7

what's seriously important is to understand and comprehend the distinction between self-discipline and abuse. i turned right into a CPS social worker for almost 4 years and that i will allow you to recognize the investigations I did, did not contain an worry-free case of self-discipline. self-discipline is age suitable, does no longer go away marks, bruises, cuts, lacerations, damaged bones, cranium fractures, and so on. i'm also the mother of three and that i self-discipline my toddlers in public an identical as I do in inner most. The self-discipline relies upon on their developmental degrees and the seriousness of the habit. self-discipline recommendations contain chatting with the youngster, redirecting, time-outs, spanking, eliminating from the challenge, and so on. those would nicely be used at the same time or singularly. it actually relies upon on the habit and the reaction to the self-discipline. mum and dad favor to manage self-discipline at the same time as on good of issues of their own mood - which i understand is hard and that i'm no longer continually sturdy at it both. maximum CPS agencies (in the experience that they are nicely experienced, which i'm unhappy to assert they are not all nicely experienced) have a screening procedure to weedout straightforward self-discipline calls. If CPS actually investigated a decision of abuse, maximum likely the caller both imbellished the incident or it went previous self-discipline. I have investigated many allegations - and that all of them in touch using whipping a baby with gadgets like extension cords, actually beating them till they had to hunt clinical interest, burning them with cigarettes, and so on. mum and dad ought to no longer be fearful of self-discipline, they only favor to comprehend what's suitable and do it for the point of redirecting the youngster - no longer making themselves sense vindicated. maximum persons fit into the first class. youthful toddlers will finally end up only as undesirable in case you do no longer something as in case you flow overboard and are irrelevant. I beloved the remark that you only don't be conscious the toddlers who've a deferential relationship with their make sure. And wager what, all youthful toddlers have undesirable moments as do mum and dad. supply one yet another help and a hand.

Answer 8

Yes

Answer 9

Yeah, and I'm tired of seeing 12 year olds walking around like crack addicted hookers. I guess they're just trying to emulate their parents, but geez.

Answer 10

That's because you can't hit the little freaks without being afraid someone is going to turn you in for child abuse...