How do you fix a relationship when you have cheated on your partner?

Answer 1

you should of thought about that BEFORE you cheated....as far as im concerned your relationship is not fixable.

Answer 2

i'll send her this poem which i wrote myself;
You.
Honey, Life's Too Short To
Reminisching Of The Past,
As I Wanna To Tell You That
Flirting Was Never In My Dictionary
For You,
Though There Are Too Many Of
The One To Be Remember,
As Every Single Girls That I Know
Are Ever Sweet In My Mind,
But If There's A Sin Of Mental
Adultery,
Then God Know's That I've Commited
A Thousand Times A Day,
Yet If You'll Just Stay To Hear
The Voice Within My Heart,
That I Just Wanted You To Know That
Love Meant Everything To Me,
As Having Hold Of Your Hand's,
Getting Your Head Upon My Shoulder,
Making Every Day's Special As
Valentine's Day Itself Is The Only
Thing I Wanna Do For You,
And There Come's The Time Even So
For A Second So Long That I Can't Even
Feel My Real HeartBeat's Missing You,
Where I Hope To Let You Know That
I've Hopelessly Fallen
In Love With You,
And It's For Me To Know That
There's Nothing More Important
In This World Than Making The Girl
I Love Being In Love........
Every Second's Of Her Day's And
That Girl Would Be You.

Answer 3

Honestly this part can't be fixed and not many people who cheat realize how bad what they are doing is. Not only what they are doing is bad for the spouse and children but bad for the the cheater as well. Nobody wants to be with a cheat.
It is hard to develop trust with a known cheater.
This effects society because some people can't trust theirselves to get married and sign a legal piece of paper. I'd be lying if I said it hasn't effected my decisions.

Answer 4

WITH ALOT OF WORK!!!!!
coming from someone who has been cheated on i can honestly say that it takes a strong person to forgive something like that you have to give that person time to heal and forgive but let them know also that this doesnt give them the right to disrespect you once they have healed they need to understand that they cant throw this situation in your face everytime they get mad so you realy need to just sit down and have a talk and let them decide if they are going to be able to trust you again or if you guys should just call it quits

Answer 5

The only way is if your partner is willing, you gave up all rights when you cheated. Now if it was a one time stupid thing and you admitted it to him, you may have a chance. If it was a long affair that he stumbled upon, there's no hope. And obviously you dont really love them. So talk to them if they are willing to try and you guys can go to therapy or something, go for it.

Answer 6

well, it's going to take alot of time to heal what you have done. you need to do all that you can to reassure your partner that you want to make things right and you made a big mistake. you should both sit down and talk about this every chance you get in order to make things work out. i'm sorry but it's going to take alot of time and sometimes things just don't work out after someone cheats. good luck!

Answer 7

How to Apologize for Cheating on Your Significant Other
We all make mistakes, and some are bigger than others. No one can deny the fact that Cheating on a spouse or committed partner is a big one. So what do you do once the damage is done, and better yet, how do you deal with the problem and fix the situation, can it be fixed? All good to know, and I'm hoping this article will help with that.

Steps
"WHY!" - The first thing to understand is that cheating often signifies that there is something wrong, or missing from your current relationship. The goal before you apologize is to find out what that problem is, so once you and your partner move past the inital shock of your actions, you can decide how to best address the problem .
"Do you love her?" If you got caught cheating on your signifcant other, they will be pissed, for lack of a better term, and will most likely ask a lot of detailed questions. These are going to be hard to answer...but be honest. Don't go into dramatic detail over your actions, but be honest about what you feel appropriate to answer. If you shut down now and refuse to answer the questions then a wedge could grow as a result and could lead to further distrust from the other person as well as an inability to communicate and truely fix the problem.
Comunicate- There isn't going to be any way you can put a bandaid on this situation. In order to fix it, your going to have to reprove your worth, which means dealing with her lack of trust for you over a LONG period of time. Be willing to call her if your going to be late from a night out with the boys, be willing to give up your passwords to your email accounts. I know its hard to completely let go of your personal identity and let her in to every aspect of your world, but that is what it will take for them to trust. As well don't give her reasons not to trust you. If you say that your going to be home by 11...then be home by 11.
Understand In situations like this emotions will run deep and strong. By your actions you've torn away a piece of their heart and that scar, like any other, can last for the rest of their life. That doesn't mean you can't salvage the relationship. Remember earlier how I said that normally cheating is a sign of something lacking, or wrong in the current one...did you figure out why you cheated? Once emotions have died down...talk it out. Explain to them that there is no excuse for your actions and that Cheating was a bad solution to a serious problem. Explain to them what aspects of the relationship your not happy with and see about counsleing. Obviously anything you try might now work, and if the descision is made that it can't be fixed...then walk away. Staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons is just as hurtful to both parties as cheating.
Cut off communication- I know your probably saying, 'but Mrs Compton you just told us to communicate!' here is what I mean. Obviously your partner isn't the only one involved in this now that you've cheated. You've taken an outsider into it as well. The person you cheated with. You need to contact this person, under the supervision of your partner, and explain to them that your actions were wrong. If you wish you stick it out with your partner that is...and cut off all ties to the 'lover'. The hard part to this is often times, the 'lover' is someone close to your life, a co-worker, a friend, the bartender at your local hang out...but you will have to find a way to maintian the professional relationship and ignore whatever feelings you have. Again this is only if your going to continue to try and make it work with your partner.
Patients Like I said, its going to take a long time for your partner to get over and work past the break of trust. Understand this...and communicate with them. Try counseling and if things don't improve or you both find you hold feelings of resentment towards the other then its best to cut your loses and split. Not all problems can be fixed in a relationship, and sometimes what you want, and whats healthiest for the both of you are two very different things.



Tips
Don't place blame, or try to justify your actions. Nothing but admitting fault and apologizing, and communicating about the problem will help the situation.



Warnings
Don't lose that whole patients things I wrote about. Like I said before IT WILL TAKE A LONG TIME and your partner will continue to hurt over your actions. Remember that when you feel like your partner is being a nag or invading your personal space.

Answer 8

You might need to examine what caused the "cheat" in the first place and then go from there. Does your guy pal want to repair things? If not walk away with your head high and learn from the experience so you don't make same mistake twice. Good Luck!

Answer 9

There are so many good answers from others here. I know from experience that I want to forgive, but I am so angry and don't really think I will ever get over it. I will never never trust him again. I absolutely am checking e-mails and checking up on him all the time and I am resenting him that I have to. I don't know if it's worth it. It's up to you. Good luck.

Answer 10

dont let these ppl tell you there is no hope..... believe me I know there is..... married 30 yrs here and been thru and seen it all..... we made it thru the fire !!! it takes hard work, understanding, compasion, patience and LOTS of prayer and thought..... if you are the one who cheated you have the most work to do, you have to prove urself worthy of the love and trust again... YOU have to be understanding about the grieving process the other has to go thru, they lost the inocent love and trust..... if your the one cheated on, all you have to do is decide if the relationship is worth saving..... that simple...... if decided that it is, there are boundries you can not cross, so either decide to work on it or forget it........ the choice is up to you !!!! God bless

Answer 11

It's a rare person who could ever trust you. However, it happens! I know men who have been married, had affairs that resulted in bastard children and their wives still forgave them to remain and save the marriage. Takes a very strong women to do that.