i am in a relationship for 10 years but it is a dead end. he does not want to get married nor cares about anything regarding my 2 children..he claims he care because he take them out to do stuff with us but for there graduation he stated that they are not his kids therefore he was not going...he talk to me like i am nothing ..he could be a sweetheart but i can not count on him for nothing ..not even a galon of milk...he lives with his mother and i live in my own place. i love him but how can i get over him and move on. he is in control . i am always giving in and he knows he could get me when ever he wants without commitment...is it that i am used to being with him or do i love him...i need to move on but he works with me too.so i see him at work everyday.
2006-09-26 17:18:49 · 11 answers · asked by Alexis i. Dupont 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is only in control because you allow him to be.
You are right though, it definitely sounds like a dead end relationship and you need to move on with your life.
You won't be able to do it until you believe that you deserve better. I don't think it is love. I feel you may have some self esteem issues. The only way I know of to work on that is to evaluate your life and see where you can make improvements. You will do better for yourself when you can put yourself in a position where you don't need to depend on anyone else for your happiness or a gallon of milk.
Maybe you can find a better job, this will help with your income and your ability to stay away from the bad guy.
Maybe you can go back to college, it is a rough road but you probably qualify for financial aid. This is how I improved myself and I am glad I did it. (I was also a single mother when I went back)
You can't expect anything to get better if you keep doing the same thing over and over again.
Good Luck!
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To who said this "
A man like that doesn't care for you but I have a feeling you are going to stay with him anyways. I think you like it."
Do everyone a favor and quit giving advice. NOBODY likes being treated poorly. Sometimes they just don't know what exactly to do or they don't think they can. You are very insensitive!
2006-09-26 17:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read the first two sentences and just thought that I would say NO WAY. Ditch the looser and take care of your kids. And for those times when you get lonely, Take matters into your own hands. And for gods sake find another JOB
2006-09-27 00:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by SUPERSTAR X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON!!everytime people ask questions like this it's for a reason,of course you have feelings for himlook how long you let it go on,all your really looking for is for a bunch of people you don't know telling you what you want to hear to make you feel better.you are here for a reason so don't look back,follow your heart it won't do you wrong!!!good luck
2006-09-27 00:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this is harsh but you are being a victim and you need to stop. Get your life going all on your own until the point where you are happy with it, then see where he fits. Until then don't even think about him.
2006-09-27 00:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think more of yourself than that. Your only falling backwards. Pickup and move on, the grass is always greener on the other side.
2006-09-27 00:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by Takeniteasy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i couldn't even read the rest of this because the fact that he doesn't want to claim your children or help you with your children then you need to really think about this. You are a mother so whatever decisions you make affect your children too. please please please be careful of this man because his actions will affect your children's emotional state. do what you have to do for your well being and your children. good luck!
2006-09-27 00:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to YOU and You ALONE who controls you. He will be in controll untill YOU take controll of your own life. Decide what you want for yourself and your children....If he' isn't it, let him go.
2006-09-27 00:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by laurie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man like that doesn't care for you but I have a feeling you are going to stay with him anyways. I think you like it.
2006-09-27 00:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy Mary 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to get on with your life. He is "ex" for good reasons.
2006-09-27 00:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't he an ex for a reason????
2006-09-27 00:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Presley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋